Spontaneous kissing? Bad idea?

Is it a bad idea to randomly just give a girl a nice big kiss?

I'm getting frustrated, and I really, really like this girl... Not to mention I got this idea from a dream I had last night... Is it a good idea to just wait for the right moment, and dive in and kiss her, and hope for a billion sparks to fly and light a fire? (BTW, how do I know when the perfect moment comes?)
I'd rather never see this girl and just leave her alone oblivious to her existence/an amazing memory than to just be friends. It will kill me.
The girl I'm talking about is the most beautiful, funny, smart, wacky, nice person I've ever met that is in my age group and female. (I've met one person my age group, but a guy, and one or two outside of my age group, even remotely like this girl. If we weren't meant to be, I'm doomed to everlasting lonelyness, there just isn't enough crazy (but sane, as opposed to normal but insane) ones out there!) One in a billion, or even 100 billion. (I've been looking for this girl since the day I cared about girls!)

I also have one part to confess: I have never kissed a girl. (I'm 16... Moved around a lot in my teen years, and the past two, barely got to know any girls...)
So even if things don't go as planned, at least not all is lost...


Or is this just a very bad idea? If it is, I don't know how much longer I can hold! The last time I felt even remotely this way about a girl was years, and that wasn't close to THIS. I've been looking, and looking, now to find this girl. But, damn, I just can't describe my feelings in any way through words, only actions will suffice. If she doesn't feel sparks if we kiss, then, well, I guess it isn't meant to be or something, but, in the off chance that she does? Is it worth the risk? What is the risk? Will my stomach hold it? Uurgh.

 

Well if it was truly random you may be polarizing your proposed reactions. Either she will holler (horay!), or you're fucked.

I would probably suggest maybe a tiny but of prior awareness, but I do believe that if you like her this much, you should definitely should use this spontaneity positively and let her know. Self confidence makes or breaks the man, remember, just not to be over ambitious.

All in all, I tend to pretty much try and kiss anyone I am attracted to, like the rest of the world, so there's no need in not trying.

 

When I said at random, I meant that after a nice, long, great night. We get along great and she should be in a good mood after a while.
I am betting the chances are in my favour. Or I'm fucked...

Man, to hell with bullshit, I surf big waves, and there it is like go for it, do it right, and if you are lucky, you get the best wave ever, or, well, your fucked! If I can take those waves, then heck I'll take a slap in the face if it comes to that! At least after the slap I can say I kissed the most beautiful amazing smart funny cute wacky random girl I've met in my life.

How is it that big waves feels like a splash in a puddle all of a sudden...

Maby I should just follow my dream and kiss her. (I had I dream that we where embracing for 4 hours on end, and then I decided to go for it and kiss her.)
She is quite open with hugs so after a good, nice, long, hug...

Should I just go for it and hope for the best?
Why must something be this difficult?

 

300 people in this single board and only one person replies. Damn...

 

I just thought of a quite probable scenario if I consider my feelings at the moment...

What if I faint afterwords? Or end up not being able to talk afterwords, and only saying something like "glabbengooblegah, purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr." Or like it so much I don't stop and suffocate her...

Either one of these three can be disastrous. (The second one more embarrassing than anything else, but still!)

 

No one is obligated to respond to you. You aren't entitled to anything here so don't act like anyone owes you a response.

Take the advice you have gotten so far and be grateful someone has taken the time to help.

What are you, 15? If the mood is right and you are getting good signals, kiss her. I take it this would be your first kiss.

 

Close, just turned 16 a month and a half ago. And yes, this would be. Never got that far in a relationship before moving again. (Long story.)

Dude, I wasn't ungrateful, just shocked that in a forum with 45 people MAX on it, even the most pointless threads gets 10+ replies. No on a forum with 300 people, it's slow...
I just was kind of amazed at that! I would think with 300 people on here, I'd be flooded.

 

She might like you and still react negatively, don't you know?

Some girls like gradual shit. If there is no previous show of affection and then, BOOM! You kiss a girl, she might be taken aback. Or she'll find you super confident and want to have sex with you.

Or, maybe, she will notice how much you've invested in this single moment, hoping for a single result, putting all your eggs in one basket, pinning your entire emotional existence on something you have absolutely no control over, probably at the expense of other aspects in your life which you can genuinely control.

