I'm 25 year old male and have suspected that I'm gay or bi for several years now. I feel like this is quite late in life to be coming to this realisation. Recently I feel like I've somewhat started to come to terms with the fact that I'm probably gay. I no longer find women sexually attractive and find my self checking out guys. For me this is scary and it's not something that I feel I'm comfortable with at all. I feel like I'm in a state of complete confusion. Not really knowing who I am or who/what I want. I realise as time goes on things will become clearer. I guess I'm asking for any advice or support from people who have been in a similar situation. I've just been living in the UK and they have a great Gay and lesbian counseling network established there. Unforunately tho I didn't manage to take advantage of. I've recently returned to Australia and am finding it slightly harder to find support resources. Its an interesting world and i guess you just need to go with the flow. The funny thing is I don't feel like I really care about what people would think of me, it's more a personal issue for me to feel comfortable with my self.
Dont worry....like you said...you have only just begun to recognize this in yourself....I promise...the more time that passes..the more comfortable you will become ....just dont try to rush things...let them happen in their own time . Take this time to get to know YOU better......
I agree with Erzebet. Most of us have experienced some kind of confusion like you're talking about. Also, don't worry about the age that you figure it out. I've heard of people over 40 or 50 that recognize for the first time that they're gay.
Yeah man no worries. Its good that youre willing to be open with yourself and admit the feelings. It is weird at first, when I first starting thinking I was gay, I was also weirded out. I had no problem with gays, and I didnt have a problem really with me being gay, but I was just so used to the idea that "guys kiss girls"...so the idea of me kissing and loving and having sex iwth a guy was such a strange thought. Then I tried it out with a guy for the first time, and I was really nevous beforehand,but afterwards I realized I had defintitely enjoyed it, and that I was into guys, not vaginas. Good luck! If you need any help or wahtever, you can always PM me.
