*sigh* advice anyone?

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  1. tree_hugger

    tree_hugger Member

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    Well, see, I have this boyfriend... and he's a really great guy. I love him a lot. He's sweet, smart, funny... and the sex is amazing.

    There's only one problem. He's straight-edge. He would never even try pot.

    A couple months ago, he told me how much it really bothered me that I smoked... so I said I would quit... and I did... for a while.

    I even sold all my paraphanelia and shit. I was totally done.

    But you see, my mom does it... as do most of my friends... and... I have a lot of back problems... and pot is pretty much the only thing that helps me.

    I know I'm not addicted. I can go without it. I'd just really rather not. It's a part of who I am...

    So I've been smoking behind his back... and I feel terrible. I know I need to tell him... but I don't want to upset him... or worse... lose him.

    *sigh* I'm a horrible person. Karma's going to bite me in the ass soon.
     
  2. dewy191

    dewy191 Member

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    you should tell him the facts about pot.
    Give him some brownies :D
    and if you have back problems and pot helps thats enough reason right there.
     
  3. young_deadhead

    young_deadhead I Love Lucy

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    the problem is with him, he should be able to accept you for who you are.
     
  4. jusdino4it

    jusdino4it DR. Lifetime Supporter

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    You shouldent change youself for anyone. I mean why the hell does he care. I mean i can kindda understand if your always high around him, but it sounds like thats not the case.
     
  5. THCsetmefree

    THCsetmefree Member

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    My stance on issues ive had like this in the past is that if someone truley loves you they will love you for who you are, and you even said yourself smoking is part of who you are....if i ever met someone that told me in order to date them i couldnt smoke, id tell them that i was smoking before they ever even came around so they can deal with it or dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out...
     
  6. tree_hugger

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    Well, the thing is... he never told me to quit. I said I would on my own volition.

    Now I don't know what to do. I either have to tell him I've been doing it... or lie and say I want to start back up again.
     
  7. jusdino4it

    jusdino4it DR. Lifetime Supporter

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    Just tell him that you really enjoy it and that it helps your back. Your going to start doing it once in a while again, but promise you wont be high with him around.
     
  8. Autentique

    Autentique wonderfabulastic

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    I would tell him that you felt like smoking again and explain how you feel about pot. Just talk to the guy, if he seems to have a problem with it, go from there.
    If I was in the situation, if I was in a relationship with someone who I really loved and they had a problem with me smoking pot, I would not, but that's because pot is not important to me at all and I rarely smoke anyways.
     
  9. 420hipman

    420hipman Member

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    sounds like you should lose the Xer
     
  10. makesmomcry420

    makesmomcry420 shlimazl

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    period. if he breaks up with you, hes not worth you. you need to love yourself before someone else
     
  11. PharmaPhunk

    PharmaPhunk Banned

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    Yes he should love you for you are but at the same time you have to respect his opinions and beliefs. There is no flaw in his character because he doesnt socially accept weed the way you do. I would just tell him that you are still going to use it, just not in his presence. If he can't handle that then I guess you can leave him, but you have to ask yourself what you love more, weed or him.
     
  12. tree_hugger

    tree_hugger Member

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    I definitely love him more.
     
  13. Mother's Love

    Mother's Love Generalist

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    be honest with him. tell him that you quit, but it was too much pain in your back and for you prescription meds are not an option. tell him you won't do it around him, but you are miserable without it. He might not be willing to bend, but you should give him the chance to understand.
     
  14. makesmomcry420

    makesmomcry420 shlimazl

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    ^^ i like that
     
  15. amdoch

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    give him a fair trade..

    you get pot..he still will get sex
    you don't get pot..he won't get sex :p

    sex is bad for your back (some atleast lol) but pot helps you with your back..its perfect balance
     
  16. Tommy1The1Cat

    Tommy1The1Cat Senior Member

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    If he breaks up with you for something you do rather than for who you are then he doesn't deserve you!
     
  17. Astrofabrical

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    The truth is always... meh, not going to lie. It's not always the best route to travel, but I think in this case it is. Just tell him straight up. If he doesn't like it, it's not you who has a problem, it's both of you. He needs to accept that and if he can't, then tough shit.
     
  18. Splosh

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    Tell him to stop being a pussy and smoke
     
  19. BudBill

    BudBill Dark Helmet

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    :agree:
     
  20. sandbar*pain

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    I was in the exact same scenario as you, only it was my girlfriend who did not like smoking. These are the actions I made and the following consequences:

    Before going out I had never smoked weed because my brother really screwed up his life with drugs. I thought that the same thing would happen to me.

    I met her and we dated for about 7 months, and then we got in a huge fight and broke up. That night I went out with some friends and tried marajuana for the first time; I loved it.

    Well, my girlfriend and I got back together shortly thereafter, and I told her about how I liked to smoke. She didnt like it but she said that I can do whatever I want.

    By "do whatever you want" she really meant do what I felt was the most important. I really loved her, but I loved weed too. I quit for several months, but then I started up again. I decided that the only way I could have her and my weed was to hide it from her...

    Lets just say that really hurt our relationship. You cannot expect to hide something like that from someone, and that they wont find out. He will find out if you try to hide it, and the fact that you hid it from him will hurt him a lot more than the fact that you smoke.

    Dont try to get him to smoke, try to get him to understand he is very important to you, and you dont want to hurt him by smoking, but it is something that is a part of you.

    At first he may not react like how you hoped, since obviously he does not like the idea of you smoking, but really it is his decision not yours. He should be asking himself "do I love this girl enough to look past things that bother me about her?"

    If the answer is yes then you two are meant for each other, if the answer is no, you should have no regrets, as this situation happens in every relationship. The situation might not always be about weed, but still it is bound to happen.

    Sorry if I typed a few senteces poorly I'm running late for class :p

    Good luck!
     

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