Ok, the thing is i can't stand this any more. I feel like i'm freaking out in this house. Since i was little, me and my father didn't get along, and trough the years we were constantly fighting so it came to a point that i can't fight any more, i can't drink no more pills to calm me down, i just can't take it... Every day is the same story, no mather what i do, he always finds something to fight about, like everything i do isn't good enough for him. Every time i walk trough the door i feel the tension that he creates in the house. Noone talks to noone, it's cold cause he doesn't want to spend money for electricity, people don't call me anymore because he is rude to them over the phone, its just to damn hard and stresfull to live with that kind of man... Few months ago he found out that i'm having sex with my bf and he went crazy. He started calling me everytime i went out, insulting me that i was a houre, slaped me few times, he even wanted to press chrages to my bf cause he is 20 and i'm undreage. Than i told him that he is no longer my father, and that i'm leaving home, calling the police because he slapped me, and that i don't want to see him ever again. The next day he gatherd all the family and he said that he behaveur was really bad lately, but that he realised that and taht he will change. 2 months lates and things are still shity. He didn't slaped me ever since than, but he is constantly complainig about something, he is acting so selfish and immature. I can't live in the same house with him any more. I'd rather live in some dump, got to school at day, and work at night than to live with him. So i was thinking of leaving home. I have some money enough for 3-4 months, and i can find a job when the summer comes. I know that my bf and my friends will help me, but i'm still scared. It's just a big step and a big decision i have to make.
im sooooooo srry and im prayin for you!!!!! what ever happends dont leave with out having loved your dad b/c even tho u might not think so right now... u will regret it later.... this life is temerary ... dont waste it
welcome to the clash of what the parents wat versus you becoming an independent entity. All people go through this at some point (I was really hard on my son in middle school & am relearning that he is his own soul and not an extention of me), It's part of the teen separation. hang in there, & try to think big picture.
I disagree. If your in an abusive home, LEAVE. Your 17 the power is in your hands. Go to the police, teen center, counselor, caring friends, go somewhere SAFE. If your this old it's NEVER going to get any better..........time to spread your wings, but do it the smart way, don't "runaway" go get help from people that care, end that vicious cycle systah!
If i could find a job right this second i'll pack my bags and leave, but my bigest fear is that i won't be able to suport myself and i don't want land money from other people
i don't know the situation in your conuntry. but u are too young, if u leave home now, what kind of job could u get? and there are number of bad people in the world, they will not let u be easy. if u could endure more and more, please don't leave, i am with with u. let's be sparten, fright until the death
it amazes me that people would ENCOURAGE someone to stay in a bad situation where they are being PHYSICALLY ABUSED.........why would you stay in that? Their are many better options, in the amount of time it will take her to be old enough to make you all feel comfortable, though not likely, she could very well be beaten to the point of injury or death, once you cross that line of physical abuse, it makes it easier and easier to continue it, not to mention the psychological trauma and ruining of her entire life.........stop thinking in terms of age, thier are resources for young people in abusive families, they do not have to stay there, and to encourage her to "put up with it" is completely irresponsible, dangerous, and rooted in personal preconceptions,
the easiest job to find is a waitress in some coffee shop, but it's not well paid look, Macedonia is still a safe country, you can walk down the streets in the middle of the night and nothing will hapen to you dudenamedrob, thanx for the support, honestly you are the firs one who said to me to go for it i'm still thinking, i don't think that i have the courage to do this right now, it's a too big risk there are no teen centers around here where you can get the proper help and still stay anonymus, it's too smal place (Skopje has 1 milion habitants) everywhere you go, you bump into someone you know or someone who knows your parents
friend, take cares about yourselve, i could not encourage u to leave home, as i don't know your situation well. anyway, please be happy , we are be with u!!
Why are you concerned about people in your town knowing what's going on? Why should you have to suffer in silence? It's not your fault that your da can't handle himself. And if you go to a crisis center, you can ask about their confidentiality laws. If your crisis center doesn't do emergency housing, talk to your friends and their families. Is there somewhere you can stay temporarily? Start looking for that job. Even if it's just waitressing, if you're splitting living costs with other people, you might be able to save up some cash. Don't settle, though. Keep looking in the papers for other jobs that pay better or offer benefits, so if the opportunity comes along to move up, you'll see it. Also...if you're still having sex with the boyfriend, be careful. Things sound hard enough for you at the moment without adding the stress of an STD or pregnancy to the mix. Good luck and be safe.
Marija- I really understand your situation! My father is kinda like your's, everyday we fight. But what he did isn't good, he slapped you, called you a whore! That's really not good. But here's the thing, this decision is really hard, yes I know and it's true and believe me your not the only one. However, if you're going to leave from home, take like at least 1-2 months preparation, like deciding where your gonna go, what's gonna be your job, who's gonna help you etc. After that, go. If only I had the chance, I would have helped you a lot by now. Until then, let us know how it goes and take care of yourself!
I agree with dudenamedrob. Go to people you trust and that make you feel safe, and who will help you sort your life out right.
