so as im writing this i just had sex with my gf of almost 4 months about an hour ago for around an hour id say. and i didnt cum. im super frustrated now because she thinks its her fault and isnt at all. shes super sexy and i care about her a lot. we had been having trouble having sex in the first place because she was a virgin until extremeky recently(last night) and she was very tight. now thats not a problem at all. so what im asking is for advice on how to cum during sex. like should i have her do more work because i was on top in missionary for like the whole time and it was very tiring or like any other advice because a healthy 18 year old male shouldnt take over a fuckin hour to cum during sex.
Are you using a condom? Although you should be, it will take away some of the stimulation. There are ton of different reasons why you may be not off right away, I would suggest to just keep trying And of course get her to help you out a bit! One person shouldn't do all the work. Though, she may need some time, as she is new to the game, for her to get really comfortable giving oral or being on top. Don't worry, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about with this issue.
What do you know - you're a fag anyway. Anyone who knows you off this site can verify that you just take it up the ass.
I take the view that there is a mix of sexual and emotional dysfunction, or too much speed with not enough preparatory work. You may be pre-occupied with other matters in the back of your head which interfere with your ability to clear the way or you are not exploring each other sexually with lots of touchy-feely. How long it takes is not important, how enjoyable and satisfying it is to both parties is. A guy who fails to squirt after a long period of time is bound to be upset and feel inferior, but that won't help matters: think positive! Do not accept or apportion individual blame. It is nobody's fault. Go back to see how much you remember and maybe if you were going too fast or too enthusiastically or lacking enough arousal. At 18, you'll have plenty of drive and the necessary stuff to turn the girl on, obviously, and I would suggest lots of foreplay to build up the momentum. If she enjoyed the experience but you didn't, examine what you did from start to finish. Maybe start with fondling (from a few minutes to an hour!) to work up excitement for both, but particularly you: lots of fondling and rubbing but not so vigorously that you squirt. Then gradually move closer, rubbing your penis up and down her pubis and then when you feel you've got the urge there and only a short while from blowing, go in, go slow. Alternate positions during the session from you on top to below. Why am I reciting this? I have a friend (two years older) who last weekend experienced virtually the same malaise that you have described, talking to me about feeling "a let-down" (which he is not). He returned to partner with lots of tricks, and lots of fondling/foreplay (they are both nudists and that is always a help) was a winner, bursting out in 9 minutes. Try a few alterations to your "suite of tricks" and see how you go. :cheers2:
Thanks for your input. I think if I can get more of our foreplay focused on me then I'll cut down our actual sex time. I seem to get wrapped up in getting her off because it turns me on a lot to hear her moan. And because I have pretty bad ADHD its pretty hard to focus the whole time when were going at it especially when im taking forever. I'm confident I'll be able to bust in a much shorter time sooner rather than later with a couple more times. Unfortunately I'm gonna haveta wait a week because she just got her period a couple days ago which is frustrating for the both of us. Oh and thanks ROBYN for your words of support they made me feel a lot better in my confidence in myself
