Thinking about talking to an ex

This is my first post but iv been reading this forum for a while, anyways I could use some advice, Im about to be joining the airforce and I have been thinking about talking to an ex, she was the only girl iv ever really loved and it's been 4 years since we broke up and things didn't end very smoothly, we haven't really talked much in the time we have been separated except me sending a couple drunk texts during my heavy drinking days (nothing terrible just typical stupid shit a drunk would say) but anyway I'm worried that after I join the af I might never get a chance to make things right since I'll likely be moving around Alot and getting deployed so i guess I need some advice on how I should approach this. Thanks

 

first, dont ask the internet what you should do
second, find a fresh girl
third, dont listen tome
fourth, waste time thinking about what i think you should do
fifth, dont repeat

 

do what you feel you must do

 

Sorry I didn't know asking for some advice would offend anyone

 

nah noones offended. as to your approach though that may be a little complex

 

No harm can come from talking to her. Just don't go in with any expectations. The biggest thing will be if you build it up in your mind as a reconciliation/reunion/something, if it fails to be that you will be disappointed. Talk to her, but only if you can let it be what it will be.

 

Thanks raga that does make sense I'll just look at it as closure if things don't go well xD

 

Past is past in my experience and best left there.

 

I would heartfully encourage you to talk to her, and I'm sure whatever the result is, you would be relief.

 

Try it once and it fails don't try it again.

 

Yeah, if you're prepared for it to not go anywhere then what have you got to lose?

 

be carry on that. there is no easy solution to getting your ex back, trust me I know. it's not one of those things when you can just go to http://www.howtogetyourexback.com and suddenly you're together again. I would say give each other some space and maybe meet in a few weeks