Something awful happined to me, when i was19!

At age 19 I was raped more than once, and I am trying to find people who understand and won't turnaway disturbed!

 

there are private forums online for talking about this sort of thing with others who understand. there are helplines you can call. there is most likely a women's services in your area that if they cannot help you, they can point you in the right direction.


It's only been two years, and you are ready to talk about it? That is a really good sign!! It means you are healing. The process is different for each woman, and sometimes it seems you go backwards instead of forwards, but you *are* making progress. For most, having a safe place to talk about it is all they need. For some, counselling is necessary before they can live with the memories of their past. Find a private online group or telephone hotline. The feelings that you need to express will not be understood by many, and you don't need anyone ragging on you or worse, blaming you for what happened. ((((HUGS))))

 

i agree with mamaboogie....you're definately taking a HUGE step by putting it out there. recognition of the events & your feelings about them is SUCH an important part of the healing process.....good luck to you sister! i'm sending love & *positive* energy your way & (((hugs))) as well

 

Aah thanks guys! It took a while to get up the courage to start this thread. Thanks for the advice.:sunglasse

 

i was 14......... i know how you feel

 

I have had a couple of scary close calls, had my friends not been there it could have been real bad. I am sorry that you had to expierence that horrible thing.

I am here if you need to talk or send me a private message. You are a strong woman & will overcome this with time, which looks to be on you side.

Keep you head up.

 

Make peace with your past, it is better to live in the present than relive the past over and over again.

 

:$ bull! healing from any sort of traumatic experience isn't that simple, and the process is different for each person. For me, I had to get really mad first in order to stop blaming myself for what happened. I had to think about it, talk about it, constantly, to get all the negative feelings from the past out of my system so I could experience any positive feelings in the present. I never did, and never intend to make peace with it, that for me would be giving in. It was so long ago (longer than your entire lifetime) that I no longer need to relive it, but it was necessary for me to not keep the events and feelings associated with them buried in order to heal from them. I had to let them surface, and as weird as it sounds, it took me over twelve years to be able to talk about certain things, to unbury the past and relive it in order to heal from it.

 

I gave it up before 19 so i avoided getting rape.

 

and that post is exactly why there are private forums to discuss these things, away from those people who don't understand and don't take it seriously.

 

Can someone please delete that post?

 

Any sort of traumatic experience? well, I beg to differ, anyway it does not matter, I apologize, there is no need to discuss what is the right thing to do now is, sometimes there is no right or wrong thing to do. The best thing however, is to do what needs to be done to get one through this now.

 

I don't get it?

 

? what don't you get?

 

you're now at a point where you can talk about it, unfortunately most who want to make stupid comments or suggestions have no right, since they haven't been there and have no way of comprehending your situation. there are many groups that can help you to get through the healing process. if you'd like some help finding a group in your area, i myself and i'm sure many others here will be glad to help you anyway we can.

 

I am not bothered by what he said. It actually amazes me.I like hearing other people opinion even if it hurts. Maybe a tiny bit. Thanks. Does anybody now names of sites I can go to? I need names.

 

No need. Read already. U're Sweet Heart!

 

My dad raped me almost 3 years ago now. The best advice I can give you is to see a counselor and take the meds they offer you until you can work through your issues...oh and keep your diginity. I went from only having one sexual partner to sleeping with god 3 or 4 men that next year because i felt worthless fromt he rape and that the only thing anyone wanted from me or the only way anyone would love me is if I slept with them. Be patient with yourself and if you find yourself in a relationship make sure the man is patient and is there to help you heal and is okay with you having weird sexual issues sometimes. I did not want to have sex for awhile afterwards and even now if something triggers a flash back i will freak out. Just be good to you and focus on yourself.

 

DON'T DO THE MEDS!!!!, it will screw you up and make you dependant on them, once you start it just becomes a situation of taking a pill to take a pill to take a pill! the side effects more than outway the benefits they claim. counseling, counseling, counseling! there are plenty of different counselors out there, find one that you click with and also find a group, the group situation will give you more options of communication.