Taking someone back...or just let them go

I'll sum this up short...a few months ago my girlfriend cheated on me...we got back together...last week she said she needed a break. we didn't talk for 3 days. Then we started talking again and it was great. But over that course of 3 days she hooked up with someone else. I just feel that this Isn't right but she thinks im over reacting....I have such strong feelings that I dont want to let her go...but at the same time I feel like she practically cheated again.

 

set her down and talk. if she isnt going to be truthful with you and commit to a relationship then it might be best to let her go. by the looks of it she may cheat or ask for another few days off down the road and this could hurt you. i would get things strengthened out and find out where she stands.

 

do what your heart tells you to do. if you love her though, make sure the love is there for you in return

 

I'd leave her. If anyone cheated on me once let alone twice I wouldnt be sticking around. For her to hook up with someone else in the span of a three day break means there is something drastically wrong with the relationship.
That being said, the heart wants what the heart wants and there aint much you can do about that.

 

leave her shes mixed up and doesn't know what she wants. If she doesn't know what she wants thats going to get you mixed up.

be very cautious of how she approaches you!!

i'd be looking for someone new

 

This break thing in a relationship isn't something ok. Expect the worse when it is brought up.
And you have all the right to be angry. And hurt too I suppose...

 

You break up for 3 days and she hooks up with someone that quickly after already cheating on you once. This feels like a pattern behavior. My guess is that eventually she will cheat again and you may not know about it next time. Don't build on this relationship, she sucks, run like hell bro.

 

Oh im long gone.

Thanks everyone. I ended it. I wrote a really mean note...that made me feel better and still does, but I kinda regret it but whatev. I think this will be a good decision for me in the long run.

 

IMO you did the right thing .... but not the mean note. It's seldom a good thing to act while angry.



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Your hearts in the right place Troll, but if all he did was write her nasty note, which I imagine let her know how he felt about her total lack of respect...I'd say he didn't cross any lines and he handled it right. She more than had it coming and by doing this, he may have opened her eyes that some guys have a no tolerance policy and that pussy isn't the ultimate power in the universe. Perhaps going forward she may be less selfish in her relationships.
In any case I'm glad you walked away bigmann. Without a doubt it was the right thing.

 

once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater, walk away and don't look back!!

....easier said than done but in the long run you'll see it was for the best....don't get back in a relationship with her and have it happen again, you'll feel even worse the next time it happens- and it more than likely will happen again and you'll feel like a fool for it... TRUST me!

 

One and Done my friend. No second chances, IMHO, they never work and it will end..

 

I can understand how you would still want her back, i was once in that situation.

But for both your sake, let her go. That is a girl who doesnt know what the hell she wants. once shes grown up a bit, she will be begging for a guy like you. leave her to make her own mistakes, mistakes that you dont want to be involved in.

 

He left her at the curb folks.

 

about time someone listened to me ;-)

 

Yea I've gone 4 days strong without making contact with her. I'm proud of myself lol.

Haha of course!

 

Way to go! Keep it going dude.

 

Good job bro. You could waste your years on her and learn the hard way that she is cheater by nature and will do it again when your relationship enters the valleys that they do over time. It is smarter and easier on your emotions, not to mention better for your self esteem to walk away from chicks that display this behavior. Be careful though, these types will often say things like they have "learned their lesson" or "realized how they really feel about you" but its just words and I have personally tested the theory several times. Of course the same thing applies to men as well. It's just a common problem that we all encounter in relationships.

 

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I haven't read all the replys in this thread, and I hope I'm not the first to say that hooking up w/ someone new within 3 days is not a good sign. The fact that she's cheated on you in the past almost creates a pattern. Are you up for a 3rd incident?

I'd have to say that you'll be better off if you move on now...

But what do I know. I'm here cause I'm having trouble dealing w/ my marriage.:cheers2: