UCH what is his problem!?

my father in law claims to be cool with homosexuality --- i'm dating his son and have been doin so for six months and they treat me like family. infact he treats me better than he treats his son, but then again every parent is like that with houseguests i suppose(?)

but here's the deal, today he said to my bf that he thinks gays shouldn't be allowed to raise children because it would influence them to be gay as well

how come his heterosexual relationship with my bf's mom didn't influence their son to be straight?!?!!?! where is the logic? wtf is his problem!?

arg. i hate that. i just wanna shout at him sometimes. but i cant.

 

That is a VERY good point.
Perhaps you should raise this point to him, or tell your bf to if his dad says anything like that again.

So would he say that perhaps it is bad parenting and a fault of his own that his son wasn't straight?

I agree with you and don't understand his way of thinking at all.

 

first of all this is trippy: 1. youre username is my boyfriends name on hotmail; 2. i LOVE your signature.

OKAY, well in the past when i've been drinking with him , cos he usually treats me like a son tbh, he's not believed it to be his fault. he says he'll never know what its like or understand it, but he loves his son. and i know he does, he honestly does, but he just had this moment where he slandered gay parenting and i was like ARGFUCKSAKE.

and my boyfriend wouldnt say that to his dad cos he's too shy. he doesnt stand up for hisself, and i always feel like i should. which is fine with everyone else, but not with his parents. i cant just attack them.
that wouldnt be good eh?

 

Don't blame or hate him for saying it. This is just general ignorance which he was obviously raised with. Make the point to him casually, not in an attacking way next time you see him and see how he responds. From what you've posted he doesn't sound like a bad man.

 

haha that is kinda trippy
and thanks (Y)

It's understandable though...people have their own views, and I'm not attacking him at all for it.
And yeah, it'd be a bad plan for you to start confronting your boyfriend's parents over it.
I guess if he loves his son and so do you, then it's a case of grin and bear it):
If only in the case of his father.
Just cos you dont say anything to him doesnt mean you can't challenge anyone else over it (Y)

 

You are working on the assumption that he was telling you the truth.
He may be against gay parenting but the real reason might be something he cant say out loud, so he just goes with something cliched.

Hint: It has to do with just how much some girls love thier dads and what is really more likley to happen if they were to grow up with two hot dads

 

hmm... an interesting twist. i shall bear this in mind.

 

Give the guy a break - it sounds like he's pretty cool

Every generation has taboos they find difficult to get beyond

We will have ours and they will come out of no-where and we will be shocked and appalled

Gay marriage - imagine if you'd asked your grandfather about it?

He'd have been completely confused

Two men raising a kid - it's a big leap for 99% of the planet

 

Like others said, it is just ignorance. You can't really teach the gay to a kid, or people would be successfully teaching the straight to all the fags out there.

He's just ignorant in this area. Perhaps you could buy him a book on the subject, there are several interesting and page turning books that talk about the genetic component of sexuality.

 

Shut up and stop being a baby. If he's actually happy you're dating his son, then you should be on the moon... this is such a small, tiny, pathetic detail that you should just shut up and be happy with things as they are.

 

There's no need to get offensive towards Jim.

I'd also like to point out that this is not a "small, tiny, pathetic detail" at all. It's attitudes like this that prevent things from moving forwards.
Ok you may not think anything of it, but other people do. It's ignorance and thats what homophobia stems from.

Jim never said that he wasn't happy that his bf's dad liked him, but people need to vent these things and he can't do it to his bf's dad, so he does it here.

Give him a break.

 

Oh bull, my heterophobia doesnt stem from ignorance

 

OK - so if he wants to get it off his chest and have a little whinge on the forum, fair enough

However, I personally disagree with gay marriage and gay adoptions

But hey, that's just me - I'm entitled to my opinion

 

Where does your Heterophobia stem from VG?

And where would you say homophobia comes from?

 

thankyou.

 

3rd grade, chicks and their daddy issues

Sexual Frustration

 

Just tell him so what if a kid winds up gay? What's wrong with that? While I don't think it's going to completely change a person's sexuality to be raised by someone with a different sexuality, kids raised by gays are probably more open to experimentation and bisexuality. But... so what? After all, what gays among us that were raised by straight parents never had an opposite sex experience?

It's pretty cool you quote me in your sig, btw.

 

i love it.