As the title indicates, I am in a bind as to how to handle a situation with an old friend of mine. I used to have a huge crush on her, now speaking to her after maybe three years or so. But upon meeting her again a few nights ago (over Skype, she moved so there is no way I can see her face to face), I've learned she is extremely sexual, and we got pretty intimate after just a few hours, that being talking about sex extensively and showing pictures to one another. I can't say I didn't like it as I find the idea of being sexual active with her often extremely arousing, but something about it doesn't feel right. I'm not even sure if I still like her from before or if she's just really turning me on. She also breezed through the topic as if it were nothing so i'm not sure if this is how she acts with a lot of people or if the fact that we are friends from around four years ago meant anything. On top of that, just because we sent each other pictures doesn't necessarily mean she wants to go on some sexual romp with me. When I last spoke to her years ago,she was nothing like this and was also sort of generous with her affection so I was unaware if she actually liked me. I think I've been sort of rambling up until this point, so to conclude i want to ask if I am just jumping into things way too fast or if there wouldn't be anything wrong with just arousing each other for fun, but would doing so ruin any chances with a real relationship with her. I even starting offering to buy her things after just a day! I think one of my biggest problems with this is that she is the first person I've ever expressed anything of sexual desire to (I've had some experiences in school but haven't had sex or been intimate with anyone) so speaking to her about it feels fantastic. I another really good question would be can you really jump the gun with an exclusively sexual relationship? She has clearly expressed a desire about having sex with me but I just want to know if I can actually come on too strong. Please tell me if I need to elaborate or clarify, as it is 1 in the morning, I have a headache, and I'm brimming with a slew of emotions.
yeah, although it would be more of a friends with benefits thing. I feel like this would help with the stress I have had with women recently and allow me to focus on more important things. I could just forget about all of it, but i figure the whole situation would nag at me if I just walked away rather than coming to a conclusion.
