So not being tall is more of a turn off than overweight tall men?

All my gf's exs have been very tall but unattractive (heavy or really scrawny with very average faces) and selfish losers (the one lived off her and never paid for anything). I am very fit, and feel like I have a very nice face, my gf told me in the beginning she couldnt believe I hit on her, b/c I was the most attractive guy to ever talk to her. From seeing pics and meeting some exs that are in her group of friends, I can confirm this.

I think she is less attracted to me than she was to them b/c I'm average height 5'9". I've never thought my height was a problem but we've been having physical problems with her getting turned on, so now I'm concerned that this is an issue we can't fix. She is a big girl (5'10" 170lbs) and does not like it, she always went to very tall men to feel smaller, after I first talked to her and got her number, she had second thoughts about it b/c she never dated anyone my height.

Here's my points of concern:
she has a history of being very sexual and having a lot of desire to have sex

She would chase the man and throw herself at him

She has never had a problem getting wet before me

She would sleep with men very fast b/c she was curios about them (ie. turned on and was imagining what the sex was like)

But she told me, if I didn't come after her and work for it she wouldn't have been interested or thought about sleeping with me

(I'm not judging her history, cause mine is colorful too, but I'm looking at the pattern of how she usually acts, and her level of interest, and think it's a bad sign for us that her interest level seems a lot lower with me)

So is it likely that this is the issue we are having sexually and she doesn't value the type I am enough, so there is no fixing our problem? And before I get any answers saying just dominate her, thats what she is not picturing I can do, which is keeping her from getting turned on; I am the only fit, never mind most fit guy she has been with, I can pick her up, whirl and throw her around in ways she hasn't had before.

Very early on she told me her biggest fantasy was to have sex standing up, but could never do it cause she is to big. The next time we were in bed having sex I pulled her right up off the bed while we were entangled, and went right to a standing position, fantasy fufilled. I guess thats what's so frustrating I'm able to fufill her fantasies when other guys couldn't, but she still wanted them more.

 

yeah, that could be it.

or it could be something else.

 

If your problem is this shallow of an issue I think the problem is in vanity. It doesn't make sense that a perfectly fine relationship would be limited by someone's height. I'm like drumminmama, I'm only 5 feet tall and I've been with people under 5'5 probably, to over 6 feet. Never had a problem. Your problem isn't your height. If your partner is insecure over your height than her problem is not your height, her problem is insecurity. And if that is the problem, then it is a personal problem that she needs to solve, because you cannot fix that for her, and you definitely shouldn't compare yourself to her exes or expect similar desire when she is feeling so insecure it is affecting your sexual relationship.

 

btw, how long have you been together?

 

I'm 6' 3". My wife is 5'2". She definitely thinks my height is a turn on. I've only had 9 or 10 partners but most have been very short. That wasn't by design, it just happened that way.

We probably all have 'types' but that doesn't mean you couldn't fall in love with someone who wasn't your type. It is the person, not the body that we fall in love with and if you are in love with someone their height, body type, ethnicity, hair color, breast size, cock size, etc. is all irrelevant. If she can't get past your physical being then there is no hope for your relationship. If you are not in love with her I would end it to save more pain down the road.

 

It just sounds like u spend too much time comparing yourself to her exes. And all u said about her desire towards her exes doesn't sound objective. How do u even know that she used to be very sexual ? She could be lying about that, and if u heard it from her exes, they could definitely be lying about that.

I've been with a guy that was shorter than me (i'm 5'4), and i'll admit that it felt a lil unusual, but that never affected our sex life.

 

You sound full of yourself!

 

Dude you are 5'9 and you consider yourself attractive, don't stress. There are girls who wouldn't even consider a guy if he was 5'7 or shorter

 

People are fucking stupid and shallow when it comes to relationships. When are people going to learn that the way someone looks has nothing to do with how happy you will be together. Break the chains and free yourself. Hayseuss.

 

wow, and i thought women were the only ones who had brains wired to think up that kinda stuff. relax, she is still with you and not cheating (i assume) stop worrying

 

Personally, yes. Being short is more of a turn off than being overweight.

I am 5'8" and I doubt I would ever go for a guy shorter than me.