Tips for a long distance relationship?

Me and this girl live roughly 1500 miles apart. We dated for 6 months, we were deeply in love, broke up (not so much because of each other, but because of external things), I then transfered schools. It's been 2.5 years since that happened. She still has 2 years in school, I still have 1.

We are both trying desperately to figure out a way to be together, but it feels like it's going to be impossible. I was hoping maybe some of you out there are some sound advice. Thanks!

 

after 1 year, move to where she is, or else transfer there now...if she is important as you say she is to you.

 

Long distance relationships are very difficult.... it takes a LOT of patience and trust and money... it's not for everybody. My only advice is to keep making plans for the future so you have times together to look forward to. that's what my bf and i do. i still have a year left in school and so we're waiting until then to move to be near each other. but we always make plans when i'm on breaks to see each other, and we talk just about every night, like we were together all the time. we hear from each other every day and usually talk for hours. this makes social lives difficult, but we're homebodies anyway

well i hope that helps a little... i can relate, adn i know there are others on here too that are in long distance relationships.

 

my fiance and i started out in a long distance relationship - bout 9 hours on a bus! but we talked like nearly every nite and after about 18 months he moved down 2 be with me And now, nearly 3 years after meetin on the net, we r livin 2gether and engaged.

my point lol - it can work u just have to she each other u care and if u cant physically be together, learn to talk and really be open with each other bout everything - tel them all about ur day, tell them how much u love them and how much u miss them etc, and just have patence and persistence and itt will all work out if its meant to be

Good luck !

ciao

ash

 

Sometimes long distance is a very good way to start a relationship in that it makes you both express your thoughts-feelings and love via the written word.
Much like the love letters people sent one another many years ago.
It makes you connect in a cerebral and spirtual way first. That's a very good foundation to build on for any relationship.
BUT-there comes a time to move to the next level when you need to be looking in one anothers eyes when telling each other how much you love one another. If not it is a lot like being Blind-you can hear them but never see them. Also-if you are supposed to be with one another - trust me you will both be together.
I came out of a three year relationship that was long distance and after waiting all that time-walked away from it and the constant excuses of why she could not be with me.
Very soon afterwards met my Fiance who packed her life up and got on a plane and came to me. To me it was a great feeling and she has been by my side since that day.
I wish you luck and hope that you guys can be together and wake up each day and see one another in your own home. Peace The Wiz and Rider On The Storm

 

me and my fiance' had a long distance relationship for a long time before he moved down here to live with me. here's what worked for us:

lay ground rules...for instance, will you be exclusive to each other sexually? some couples choose to be pretty much celibate when they're not around each other, others choose to allow each other to have other sexual/casual dating partners while they're apart. be up-front and honest about what you both want from each other as far as your sexual behavior goes.

plan to visit one another as frequently as you can. plan dates in advance and save enough money to visit.

talk every day whether it be on the phone, through instant messaging, what-have-you. find some way to communicate in real time every single day.

send nice little gifts and cards in the mail, and do it frequently. it doesn't have to be anything expensive or big, just nice little things.

there will come a time when you two really do need to decide who will be moving where to be with whom, or where you two will be moving together. be serious about this and don't put it off.

all that stuff kept me and dario happily together over the distance until we could afford to live together! we're still very happy

 

best advice I can give you is not to have one

 

LOL I was going to say the same thing as willowbaby...

That's the only tip I can give.

 

Hey guys,
Thanks for the words of advice, and encouragement. I am talking to her tonight, and basically we're going to see whether we are going to go for it, or to not, so hopefully it will be fruitful. If I had the choice I would have never gotten even halfway re-involved with someone far away, but my heart wasn't cooperating haha.

 

awww, you were talking about us

 

Long distance is hard 'cause sometimes you just need that special person there with you and it's torture when you know you can't see them for another few weeks or so. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, 9 months and it's been long distance the entire time. Driving, we're 3 and 1/2 hours apart and by public transportation we're about 7 or so. But, we have spoken one way or another every single day since we first met. We usually talk for hours, but even if the other is busy, we make sure to speak for at least 5 minutes each day. Long distance relationships require a loooot of communication. It can definitely work out. I'm planning on moving down to south jersey next year to be close to him/live with him I'll tell ya, long distance makes the times you DO see each other all the more amazing. It's so hard to leave again though...

 

damn, that's not long distance that's a short commute.

 

Well, its officially over as a relationship. We couldn't see ever moving to be together, and neither wanted to waste time in some sort of pseudo-relationship, so we agreed to be friends and let fate decide if we ever see each other again.

I felt fine about it at the time, and I actually feel fine about not being with her, but not having any relationship, and the fact that I haven't had one for a long time makes me feel like I'm going to be alone forever. This sucks.