Very discouraged

Hey everyone...I am an old member, Knottyadam...(doubt if anyone remembers), but I started my dreads on September 8, 2006. I figured by this time, they would be mildly attractive, but they are far from it. There is still a great load of frizz on all of the dreads, all of the loops that were supposed to get sucked back in more than a year ago are still sticking out, and there is a great amount of loose hair on top. (Which is very unnattractive with curly, frizzy hair). I am almost to the point where I am going to cut them short, and comb it all out. I need help! I have already combed one of them completely out to see how hard it would be, and I am thinking about doint the rest soon.

Any encouragement or help is greatly appreciated...I don't have any recent pictures, so sorry about that.

 

Do they look subjectively bad or objectively bad? It may just be yourself looking in the mirror from 2' away that thinks they look like frizzy shit.

 

If you still have faith but are just fed up, I'd suggest looking on this awesome thread:

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=270541&f=209

It's helped me keep faith in mine

Seriously, Look from the first page to the last

It really helps ^^

 

Well, a little bit of both. In the past week, I have had a ton of people come up to me and say they look amazing and they want to feel them (you all know the routine..can you wash them, how long did it take, do you have to cut them to get them out...same thing every time...I am thinking of making pamphlets to keep with me for those sorts)

But on the other hand, a few people that I know say they look like absolute trash, and that I need to start over, my mother liked them for awhile, but she desperately wants to take them out now...and my very close-minded father actually thinks I would look better with hair down to my feet if it wasn't dreaded....I personally think they are garbage as well.

 

I was looking through those pics earlier..and it just made it worse lol. I was like why can't I be that awesome!

 

Hehe yea pamphlets are an awesome idea, everytime someone asks 'Can you wash them?' I let out a huge sigh xD

Damn Are the squiggly ones really bad? I know that crocheting isn't reccommened but in my desparate times I did it just for the frizzies on top, you could try that

Is there any way at all you could get a pic?

 

I will admit, that I tried to crochet all of my top-frizz back in, but it all came out within a week...I am not good at hand-crafting.

Edit:

And no I cannot get a picture right now, I only have my phone, but the battery is too dead to get to my camera...and I won't have internet until about monday sorry.

 

Post up a pic
I'm sure they look great
I agree with you about the leaflets though Same questions every bloody time

 

Well I am looking for pics on this computer, but the only one I can find is prior to a senior exit presentation, in which I had cut all of my looseness, so it wouldnt do much good...I will keep digging though

 

Bummer

No net? What are you viewing this on?! xD

Dude I'm sure they look great My crocheting did come out after a while but i found if I put it through the dread vertially, like up through it it worked better

And anyway, curly loopy dreads are cooool ^^

 

I am at my mom's classroom because it is seriously impossible to get internet out at my house, but I can't get back here until monday. I shouldn't have made this thread without a pic, but atleast I know you guys respond faster than you used to lol, so the second I get a picture, I will post it.

 

Haha ok

Awesome- looking forward to it!!

 

dude when ever someone tells u that ur hair looks like trash, find something about them that is unnatractive and tell them how bad it looks.

"ur dreads look like shit"
"that giant puss infected pimple next to ur lip looks like shit"

 

sethhasdreads- lmao thats something my boyfriend would say

anyways back on topic I know how you feel mine are only 8 months and I get those days weeks when I feel like taking them out

 

well i can see theres problems and solutions
the problem being you care too much how they look the solution stop caring

look at what you said here u tried crochetting (which does dammage irt creates more loose haiers then it fixes) you curt the loose frizz at the scalp
you constantly try to force it to behave
stop it
alll
cutting the hair at the scalp big mistake that hairs suposed to be thjere ity will grow and become nerw dreads or join existing dreads but it needs a few inches to do so..leave it alone!
again the friz on thye dread u freaked out about it and crochetted weakening the dread and causing more loose haiers more disatisfaction till ui brushed 1 out entirely
your hurting yourself by obsessing over it
stiop it
leave em alone

let me guess u started backcombing palmrolling maybe even wax? u crochetted u root rubbed u tip rubbed u did everything u could to get your dreads to look like some idols anbd always felt bad that they didnt?

stop it
dont listen to others love your dreads the kmore u love em thge better tyhey will be
your feeding them negativityu..i hate my dreads theyre ugly they are antenas that soak that akll up
give them love and they will return it

again stop obsessing over em give em a good 6 months to do what they do wiythout you forcing your will into things andf u will learn to love em by letting go and letting them grow as they will

 

knottyadam!! i remember you
i was wanderin_blues back then.
your dread were super awesome iirc.
hope you can get a pic, im sure they look sick

 

Well, I lied to you all, I do have internet today lol. I am currently trying to get a good hair picture....so damn hard sometimes lol. but yes i do remember you blues...you and soaringeagle are the only ones I can remember very well...but then again you cant really forget a person like soaringeagle lol. But yes, once I can get a non-blurry pic, it will be up

 

got one!

and I have waited a long time eagle, but i still do not see any improvement at all, maybe I am just super impatient.

Thank you all for your help!

 

Hehe sods law, you striiive to get a pic and it doesn't work!! Whats the link?

 

Is it not showing?