Before i Strap Her i Need To Open Her Up A Bit Seeing As It Will Be Her 1st Time . Should i Only Do That With My Fingers Or Should i Use My Rabbit As Well ( Sex Toy That Goes Into The Vagina And Stimulates The Clit At The Same Time . Not An Actual Rabbit Lol ) I Have Been Thinking Fingers Only Jus Cuz i Want The 1st Penis Shaped Thing To Be My Strap And Not A Toy , But Then Again The Toy May Be A Good Idea Too . Any Suggestions ? Reason With Answers Please
I would go just with fingers, without any toys or such things. I think it's more intimate, and I suppose she'll be quite shy and nervous, since it's her first time, so bringing a toy (and it's a rabbit ) could increase the nervousness! But, it's only my opinion! You do what you think is best, or maybe you should prepare your toy and use it if you see that she's comfortable enough...
Don't use a strap on. There's nothing attractive about a chick going another chick with one. There's no rhythm, you're defeating the purpose of your sexuality, it's bogus and offensive. Use bullet vibes, simple one that don't look like a cock. Use your mouth and tongue, body language.. There's no reason to be having sex with fake organs your don't possess nor find attractive.
My gf loves my fingers. And i love using fingers too. It's more intimate really. I dont mind feeling tired by using fingers (tired as i am a bit overweight and constantly put pressure on her gspot by using fingers and go on top of her) because thats love not merely sex. I feel more confident when she feels pleased by my fingers. We both don't agree using toy because if we use it, that's no longer natural and seems not as much efforts as using fingers in our sex life.
Sorry, I disagree, but I also appreciate that each of us views sexuality through their own eyes. I, and all of the partners I've been with have enjoyed using a strap, but I do acknowledge there are others (I've never met one) who don't. In response to the initial question, you probably don't need to "open" her at all. Just choose a friendly sized dildo. There are no prizes for making her toes curl first off. penis size really is a male thing. We (gals) use straps as a sharing experience, not as an ego thing.
Cant agree more. And yeah, mouth and tongue too i think we girls enjoy the process more. My gf loves that i caress and kiss her body instead of focusing down there too soon (because it made me seem like i wanna end the session as soon as possible, which i did wrongly in the past). And i agreed that if getting a sex toy like a cock would be offensive not just towards gf but also the relationship. But yeah, it depends. good luck!
Well, I both agree and disagree. By using strap-ons we aren't praising the parts we are supposed to dislike. We're just satisfying our lovely women in a different way. The fact that I don't like the male genitalia/body isn't the only reason I'm gay, but it's one of them. Still, I don't mind penetrating or being penetrated with a strap-on. I find it hot to see my girlfriend pulling the harness out of that box of ours. We aren't trying to be men. We're only having fun and pleasing each other. Sex is a world full of surprises. Explore it! I don't like fake whole-packs though.. I mean, attached silicone testicles and that awkward penis with the throbbing veins and stuff. Makes me feel like a transgender. I prefer simple strap-ons that are designed to hit the right spots. Now, about your question. When I did my girl for the first time, I began teasing her with my tongue, then I gently fingered her (Middle and index), and when she felt comfortable, I slowly went in with my strap-on. You can try starting with a very thin and small strap-on. Then you can switch to a bigger size. Try to make sure it's well put on and stable so you have full control and do everything softly before thrusting. She probably isn't going to come the first time. But keep practising. Your stamina and technique will improve dramatically and she will be impressed Greetings, numberphile