And maybe she'll react negatively because of that...

Or maybe she'll find that hot and you guys will end up in a nice co-dependent relationship, full of future arguments, and possible police involvement after 8 years.

Or maybe I'm jaded and jealous because I'm 32 and single and I can't bring myself to believe in Heaven. Maybe you guys WILL have a meaningful, rewarding relationship, lasting, if not forever, at least enough that you guys feel like you've shared your lives with one another.

So what would happen if, say, she doesn't like it that you kissed her??

 

Well, if she doesn't like, then, well, I'm screwed!

No previous sign of affection? Oh hell no. She knows I'm nuts about her and she does tend to hug me for quite a while... (Although I don't really want to let go, ever. Lol.)

The last time I was with her I had to keep in the urge to hug her and never stop, like CRAZY.

At the moment, I feel the risk is worth it. I'll just make sure to keep it short, and then see if she wants more... If I get a negative reaction, I'll just say: You are so nice and so adorable and smart and funny and and just plain perfect, I felt like if I didn't kiss you right now I'd have to go shoot myself so that I can meet God so that I can see someone almost as beautiful and amazing as you.

BTW She is studying drama, and has a ton of passion in her, so that will be seen as beautiful, not creepy.

 

Oh, I did think it was beautiful in spite of the fact I don't study drama.

Go for it, champ! I think you're in touch with something!

 

i say kiss her.

i randomly kiss heaps of girls after only chatin for a like 10-15 minits. i have never had a girl not like it, not once. but i guess i dont kiss them unless i have gauge the situatioon and i know they seem into it.
if were having good funny conversaton and i put my arm round her waist or somthing. give it a few minits talking, id just kiss her. then somtimes after a minit or somthing they will say somthing about it, and i laugh and say what! u kissed me.... and they love it.

 

thats so cute but from my point of view, i'd love it if a guy randomly kissed me. itd be cute. so, go for ittt

 

if your not sure, then go for the holding hands first, if she dosent punch you for tryin that, then you should be safe movin in for kiss.

 

Holding hands? ROFL!!! The very first day I met her I hugged her for like, 40 seconds or more. (Felt like an eternity though.)

Oh and I can see how some girls might just find that a little overboard... But I just say people have no passion in them.

And btw, your on a hippy forum, hippies are notorious for being as deep as the ocean, not like your average person who is as shallow as a glistening road after a light drizzle.

 

Dude, it just sounds like you need to go for it. Try and remember what it was like the first time you were surfing waves that felt way to big for you... big waves can kill you, being rejected by a girl only feels like it can kill you. From what you've said about your relationship with this girl you should be fine. At 16 you may think that this is THE girl, but in a few years you will realize that there are a lot of people out there. Just try and make the most of it, and don't let it hit you too hard if it doesn't work out.

 

She is THE girl for now at least! I'm not stupid you know, I know that probably if all goes well the relationship should hold, like, 6-7 months, if I'm lucky. If I'm REALLY lucky it lasts till I move to Cape Town. (Almost inevitable, the only question is when... Won't be any less than 6 months - a year though.) That way we can part on good terms, knowing that if we bump into each other some time around the fire might be rekindled, but if it doesn't it's perfect anyway.

 

All I ask is that you let us know what you choose to do and what happens.



Good luck!

When I was going through my divorce, I had a friend who was also going through a break up. He randomly kissed me. It was one of the most wonderful things that I've experienced.
He's a nice person, and, even though our lives only travelled down the same path for a short few months, his kiss is one of the best memories.

 

I'm gonna do it! I bet I'll regret it if I don't! Man, I don't care if she slaps me in the face, kissing her would be equal to kissing an angel! It sucks being 16 know you haven't experienced kissing... Damn, whatever the outcome... Infact, now that I think back, I actually vowed to myself once that I'd unexpectedly just kiss a girl. Not to mention the dream I a few nights back that actually gave me the idea to just do it!

Now, I just hope when the time comes I have the guts to actually do it... Maybe I should get a little high beforehand to calm me down a bit and lower the anxiety.
Actually, DAMN yea, get high, for that matter, get high with her! She hasn't smoked before, but she says she'd like to.

 

Really interesting thread, make sure to tell us the out come hope it all goes well!!!!!!!! good luck