I was wondering about peoples experiences with unrequited love. I've had a few male friends fall in love or at least serious like with me when I didnt return the feelings, and I always wondered how they could let themselves feel that way when I gave them no sign that anything could ever happen. But now i'm falling for one of my friends, and he has a girlfriend. Its not a very fun situation and i'm starting to see just how much unrequited love sucks lol.. ..but i still wonder how you can fall in love with someone when you're given NOTHING back...because the guy i'm falling for does show signs that he likes me. I catch him staring at me all the time, and when I do we hold eye contact for several seconds. He acts shy and overly respectful around me when normally he is just really outgoing and gregarious. We think about things the same way, view the world the same way, share a similiar sense of humor. We've always had a connection, and i'm positive that if he werent in a long term relationship something would happen between us. Or maybe i'm being as crazy as the guys that have fallen for me. Maybe i'm trying to see signs that aren't really there. For anyone who's ever fallen into unrequited love, how did it happen exactly? What are your thoughts on loving someone that can never love you back?
5 years of unrequited love He loved me at one point but I was to afraid to do anything about it. I didn't think I was good enough. Now I love him, and he's in toronto, doing his own thing living life. It hurt so bad, he consumed my thoughts. I still love him but I bury the thougts and feelings and move on with my life I've learned to accept that part of the reason why I love him is everything he is And I wouldn't want to compromise that As long as he's happy out there and healthy Then I couldn't be happier. I just want him to have the best life And that isn't with me.
you probably did give them signs. they may not have been meant as signs, but were probably enough to be interpreted that way by someone who was already interested. men and women see these things differently. hell, the fact that you were even friends with them would be seen as a sign by a male, since men don't really draw that line between friend and potential lover like women do.
Happened with me. Worst pain I think I've ever felt in my life...he never returned the feelings I had for him, even though he lead me on for six months. I hate his guts now because I realize what a total and complete LOSER he is, but I still can't get over the pain he left with me. I got no closure...that might be the reason I can't forget it.
I think he means he has indeed loved, and all the times he has loved he has been loved back. That's something, but I must admit that I can honestly say I pity you a bit for never having experienced the raw, bitter pain of this, the aching humanity of it, being nauseated at the essence of life and feeling your soul clawing at itself in madness, clashing against the universe of affection which finds no outlet and slowly becomes a fetid pool of complexes, insecurities, and a sadness that surely is found only in the great classics of literature it'll put some hair on your chest
It certainly does, and your heart gets better at recovering every time at least for me. I've never let myself fall into someone so deep as the first time my affection was not returned. It's one of those parts of life you have to accept, not everyone you love will love you back or they might not love you at the same time you love them. I know it hurts but it's better not to dwell and move on. My $.02
I kind of know how that feels. Sort of.... I've only been in love once and it was returned. But I always end up being attracted to/forming crushes on people who are unavailable. I have a professor that I think is AMAZING, but of course he's married and, therefore, perpetually unavailable. I still like him even though I know that. I don't think we can really help who we have feelings for and, for some odd reason, the ones we can't have are the most attractive. Mmmmm....I'd say just masturbate a lot while thinking about him and eventually it will burn up out of your system
I had an unrequited love that was pretty difficult... But it was also kinda my own fault. I loved this guy and I really liked this other guy. "Guy B" ended up asking me out before "Guy A" had a chance and I said yes for some reason. And after that relationship ended, I found out I had only been a little bit away from being asked out by "A" but by that time he had pretty much succumbed to viewing me as a sister/really good friend and no matter what I said or did, it wouldn't change. Ended up okay, I'm with a wonderful guy now I wouldn't trade for anything, but those three years of unrequited love were pretty hard.
Ack, unrequited love. I was totally in love with someone for three years who was in a long term relationship. I've never felt anything like it before or since...i almost drove myself mad with it...it was so intense. He was one of my best friends, truly a soul mate on so many levels, but i guess despite all that he didn't think i was worth the risk...the fact that he was unattainable and wouldn't leave his girlfriend just made me love him more. In the end, i broke away and stopped seeing him all together...i view it now almost like a strange madness...an illness that i had to get over. When i think of him today...I just feel a strange sense of grief and regret, it's like a half finished dream that i woke from too soon, never knowing how it could end. I wouldn't change what happened for the world...but I wouldn't want to feel like that again...
