i live in a fairly strong christian home and have been brought up to believe in God and to live by the word of the bible... i however, believe in a more 'self-help' spiritual life and the word 'God' has different meaning to me. my family, particularly my parents, disapprove of my lifestyle and are pretty violent towards me because of it. I am 16, and am holding onto my optimistic light to stay true to myself and to not be manipulated by my parents.. i have calmly explained to them what and why i believe in (myself) and.. they generally have a sarcastic sense of humour towards it. i do love my parents.. but it is hurting me. i feel to need to break away from them so i can continue on with my spiritual journey.. but i do not want to leave on a burnt bridge. I consider moving out very often, and do plan to do so by the time i am 18. I ask, are there others out there whose parents disapproved of their living and, how did you go about with that? I'm trying to find a balance here because, i am not going to not be myself to please them because, i am not responsible for their happiness.. and i want to be happy in my life, i want to be expressive of myself instead of feeling as though i have to hold back due to the fear of how my parents will react .. and fear is something i'm diminishing from my life. i feel i should move out, and just be who i am.. be my being - and i know that i'm going to have to face some pretty violent consequences because of that. what to do.. what to do.. in this pickle!
Ok , First , no matter what is going on , DONT fight or argue with your parents , all that will do is make you look like a hypocrite , and give them more ammunition against you and what you claim your beliefs are. Second , you are too young to move out on your own , the world is a different place now and its in no way safe for young people to be on their own. This is good training for you in how to deal with people and stand up GENTLY for what you believe in , and it will only be for a few more years , your parents wont be the only people you will find that have a problem with the way you choose to see the world around you. Always be loving and gentle and calm and TALK...always talk to them , reason with them , and soon , when they see that your views have a positive outcome on your nature , they will ease off. They love you , and they care , or else they wouldnt even give a thought to your moral code.
Years ago my family was in a lot of conflict over what I wanted to do as opposed to what they wanted me to do. I left at an even earlier age than you but, you know something I made my life harder for me than I had to. You are still very young. You have your whole life ahead of you. I hope you will stay put and be open to what your parents are trying to teach you. Jesus said: "Love Your Enemy" As far as the violence goes I think you do need some outside help with that. I do not know if your parents have always been violent or if your "self help" stance is scaring your parents so much that they feel they can only reach you with violence. Either way you need help with this. Go to their Minister or Pastor and ask for help. Ministers are pretty good counselors usually and most are experienced with family problems. Believe me if you run from this now you will find other people to "help" you look at these same issues. I grew up in violence and abuse and that is the reason I left but I found people who put my family issues right back on the table and it took me years to work it out. The Lord does not make people be violent with their children. The "rod" that the shepard used was not to beat the sheep with it is used to keep the sheep from falling off the sides of mountains. I have heard the: spare the rod and spoil the child, verse but again the "rod" is used to guide the child not beat them. Good luck and take good care.
I agree somewhat with the above. But, this is one strong reason why I turned from organized religion so long ago and just became "spiritual" and found my place in this universe. The reason is: "Hypocritical so called "christians" that cannot seem to get it. There are good ones, that are true and not so good ones, who are not. You represent freedom to them. Stay strong, and yes, be gentle. Do not become what they are. Your inner light and spirituality is always yours, no matter what. Keep it shining. Leave when legal age. Stay in school, and it will come to pass and you will be free. You need to be able to support yourself. Be strong.
hey, i share some of the same beliefs as you do, i was raised in a catholic family....and ever since i was little i have had my own ideas of life and death and god and just everything that dealt with catholicism...and i did not feel part of it...yeah i thought i was alone in life without nowhere to go...but i leaned now ever since i joined this forum that i am not the only one....and your parents dont have to know everything about you do they ?? you have your own privacy....i did tell my parents, they got angry...but they got over it..it is my business what i believe in not theirs...so just make yourself happy dont try to please anybody...you would feel a lot better inside...peace
Hey Liberer sure there are others who have been in same situation as you. And are also gonna be as long as there are those who talk that bullshit about bible. But hey, sure you can move out. You dont have to do it whit ruff way, like burning bridges behind you, you can also do it on soft way like going styding in other city or other country even. Everything is possible. I left home when I was 15y, and from same reason as you. My dad was beating me and my mom, so I thought its better that I go. And it worked just fine. Religion plls reasons are those that they wanna kill your spirit and put they own thruths in your head. Find your own way in this world and start walking. I have trust in you that you can make it. But, be carefull out there.:seeya:
