uggh... is my boyfriend gay or what?

Okay.... tonight was a little weird for me. I cheated on my boyfriend... the first time ever for cheating... and I didn't really do much, just the guy was all over me and kissing on me and licking on me, and I just let him do it for a while, then told him to chill out.

I really like my boyfriend, but I dunno... later that evening, I was really wanting to make out with HIM because we hadn't done anything in a couple weeks, and I just really like that closeness. We've decided to stop having sex because he doesn't feel right about it... he thinks our relationship needs to go further before we can do that again... (we've had sex about 4 times I think) anyway.... he didn't want to make out with me! So, instead of sleeping over as I had planned, I went home, and he acted all pouty, and wouldn't give me ahug or anything... Anyway, we haven't even been dating for that long... about a month and a half... but I'm starting to wonder if he's gay... ppl have actually asked me that a few times! and then I have to explain to them that we are actually dating, so no, he's not gay.... but now i'm wondering again.... uggh.... I just had to bitch so somebody so y'all got it... sorry

 

So, you walk into this guys apartment covered in slobber from
this other guy and ya wonder why the new boyfriend is chilly. You're
trying to make him into a booty call. Damn, I love agressive women.
Some guys don't though and this may be a guy that gets all weird
when a girl gives it up too quick. In which case you probably aren't
going to get along with this prude so move on. And yeah, he might
be gay. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

 

Yeah, i'd make absolutely sure that he didn't find out about your lcheating before you start accusing him of being gay...

Sounds to me like it should be him coming on here asking for advice about how to behave towards his cheating girlfriend.

Sorry if thats a bit harsh, but its the way it is.

 

yeah, cheating is gay

 

your boyfriend is gay, buy him a PVC Sailor Suit and some Erasure cd's and be done with him.

 

You know so much is made about sex and believe it or not some men actually have self-control and don't want to just "fuck" but need more intimacy than the average cock wielder. You need to decide whether you want to be with him or not....that should be the question...not if he's gay!! Youre being asinine.

 

you should respect your boyfriend's decision to not want to have sex... he might be insecure.. at the beginning of my relationship with my girlfriend i was afraid to have sex with her because i felt like i wasn't doing a good enough job as her previous lover. it can be a very stressful thing, as much as it can be amazing.

in terms of him being pissy and cold to you... most of the time people can tell if you've cheated. you will always act slightly different, even if its a little different angle in your smile or the way you try to look through him instead of at him. you should try to talk to him and see whats up. it really doens't sound in this case like he's gay, just insecure in the relationship.

 

Thank you! Everyone thinks guys want nothing but sex and pizza like we're babarians or something. I'll say the same thing I said in the other thread, maybe he does'nt want sex. Maybe you grabbing up on another guy makes him feel like a tool. You've been with him a month and your fooling around with another guy, you should be ashamed of yourself.

 

Agreed very much, looks like we got ourselves another slut here.

P.S. I love pizza!

 

Hehe, and i thought i was being harsh!!

Nice one drewbee!

 

So, because he didn't want to have sex he's gay? Sounds like he's actually trying to RESPECT your relationship w/o moving too fast.


Perhaps he just tasted another man's saliva on you...

 

In fact, maybe the taste of the other mans saliva on you made him start thinking..

So in essence, you turned him gay...

 

lol ewww i like this thread lol

btw, where did the original poster go?

 

Hey.. just thinking.. what's up with the 'he doesn't want sex and now he's pouting because I go home'? What happened to just being together, sleeping next to eachother, enjoying company.. without sex?


I can kinda imagine that you get insecure when a guy doesn't want sex with you (sorry guys, I know you're not all hormones, but that's just us girls, we get insecure easily ).. but if you can talk to eachother about it and he explains it.. then you should respect that, as several posters here said before. And if you can't respect that, then do the only good thing: break up.. before his feelings get hurt by you cheating.

Be true!

 

"They [women] want men to need them, yet feel neediness is unmanly."
-Warren Farrell

 

Okay, so if he wanted to have sex, and you didn't, how would you feel if he just got up and left YOU? Pretty shitty, huh? You are in the wrong, sister...sorry.

 

that would be very interesting if he was gay...go spy on him a bit and have a look ...if he is gay please take the pleasure in seeing him make out with a guy and ask them to join in!!:H FUN FUN FUN!!

 

you've been going out for a month and a half and only had sex 4 times!!!! for SHAAAAAAME jk, i mean jesus chill out have a little respect for him your probably making him feel pretty bad with thinking he's gay for something silly like that

 

*gives sugrmag an award for making the best point in the nicest way thus far*

a guy would get tarred and feathered if he did that to a girl, but vise versa YOUR the one getting upset?....and cheating on him really doesnt help your case any.

 

Maybe he's just on to you...or maybe he doesn't like to do that. Maybe he's in a bad mood! Don't jump all over him! Alot of people don't do stuff alot.