The most opposite thing from cute that happened:

As my dad is driving me to my second shift of work today at my formerly secon job, well whatever he said, I believe my parents may be splitting up.

I get into work. See the awesome bartender who I love. But I burst into tears and cant talk and go to the bathroom. She comes ot hug me and I tell her what happened and I realize im telling a woman who is getting married in 12 days.

Work doesnt need me anyway, and I end up quitting, though amicably. (its a cool bar)

I go to walk home in near tears, and some idiots from cars ask me if im working at th esleazy stripclub downtown. And the beer store was closed.

none of my friends are available. sadness.

 

Well, I'm sure that your parents may have their reasons for splitting up.

You're a big girl, you should be able to handle this easily.

Think of the advantages... they not get to fight for your attention and spoil you even more.

 

oh dear. I'm sorry.

at least they've been together while you've grown up.

even if they do split up, it'll all be allright. they will probably be happier.

 

probably. just total shit.

 

I'm sorry. Why did you quit, petite pomme?

 

Because they dont appreciate me. aka no shifts.

 

My parents split up a month or two ago.


I stayed at a friends house and came back the next morning and my mum told me my dad had packed a suitcase and taken off.

 

le fucked up.

 

Stay close to the bartender girl. Another opportunity will appear.

But anyway, this is probably the last thing in your mind right now.

I'm sorry.

 

sorry to hear cate

 

Yeah, I dealt with divorce at age 2. Much too young.

 

How could you tell what happened at 2?

 

I couldn't. But I was suffering the consequences, alright.

In the internal recesses of my subconscious memory.

 

i can't imagine my parents splitting, mainly because i can't think of anyone who could put up with them at this point...well, at any other point, either. i love my parents to death, but they are major pitas. i wouldn't worry for my mom, but thinking of my dad with no one to fight with breaks my heart. i think at this point he's just staying alive to spite my mother. my little bro and sis THINK they want our parents to split, but when i was young, i thought it would be a good idea, too. but i'm 33 (almost) living on my own far from home and the thought of even the IDEA breaks my heart.

it really doesn't matter when it happens. it still hurts. i know, my mother divorced my "real" dad when i was 9. i was completely devasted, even though he wasn't the world's best dad or husband. he was mean, drunk, philandering, insulting and crushing. but it's familiar ground.

i'm really sorry, cate. maybe they're just going through one of those growing pains that doesn't necessarily mean the end of it all. married couples go through these things, especially when their kids are mostly grown. they have to get to know each other again as not just parents anymore.

 

Thanks for sharing.

 

Its was just something I was suspecting in my heart for awhile. And then he told me his thoughts while driving me to work, most inopportune time. Shock city.

 

dang, that's shitty. he could just be looking for a sounding board. honestly, since they had children, they haven't been john and jane, loving married couple. they've been mom and dad. people grow and change in those years. sometimes they need time apart to figure out how much they've changed and whether or not they're still the sorts of people who are able to love each other and be each other's best friends.

 

Youre right, theyve been John and Pat. LOL.

But honestly youre right.

 

don't let anyone make you feel bad for being upset over your parents' upheaval. especially at your age, when you're approaching the concept of marriage and children, it's especially worrying to see how things can turn out to be, just maybe, not forever. especially with our own parents. we can take a certain degree of aloofness from someone else's breakup, but our parents are our familiar pattern. however, they're still people. we all want to have at least ONE THING in our lives that remains reliably solid. a long standing marital relationship between our parents is one of those things. the paradigm shift that happens, especially later in life, when the odds of a woman finding a new partner are slimmer, attack women especially hard.

 

Thats exactly how I felt. I was all 'IM NEVER getting married' in my head. But Im so deeply romantic and conventional.