Does anyone have, or have experience with someone who has(or had) vaginismus? I've been helping someone deal with it for almost a year and a half, and it's been quite frustrating. Not so much because we haven't successfully had sex yet, but because like it seems like a crapshoot as to what she'll be able to take and whether or not it'll feel any good for her. We've just recently worked up to 3-fingers-being-only-moderately-painful-most-days a couple weeks ago.
I personally suffer from Vaginismus. Nothing has made the pain go away entirely. I still can't have sex without stopping half way through insertion, for a relaxing technique. My advice would be: - Have her take deep, calm breaths during foreplay - Lots of foreplay - Maybe a warm, calming bath together first. Obviously you trust each other so maybe have a glass of wine or two together. Alcohol dulls senses, so it's not THAT great of a plan, but it does help get you warmed up, and calmed down. Just be gentle and slow, once you get past the initial pain, I find that nit doesn't hurt me anymore. It's believed to be a psychological disorder, stemming from a fear of sex, buuuut..... I'm not so sure, at least with me
I don't know if I have Vaginismus, but it does sound like I have something similar. I have a lot of pain, and stopped having sex because of the pain. I just wish I could find a man that was patient. Any advice on that?
that sucks. my exgirlfriend could have sex but would get super sore after like 20 mins. of course she had came by this time and i hadn't. AHHHHH
Hi there!! Vaginismus is due to pelvic floor contractions. If there is contraction, there is always pain upon penetration. And it cannot be dealt with forcing fingers inside and the like because it can never cure or stop it, it can only be nothing but PAIN. How do we treat vaginismus. I have searched the internet and found a "technique" to stop it. You should try this because this is a home remedy where it is only you, and no one else, can solve this problem. Hope this helps.. Good luck
vaginismus is caused by involuntary pelvic floor contractions, the muscle tenses upon insertion, because the brain subconsciously expects pain. I have vaginismus. mine is ''mild'' i guess, since i can have sex, but it hurts really bad in the beginning if i don't do some exercises first. it helps if before sex i have an orgasm, because afterwards i'm more relaxed and 'open''. after that, i slowly insert a small toy (it must not hurt, otherwise i get tense again), play with it, and then work my way up to a bigger toy, and after that, it doesn't hurt when i have sex. and it does feel good, because the body eventually relaxes. if i do not do those exercises and we just have sex, it hurts at first, but even like this the body relaxes and then i can enjoy it without pain. my advice is, you gf should do those exercises regularly, even without you. she should start with something small enough that it doesn't hurt, play for a while, relax the muscle. then insert something a bit bigger and so on. the important thing to keep in mind is that it should NOT hurt, since vaginismus is caused by the brain expecting pain, it's a vicious cycle. she should do this until she is capable of inserting a cock sized dildo without pain. also, she will enjoy it, there is nothing wrong with her vagina, it's a a reflex (tensing) that she needs to learn to overcome. i hope this helps note that even with the exercises this takes time. at first i used to start with a finger, and get to a small toy. now i can start with the small toy and get to a normal dildo. it still hurts if i try directly with the dildo, but it's still progress.
