exactly. it is so much easier to focus and think when not making eye contact. making eye contact feels forced and unnatural. and I like how you said drop everything and stare. exactly. it takes a lot of focus and mental relaxation to properly make a direct eye contact type conversation. yeah I hate how people consider it weird to look around during a conversation. to many people are brainwashed.
it is best when you aren't aware of eye contact+ + ...i do love lots of eye-contact though... but - sometimes it is real awkward,... what makes eye contact awkward?? is it your state of mind? is it your history and heavy past?? is it the possibilities in your heart??? ??