Hi, I'm Jess. I've done the introduction thing a ton so I'll skip it here. I just have a question of opinion, I guess. Here's the back story: I'm with a great guy, been with him for a little under a year & we're planning on getting a place together & starting to build our lives together, if you will. I love him & I could definitely see myself settling down with him. (at 21 it's a little early but not totally unexpected) My problem is that I have a very real sexual need for woman. I can't ignore it & sometimes I even crave it. I have thought about the option of a threesome but have never tried it. My problem? I'm afraid I'll be jealous! It's totally unrealistic for me to think that my boyfriend will be ok with me hooking up with another woman when I would prefer if he didn't participate. Please tell me someone has been there before? I just don't even know where to begin trying to solve this problem. Help!
If you two have been together for almost a year, don't you think he'd understand? But then again, that is kind of unfair... Hmm... How much of a jealous person are you? How jealous do you get when one of his close girl friends, or exs hug him?
This means your not done experimenting, the more you suppress it the the stronger your urges will grow..
I don't get jealous when he hugs, talks to, hangs out with other girls but the thought of another girl being intimate with him really scares me. Part of me thinks that it means I'm not secure with our relationship. I dunno. It's totally unfair to him but at the same time I'm afraid I'll start to resent him & our relationship if I don't figure out what to do.
It sounds to me like you need to sort out your sexuality or at least have your fun with women before you settle down and really commit. If not, you're going to have problems in the future.
