The Eye Phobia needs your help. I'm a Chinese boy born in 1983, no friends, no one understand me! In the year of 2000, I was suffering from a kind of mental problem called social phobia. Maybe to me we can call it eye phobia. I dodn't know why. I can't control my eye. I can't focus my eye before persons. I can't see a person normally especially before girls. So they may misunderstand me. Then I searched from net and learnt I'm suffering from kind of mental problem-- Social phobia. Eye phobia is a kind of social phobia. In 2002 I graduated form a college and started finding job. Can you belive what I came across? All the officers said:No! You're not suit for our position. Everyone thought me as a thief because I couldn't stop looking their pokes in fact I did not wish to look. I really cried in the job market. I went to the interview again and again, and failed again and again. I dodn't know what to do. Even my father looked down up on me. I still remember he said to mewhat can you do!!!!But they really dodn't understand me. You know I want to earn money too. Then I studied website making.I wish I can earn money from net. It dosn't need work face to face, and can make money. But I can't ignore the fact that there's few people in my site. Mental Health Forum ( www.socialphobia.cn ) is made by me. I really hope more and more people to go to my site and post the articles about mental. Please help me! My site is http://www.socialphobia.cn. It's the kind of site about Mental Health. Welcome any one to copy this posts to other website. Thanks very much. http://www.socialphobia.cn
Is there much medical support in China for people with Mental Illness? I've suffered severly from social phobia myself in the past, and still struggle at times with it. Not as much the eye contact portion, but now the self-doubt that comes after having talked with someone. I also tend to feel everyone (when i'm out) looks at me and is laughing at me, etc. I think those of us that do suffer with such a disease all wish there were ways to earn a living without actually having to deal with people. Good luck to you.
Hey man. I know what that feels like. I'm a few years younger than you [18], but it just sounds like a classical case of shyness that you're dealing with. I have a lot in common with what you described - not being able to make eye contact real well, and all - but I've been learning a few things about this condition. If you keep seeing yourself through the eyes of other people, you'll always try to live up their expectations; thus, ending up feeling like you did something wrong. But you haven't done anything wrong! Quit worrying, feel good for who you are, and feel the confidence that arises when you're not afraid to just be yourself. I'm sure that if you try hard enough, you'll get through it. I hope I was able to at least help a little - good luck man
hi, thanks for your reply We are expecting talking and smile, but at most time, the eye phobia are passive. We are unbelieving, and are suspected when there's contradiction. So called "Eyes are the windows of our heart", but what they know! Our eyes are the evil of our heart! They know nothing. There's more than 2 police to ask me for my ID cards, and I heard other saying for my Social phobia. But in fact, I'm the honest boy. 9TH.OCT,2007
Let me talk about my story(forgive my poor English). All of this has been happened in my high school. There was a girl classmate sitting before me. One day,Ididn't know why(even now I dodn't know why.Maybe there was some conflict between her and her boyfriend) ,she looked at me, stared at me.I knew I was not so handsome,even I thought I was a little ugly. She's a pretty nice girl.She didn't suffer from social phobias(eye fear).I knew it,and I knew ,she has not really loved me.Alas,maybe it was my error.I fell in love with her secretly.She was so beautiful that most boy students of our class might admired her,more or less. I did not speak lots to her, till now .I wrote to tell her do not care for me if she has not loved me. But in fact,when she got along other boys I could not helped expressing my sadness.Then she looked at me again and again,and smiled in a friendly way. I wrote against my will once more to tell her that not be care for me,not to looke at me again,but she did not do so when she saw my sadness.Maybe,maybe she shew sympathy for me.I didn't speak lots to her. Another one day, we were attending a lecture,so strange,my eye always paid attention to her,I always felt she was in front of me.Even I could not stop noticing that, so as long in a conducting class.This was the first time I felt my Eye-Fear symptom.Passably ,at that time every thing could return to being right after class. But her profile always reminded me to look, reminded me to note that--the terror of Social Phobias Eye-Fear.Afterwards I gradually paid attention to all studends in class;to all people on road;even to my parents at home;and now to still things (every thins you can imagine). I finished my high school and strarted higher education in 2002. It is terrible mental problem (illness). I don't how I passed my college life.Went to sleep when I attending class or skipped the class in order to avoid disturbing others.And other students were also asleep to avoid my eyelights.It was an extremity of pain ,an untold suffering . No friend.I've seldomly went out.I'v been scare talking with a person,been fear of going a place where person stand,because of the Eye Fear(the mental problem).I can't control my eye. I was graduated from college in 2005.
So you're smart, but not smart enough to find a girl? Love is not thinking. Love is feeling. Don't worry, friend. Love will find you. It would help to find someone as shy as yourself. Perhaps you should try some of the excellent online penpal sites on the web? Or Myspace? x
