So it's going in my butt again

It's my partner's birthday this weekend and he knows on special occasions he gets his treats, so Anal is on the cards. I enjoy Anal Sex and have experienced Anal several times but I've not been that adventurous with positions so was after some hints and advice.

I've tried the common positions like Spooning and Missionary, Missionary with my legs over his shoulders. I've also done Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl which are ok, but Doggy I couldn't get into, it was too deep and insertion feels uncomfortable. Also tried Bent Spoon but I was very drunk and needed the drink because it's far too deep and I didn't like not having any control.


So.....


Does anybody know any pleasurable positions for Anal and any advice/guides on doing them? Bare in mind I enjoy Anal but still class myself as an amateur.

 

Just keep trying different ones and you'll find something that works. Everyone is different. My wife likes doggy style the best and so do I. Her and I like it when I'm deep in her ass and into her colon. That's what might be uncomfortable for you since you said doggy made it too deep. He's past the anus at that point and getting into part two so to speak

 

Do you have a butt plug or dildo or vibrator you can use in your asshole?
Anal was difficult for my lady till I got her anal toys. She started using them while masterbating getting use to anal maybe that will help you?
Do you have good lube?
For your inner spinchter to relax you REALLY have to want his dick up your ass.

If depth is your problem maybe he is touching your rectal valve. Maybe it just tajes mire practice.My lady loves it when I hit her rectal valve.

If you remember vaginal wasn't comfortable in the beginning.

 

Yeah I own a Plug that I will use when warming up to Anal. I've done Anal several times now i know how to relax and I use plenty of lube (currently have an AnnSummers brand called Booty)


I've felt him really deep in me before and I'm ok with (and like the feeling of) him deep in my Ass aslong as I'm pushing back on him just to feel the pressure pushing inside me, the thing I don't like about Doggy is the movement, it's ok when his in, it's just the pulling back and penetrating again that feels uncomfortable during Doggy? It's strange because it's ok when we're Spooning or I'm on top?


I've been asked to try Standing Doggy as this may feel better, because he is talker than me when standing the angle will be sinking into me, rather than on my hands and knees and us being a similar hight, so the angle of his penis would be entering me more vertically...


Does that make sense?

 

You can try all sorts of different positions, but it'll still be uncomfortable for you if you are only having your anus penetrated occasionally. More regular anal sex seems to help the muscles "remember". Once we started doing it a couple of times a week my gf found it became much easier for her.

But for what it's worth we find if she lies on her side, hugging her knees to her chest with me either behind or kneeling (perpendicular) quite comfortable.

 

I know you don't like doggy, but for me the ultimate is doggy with a Hitachi vibe on my pussy.

 

Oh yes the birthday treat . With experience you'll find that doggy will become more natural. My wife wasn't a fan of doggy years ago and it was something we had to work up to. You may find that doing a couple differnet positions first will help getting you ready for doggy. If you only have anal sex occasionally I'm sure your hubby will want to spend as much time back there as possible, I know I did when that was the case for me. BTW my wife can take the intial penetration doggy now. We have anal sex 2-3 time a week now. Have fun this weekend.

 

Thank you for the information (everyone not just the quote) I think I'm going to have a couple of drinks for some dutch courage, then take bigdaddyo's advice and try a few positions to warm up then give Doggy another go.


Been and brought some sexy underwear and my stockings, plus a livelly new dress so im ready for a special weekend.

 

Sounds like a birthday party worth attending for sure. I hope you have a great time.

 

My wife & I used to love doggy style anal. She would bend over the edge of the bed while I would stand on the floor behind her, sometimes with one leg up on the bed beside her.
She had this technique where she would reach back and squeeze my balls which really turned us both on.
She would use her little battery vibe called the Pocket Rocket on her clit until she came.
The past few years though we have gone to a more relaxing position - I guess we are just getting older and more sedate. She lies on her right side with her left leg drawn up and I sit and straddle her outstretched right leg while I put it in her butt. We can go for a really long time with this position. She now uses a Whal electric vibrator that she uses by reaching over her left thigh and applying it to her clit.
But just last week she wanted it doggy style for a few minutes just for old time's sake before assuming our regular position. She made me hold still while she moved back & forth emitting gutteral noises. She even gave my balls a squeeze!
Maybe you need to be more in control in order to enjoy doggy. Does your boyfriend follow directions easily? Have him go in with you directing his movements and you might be more comfortable.

 

Thank you this is really helpful, I'm going to give this a try. I will report back

 

Does your boyfriend follow directions easily? Have him go in with you directing his movements and you might be more comfortable.

cazza.... yes... mature men... are much better lovers.... Men need to take the Lead... but need to know how to take the lead and take instruction ... sometimes without it being said... ..... FEEL what she is saying without her saying it sometimes... But women also need to speak up and say what it is that they want, need and desire too...


damn sounds cliche.... sorry....

 

I agree with the post about doing anal frequently, my BF fucks me 2-3 times a week and I am quite used to it after many years. You already know about relaxing and lots of lube, just have him go easier at doggy style. It will get easier eventually, the first cock in my ass hurt like hell.

 

Yes, reserving anal only for those "special occasions" and it's always going to hurt a bit. Doing it only once in a while is rather like repeating the first time (or so she tells me).

 

I have only been having Anal every now and again, I'd say every 3 months or so and I do enjoy it but it does take a little bit of working up to. I guess that's because I only do it from time to time.

Its my partner's birthday on Friday and he has an obsession with Anal so its on the cards, I may have to start introducing Anal Sex to our Sex life a little more regular but I don't want it to turn into something we do every time we have Sex.

 

Why not if both of you enjoy it. I don't understand why you wouldn't want to do it if you enjoy it.

 

I do enjoy it, but it is something that you need to feel in the mood for. Maybe it is because I only do it occasionally? But i can usually tell if he is trying to hint his way into my Butt so it depends on my frame on mind at the time.

 

I can understand that.

 

Poor guy has an obsession with anal and only gets to satisfy it once every 3 months?

I get twitchy after 3 days. Still, not for everyone I suppose, and you've both got to be willing.

 

Haha what do you mean poor guy, I have to take a large hard object inside my butt, poor me.


He better appreciate the effort that has gone into tomorrow night, I've got some really sexy underwear, it's a nice bra and French knickers with stockings and some high heels, and a really cute little dress.
We're going out with some friends, have some drinks then on to our house for a birthday treat.