Umm...eh. Why oh why wahaha.

Why can't we all just be happy with what we have? Why must people cheat and sneak around with other little girls, IS IT REALLY THAT HARD. aaaaah it's not hard for me not to cheat, or to feel the urdge to do other people besides my boyfriend. But it's hard for him. I know this is all guy-problemy but I know one to talk to on account EVERYONE I KNOW DEVEIVES ME.

I found yesterday notes that my love had written to some other chick. I think I'm going to throw up. What do people do about things like this? I never saw this comming. LOVE IS SO GREAT. What more could someone need?

 

Wow. I spelt about around 10 words wrong. Hope everyone can understand anywho.

 

Heh. No one answers my posts.

 

what were you trying to say with that?

 

u kno.... there are just some guys that are terrible out there, and sometimes you dont notice it till later, and i know it sucks but hes not worth your time and you have to move on no matter how hard that is. i know this bc its the same w/ girls, and ive had my fair share of decieving, cheating, lying girls.

 

Simple answer: You're better off wanting something you don't have than having something you don't want, like your boyfriend.

 

It is my opinion, regardless of what a man tells you, that he has natural urges to fuck every attractive woman he sees. What you need to find is a man with the maturity and self discipline not to act on those urges. The man also needs a strong physical and emotional bond to his woman.

 

well said. i sometimes see someone and think "wow id love to get him naked", but i'd never act on it cuz i love my bf. if your bf cheats on you, he doesnt love you, and there are plenty of men out there mature enough to think with their heads instead of their dicks

 

I hate cheaters. Dump him.


But you probably won't, so...enjoy him cheating on you and you being miserable.

 

I dont even lookat or think about other guys let alone cheat on my bf. There are alot of guys that should try to be more like that.. I have never been cheated on, but if I was, I know that would be the end of it then. in my opinion, if a guy wants other girls, he cant fully love the one hes with. OR the one that he is cheating with obviously.

Dump his ass.. once a cheater, always a cheater. and even if that wasnt true, for me, thats something that cant be forgiven. He deserves to be alone

 

i cheated once... and it was the worst feeling ive had in life when it gets to relationships.... i dont understand cheating its so wrong

 

Slightoftongue is right, it is natural to feel physical/sexual attraction to other women even if a guy is romantically attached. It's happened to me, and I'm sure all men. And we all know the exact same thing happens with lots of women, too.

I cheated once. It made me feel awful. I really did love my girlfriend, but to make a long story short, while we were separeted by distance during college, I succumbed to temptation with a girl in my dorm.

Later that day, I literally was on my knees when I took a shower afterward, begging god/her for forgiveness. I went for a long drive in the country. I came back and called my girlfriend long distance, and confessed it to her.

My reasoning was that I would not want to continue to date my girlfriend, to love her and tell her I loved her, with that secret kept to myself and her not knowing. Better to risk losing her than to keep up a lie (that I had been faithful). At that point in my life, I imagined we might get married some day. (We haven't.) How would I feel if we'd been married 20 years and that question came up: "Have you always been faithful to me?" Would I come clean, and of course let her know that I'd lived a lie with her for 20 years? Would I look my love in the face and lie some more, just to "protect" her from it? So I told the truth then; even though I could have easily kept her from ever knowing.

At first she took my words okay. But the next day we spoke again, and she told me that she couldn't still be my girlfriend. We eventually did get back together, but it took some doing.

And I learned my lesson. I would never cheat on a girlfriend again. I mean, I won't ever cheat on a girlfriend again.

Whoever says "once a cheater always a cheater" doesn't know what she's talking about. That may be true for some, but not for all.

-Jeffrey

 

It is a natural human instinct to want to be found attractive. When you are dating someone, that doesn't change the fact that you still wish to be found attractive by more than just her. So I think that explains why people cheat: that warm glowy feeling of getting reassured yet again that someone could be into you.

It's a reason, not an excuse, mind you. I'm just offering it as an explanation.

-Jeffrey

 

You know the saying - Once a cheater, always a cheater...



Sickens me.

 

Yea the saying once a cheater, always a cheater is bullshit. We are only human and we all make mistakes in our lives. It is how you deal with your mistakes that matter.