So self conscious!

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I know exactly how you feel. I'm always constantly moving my hands around wishing they had something productive to do. Self conciousness is such a bitch. I always think about what people think of me when they walk by me too, that's crazy. I guess the only thing you can do is start smoking cigarettes to have your hands busy and eat some xanax so you deffinitely arent nervous/paranoid bout anything.

 

I get mad self conscious, there are things that my brain tell me to do.
The cigarette. Smile. Keep your chin up. The sky is damn blue alright.

The only thing I can help myself with my paranoia and self-concious thought process is...well...pratice.

Put yourself out there and practice breathing.

Put on a pair of sunglasses.

Take your i-pod with you if things really start crawling in your head.

A close childhood friend of mine told me to always look people in the eye and stay positive.

You can't fall in love with other people unless you're in love with yourself.

There are a lot of people that don't understand why we get like this, but then again I don't project my insecurities at other people.

And the last thing you'd want to do is bring a negative vibe to your close friends.

 

Dude! That exact same thing happens to me. The thing that I do that often times draws more attention is when I start looking at people to make sure they're not staring at me... which usually just results in them staring at me just because I look so tense! Then on the other hand, if I'm dead tired from no sleep or if I'm deep in thought about something that matters, I could really care less about weather somebody's looking or not. I wish I could learn to be like that always. In either case, I feel you 100% on that one.

 

im the same dude

 

thought i was the only one

 

i was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. i didnt really like that diagnosis or the stigma of the label but i still underwent a few weeks of cognitive behaviour therapy where i learnt a few good tips to help me feel less anxious and less self-conscious.
quaismoto mentions some of them, like using your ipod to help you relax, as well as breathing techniques, and just generally trying to tell yourself theres nothing to be self-conscious about. it takes practice, but it helps. alot.
i would recommend that if anyone is finding their self-consciousness debilitating, like they cant go about their regular life or find they need alcohol or drugs to be in social situations and feel comfortable, that they try seeing a therapist. its very helpful.

 

very good advice, ethereal

 

that happens after iv done a lot of drugs
i sorta worry if im acting in a socially acceptable way

 

hehe yeah drug scatter doesnt help! i dont smoke pot pretty much cos the paranoia/social anxiety is waaaaaay to overbearing and full on.

 

i absolutely CAN'T go out in public when i'm high or drunk. it terrifies me almost to tears:/.
which, of course, draws lots of attention!LOL.

 

I seem to have this problem acutly.
Many moons ago i was heave Cannabis user. I used to love the stuff. then, one night i had an experience that changed the way the drug affected me. I have since not been able to behave like a normal person when using it. I boil it that this is mostly to do with fear of some kind.
Due to continuos drug use after the experince mentioned above i fucked my self up proper. It effected me even when sober.
i now have a few things to overcome...

The feeling of being watched, judged and ridiculed.
The Intence anxiaty i feel in certain social situations.
The odd behavour i exibit when in these situations.
Closing up, shutting down or being unnesisarly difensive to people.
Loosing my cool.
...and other such pain in the ass stuff.

It comes and goes and i'm able to get on with my life. i just wish i could put it to bed for once and for all. Self conciousness seems kinda pointless. but it happens

any one been through something similar? and if so how did you get through it.

 

Hi Everyone,

I have a girlfriend who is terribly self-conscious. Shes an incredibly attractive girl but she just wont accept it. She is constantly getting herself down over her appearance, claiming shes "fat" and "Ugly". Shes 16 years old and shes 7 1/2 stone, not exactly fat?!. At first i thought it was just a ploy for attention, but now ive realised the full brunt of it as she is getting more and more depressed. If someone knows how so reassure her i would be so grateful if you could help me, im desperate!

Thanks

 

Hey, i think the best way to reasure her is to sit down n have a long chat about it, ask why she thinks the things she does, and explain that she is very atractive (as im sure u have) and that even if she wasn't, what other people think is irelivant. Also explain that there are far more and important things to focus on/worry about in life and that worrying about something you can't change won't get you anywere.. basicaly just tell her outright the truth as straightforward as possible.

 

I am EXACTLY the same way dude!!! People always say just dont worry, or who cares what they think...Yeah that's true. But it's MUCH easier said than done!!

I always get so self conscious about my hair, the way I look, what they think about me, how they see me, my teeth (they are real REAL bad), and everything and my thought patterns completely change around all these people. If it's close friends or I'm drunk or high I can be myself,,,, but around others, we just.....can't??/

I'm 20 and I still can't figure out why i'm this way or HOW i got this way, and it's not alright w me.

I try a lil each day to change but I still havent seen any improvement.

I wish there was a magical pill ya know??

~PeAcE & LoVe~

 

good advice hun.

i think that we all have our moments of insecurity. but i think that sooner or later in life we will all realize that there is nothing to be shy about, and shyness gets you nowhere. obviously we cant change the way we are, but faking confidence is easier than it might sound. try it

there is this man i have been interested in for a long time. i think he is perfect in every way and i know him well enough to know that he is right for me. but he is painfully shy. shy to the extent where i think he is incapable of being in a realationship or initiating one. in his case i think it is hurting him. he is in a band and performs in front of tons of people yet he cant even make eye contact when he talks to someone. i want so badly for him to come around, or at least talk to him about it. i know he is interested in me, his roomates tell me all the time, yet he just wont make a move.

should i make a move?? this may be in the wrong forum sorry

 

^ Yes.

 

Fucking go for it. Ive been in that guys shoes and you making the move would make him so releaved believe me.

 

"Stand up tall, pretend you're strong in the hope that you can be....."

 

Yes!

Guys like that (me included) think they CANT get a girl like you or you wouldnt be interested, but believe me if you make the first move it shows us, HEY SHE LIKES ME It kills the tension and makes it easier to open up.

Believe me,,,, go for it

~PeAcE & LoVe~