So I saw my ex yesterday...

... and shame on me.

He's still incredibly.... argh..

Me and my boyfriend were at their concert and then I wrote him a message that they were pretty brilliant and ... turns out... we were chatting for two hours and he was flirting with me as never.. and said when he'll write me when he's in Prague (that's where I study..) so we could have a drink...

*but I told him I was in a relationship and I love my bf and don't wanna cheat on him but still..

Argh...

Sorry.

 

go have a drink with him unless you think hes trying to get you for a date. theres nothing wrong with going out for a drink

 

why did you split up in the first place?

 

If you didn't want anything from him you wouldn't have sent him a message. So obviously you still like him.

 

my thoughts, as well.

sounds like you have feelings for him. sounds like you want it to be a date, but don't want to admit it.

but depending on what the relationship was like, why you broke up, and how things are now, it might be a bad idea.

if you do decide to see him, perhaps drinking isn't the best pass time, if you want nothing to happen.

 

Actually...? I don't know. He was all the time on tour and I felt like it had no chance to last longer.. that's probably why... but he was my first real love and yesterday I found out how much I missed him... I haven't seen him for two years and yesterday it felt like it was just a few days since we broke up...

 

my bf told me to send him a message but .. yeah... I'm still interested in him, that's true. But I'm not sure about it at all..

 

well if you didnt break up because of fighting or bad feelings of any sort, it might not be a bad idea if you want to be with him. but you have your current boyfriend to consider.

do you really love him? would you miss him like this if you no longer were together?

 

Not sure... But as I said, I love my bf but... ain't 20 years to early to settle down?

 

Did you tell your boyfriend you're going for drinks with him?

 

Yes. And he said "why not, enjoy"

 

Ooooh....So you want 2 guys, eh ? I don't blame ya

 

But I blame myself... I never understood those who could cheat on their partner, but... well maybe he wasn't flirting but was just nice..

 

Or maybe your current boyfriend was just testing you when he told you to send your ex bf a message. And you fell for it. And then he told you to meet that guy and have fun...And you were suppose to say : Nah.....
But you didn't.

 

I don't think so, he's still fine with it.. First I thought the same, just when he told me if I wanted to go to see them, I was like "you're kidding? or is that some kind of a test or something...?" but he still doesn't mind it, he says he believes me...

 

if he didn't trust you, would he be worth the emotional investment?

i'd have no issues with a gf seeing an ex socially in a nonromantic context, assuming we had a close, trusting relationship.

but if i found out something was up, i'd leave her.

sometimes a relationship doesnt work out, but you can preserve a friendship, and friendships are important, too. so i dont see an issue with it.

 

and here comes an eternal question: Can a man and a woman be friends? I believe they can. But can I and he be friends (with no "wicked thoughts")? No.

I do not say I want him back (even though..) or want to have "something more" with him (even though again..)

 

Only if said man and said girl both are dating someone.

Otherwise there is an underlying sense of sexual tension, no matter how small, it is there.

 

of course they can, and most of my best friends have been female throughout the years. i'm not saying i wouldnt have liked to sleep with some of them from time to time, but whatever, thats innocent enough. the big thing is if you have other commitments to someone else being able to control yourself. so you like him. you want to fuck him. but you want also to be friends, i think? well, you can put friendship first, and later, if it doesnt work out with you current boyfriend, then this guy may still be a possibility.

but i'd say don't cheat....its not fair to your boyfriend. i don't know. its one thing to want to sleep with your ex again, but if you think you wouldn't have the self control to not sleep with him, it isnt worth going out for drinks, imo

 

thanks for your opinion.. I'll see. I don't even know when he'll be in Prague, anyways.. and if he writes "i'll be there on.." I'll decide. But I know I will want to see him again.