smoking dialema

I was thinking of puting this in relationships, but i figured you guys would probably have better advice:

This girl i've been dating a couple times just caught me smoking for the first time. i'm pretty sure she didn't even know i smoked. and this girl is so innocent too, she's never even drank before. I donno what she's thinkin.

i guess i'm gonna have to have a talk with her or something

 

" i guess i'm gonna have to have a talk with her or something"

Ding ding ding!!! We have a winner.

Communication is the key. Talk to her about it. Don't judge her for her position. Explain your position. Be clear about compromises/concessions that you are willing to make for the relationship. Don't promise outlandish things because you probably won't hold to them.

See if you can come to an understanding. If not, it wasn't meant to be, which isn't such a big deal after a couple of dates.

 

I think the first thing to mention would be that marijuana is less addictive and less damaging to the brain than alcohol.

 

Just be honest with her and let her tell you how she feels then go from there.

 

i thought this thread was titled "smoking dirreha"
shit my brain is fried

 

i don't think you should force any views on her.. i would just tell her that you smoke marijuana.. you like doing so and have done so for awhile.. thats who you are.. and it doesn't interfere with your life.. if she has a problem with it.. tell her she can research.. point her twords resources... and that you believe in what you do and that she should not judge you based on what she does not know

 

Forcing views on anyone in any situation about anything is never a good idea.
Just do what joker said.....

I have an x that tried to make me quit smoking when we first got together i told him no educated him about it and he ended up smoking...
He tried to be a stoner but wasn't....

 

Just do what you normally do.

 

well i'll see what her postition is, and i'll probably end up comprimising. just cuz.

 

if by compromising you mean not smoking around her.. i wouldnt consider that "compromising" i would call it respectful

 

yea, i'm having a similar dillemia! the girl i've been seeing lately and i want to be with for a while is SUPER innocent like really... and she dosn't know that i smoke she hasn't asked me about but we have talked about marijuana (b/c her bro is a great guy/stoner who i love to hang with) but i feel like i betray her when i smoke but a) i dont wanna quit and b) i'm afraid if i tell her she'll see me differently or think that i'm always stonned and shit.. ADVICE (sorry to threadjack)

 

Good point.

 

The way I see it if the girl is THAT important then you should respect her and atleast not do it around her or trying to get her to do it.. And if she feels the same way as long as your not being stupid endangering her/yourself she should respect you in not trying to force you to stop

 

i wouldn't promise to stop or cutback unless you are really gonna

like yea, maybe don't smoke around her, but if you hang out a lot, it'll be hard to not at least be a little high from earlier sometimes

tell her you don't care if she doesn't smoke (if that's what you think)

 

its not crack

 

lol

 

what would she think of your use of psychedelics, greg?

 

ummmm.....i donno
she doesn't really know about that, and I don't really do them around her. looks like i'm gonna have to have another talk lol.

she just doesn't like that i smoke, cuz i also smoke cigs too.
but quitting is easy, i've already done it once before

 

so i felt i should add a conclution to this: it was kinda wierd cuz i didn't know what she thought about it, but she basically said a) she doesn't like the smell, but other than that she was alright with me doing it, just not around her.

 

That's legit!! I'm sure you can handle not smoking only when she's around.