*sigh* advice anyone?

Well, see, I have this boyfriend... and he's a really great guy. I love him a lot. He's sweet, smart, funny... and the sex is amazing.

There's only one problem. He's straight-edge. He would never even try pot.

A couple months ago, he told me how much it really bothered me that I smoked... so I said I would quit... and I did... for a while.

I even sold all my paraphanelia and shit. I was totally done.

But you see, my mom does it... as do most of my friends... and... I have a lot of back problems... and pot is pretty much the only thing that helps me.

I know I'm not addicted. I can go without it. I'd just really rather not. It's a part of who I am...

So I've been smoking behind his back... and I feel terrible. I know I need to tell him... but I don't want to upset him... or worse... lose him.

*sigh* I'm a horrible person. Karma's going to bite me in the ass soon.

 

you should tell him the facts about pot.
Give him some brownies
and if you have back problems and pot helps thats enough reason right there.

 

the problem is with him, he should be able to accept you for who you are.

 

You shouldent change youself for anyone. I mean why the hell does he care. I mean i can kindda understand if your always high around him, but it sounds like thats not the case.

 

My stance on issues ive had like this in the past is that if someone truley loves you they will love you for who you are, and you even said yourself smoking is part of who you are....if i ever met someone that told me in order to date them i couldnt smoke, id tell them that i was smoking before they ever even came around so they can deal with it or dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out...

 

Well, the thing is... he never told me to quit. I said I would on my own volition.

Now I don't know what to do. I either have to tell him I've been doing it... or lie and say I want to start back up again.

 

Just tell him that you really enjoy it and that it helps your back. Your going to start doing it once in a while again, but promise you wont be high with him around.

 

I would tell him that you felt like smoking again and explain how you feel about pot. Just talk to the guy, if he seems to have a problem with it, go from there.
If I was in the situation, if I was in a relationship with someone who I really loved and they had a problem with me smoking pot, I would not, but that's because pot is not important to me at all and I rarely smoke anyways.

 

sounds like you should lose the Xer

 

period. if he breaks up with you, hes not worth you. you need to love yourself before someone else

 

Yes he should love you for you are but at the same time you have to respect his opinions and beliefs. There is no flaw in his character because he doesnt socially accept weed the way you do. I would just tell him that you are still going to use it, just not in his presence. If he can't handle that then I guess you can leave him, but you have to ask yourself what you love more, weed or him.

 

I definitely love him more.

 

be honest with him. tell him that you quit, but it was too much pain in your back and for you prescription meds are not an option. tell him you won't do it around him, but you are miserable without it. He might not be willing to bend, but you should give him the chance to understand.

 

^^ i like that

 

give him a fair trade..

you get pot..he still will get sex
you don't get pot..he won't get sex

sex is bad for your back (some atleast lol) but pot helps you with your back..its perfect balance

 

If he breaks up with you for something you do rather than for who you are then he doesn't deserve you!

 

The truth is always... meh, not going to lie. It's not always the best route to travel, but I think in this case it is. Just tell him straight up. If he doesn't like it, it's not you who has a problem, it's both of you. He needs to accept that and if he can't, then tough shit.

 

Tell him to stop being a pussy and smoke

 

:agree:

 

I was in the exact same scenario as you, only it was my girlfriend who did not like smoking. These are the actions I made and the following consequences:

Before going out I had never smoked weed because my brother really screwed up his life with drugs. I thought that the same thing would happen to me.

I met her and we dated for about 7 months, and then we got in a huge fight and broke up. That night I went out with some friends and tried marajuana for the first time; I loved it.

Well, my girlfriend and I got back together shortly thereafter, and I told her about how I liked to smoke. She didnt like it but she said that I can do whatever I want.

By "do whatever you want" she really meant do what I felt was the most important. I really loved her, but I loved weed too. I quit for several months, but then I started up again. I decided that the only way I could have her and my weed was to hide it from her...

Lets just say that really hurt our relationship. You cannot expect to hide something like that from someone, and that they wont find out. He will find out if you try to hide it, and the fact that you hid it from him will hurt him a lot more than the fact that you smoke.

Dont try to get him to smoke, try to get him to understand he is very important to you, and you dont want to hurt him by smoking, but it is something that is a part of you.

At first he may not react like how you hoped, since obviously he does not like the idea of you smoking, but really it is his decision not yours. He should be asking himself "do I love this girl enough to look past things that bother me about her?"

If the answer is yes then you two are meant for each other, if the answer is no, you should have no regrets, as this situation happens in every relationship. The situation might not always be about weed, but still it is bound to happen.

Sorry if I typed a few senteces poorly I'm running late for class

Good luck!