So I have this bad habit..

Anyways I have this bad habit of getting crushes on my male, straight friends who as it happens, are usually married or already have girl friends, and worse the last two have been co-workers. Its happend a few times over the course of a few years now, and they usually end up still being my "friends" but everything is way different. I've never been openly gay, but anyone who knows me for very long seems to figure it out, apprently I'm more gay when I'm drunk or otherwise intoxicated.

I'm at a point where I realize I need to find other gay people to hang out with, so here I am at this forum. What is good place to meet some guys? all that I can really think of a is a gay bar I guess, where i'd have to go by myself because I don't have any gay friends.

 

I seem to attract them! (I'm a straight female lol) of course only as friends. I meet the most gay men at dog shows (HUGE gay population there) and cat shows (even more!) and, oddly, most of the sign language interpretors who translate for the deaf students at my college (and other colleges I have vistered) that I know are gay. Not that I think you should go learn sign language or start showing dogs to find a man, but I think really they are everywhere, it's just a matter of finding the right setting. My town is pretty gay friendly, and we're everywhere. I'd probably check out a few gay bars. You wouldn't be the first to go alone and if you don't like one, leave and try another. The internet has always worked for me, too (for gay friends, etc- I NEVER go online to look for sex).

 

I nervously attended my school's Gay Straight Alliance. That was really good. I also happened to make friends with some cool straight guys that were so cool that we'd all go to a gayish bar in town and hook up with guys and girls 'cause that's the place to do it.
Doing it through school was good because then everyone was pretty normal and in it to be friends. So then you are in the 'community'. So then you meet all their friends. And that's it.

 

i strongly recommend gaydar it is good start. And gay bars Nothing to be afraid of, ppl dont bait in gay bars

 

First thing you want to do is to leave your str8 friends to their girlfriends.

You are wasting your time, energy and even money for drinks around those dudes, and all that for some serious rejection and a small boost to your str8 friends' egos.

You know very well, that there is little for you coming out of such deals.

Hit a few web-based gay dating sites; do you Facebook thing, hit the local Craig's List, etc.. Give it a try with your local LGTB people and hit a bar or two, too. Go, look around, observe and learn.

Hook up only once you feel comfortable with it.

Get going and get yourself your own life.

KD