Is it weird to be a virgin at 35? Im a 35 yo male. I have had sex with other males but have never had sex with a female. I identify as being hetero-flexible. I am looking for a girlfriend but their are some things about myself that make it difficult.
In my opinion you are not a virgin, you had sex regardless. And it would not be unusual for someone in their 30’s to be a virgin. Those people exist, even 40
Thanks for the response. I know technically I am not a virgin. I should have been specific and said that I am a virgin when it comes to females.
Quite the conundrum. What type of sex did you have with other males? Oral only, you’re still a virgin. Penetrative? Not so much! Oral doesn’t count. Even if you bottomed for a guy, I would still consider you a virgin. Now, if you topped a guy….. that is a gray area. For me, until you penetrate a woman, you are still a virgin. Just my thinking in my pea brain…. what little I have.
Thanks for the message. Like I said I know im not technically a virgin. I have had oral with males both giving and receiving. I have also topped and bottomed. Besides making out the most i have done with a female was fingering a girlfriend.
I was just talking to my adult daughter (34) about this yesterday and she was saying that studies show that there is a huge % of adults that are still virgins at mid / late 20s and beyond. So are you “normal” - ya I think so. it’s all the noses pressed to screens these days and virtual hookups and sexting etc. The more recent generations are losing the ability to communicate in person and with that personal interaction comes the human physical bonding that people need to have a sexual relationship…. Not sure if it relates directly to your own challenges but in a more general perspective our Social skills have tanked in the wake of social media and impersonal relationships. It’s a shame really. We are driving ourselves into distinction while being able to reach out and communicate with more people than ever before. In the 70 you were falling behind if you were 15 and a virgin, now it’s difficult for people to look at each other eye to eye and speak….
Thank you for the reply. I find it difficult to meet people in person because I feel awkward being in crowded places or places one would normally meet people. I have looked for a girlfriend on dating apps but haven't had any luck. Plus their are things about myself that make it hard to fully open up to people. Im trying to find someone that is open minded and nonjudgemental.
Pay for it. No, I'm serious. You want a woman that's non judgmental and open minded. No better person to find that in is a sex worker. All they really care about is what they can make from the encounter with you. Plus they will make you feel like a king. The good ones will that is. There will be no strings, no thanks for the dinner handshake, only sex and the loss of your virginity as it were.
If all i wanted was sex then yes I would pay for it or hell I would just stick to guys. But I want more than that and not just sex.
There may be some focus groups you could go to to talk about your ability to open up, sometimes knowing there are others like yourself can help with dealing or overcoming your situation. Then once you are comfortable with yourself things may open up.
My problem isn't that I can't open up. But that i fear rejection and ridicule about my past and apart of me now that is not accepted by the majority of society.
Just about every normal, red blooded male has something or things about them that they think make it difficult to find a girlfriend. Questions like am I handsome enough, is my body nice enough, is my cock big enough, am I rich enough, do I dress well enough, do I cum too fast???? We all have our insecurities and doubts, unless you are a egotist or a narcissist. Sometimes you just have to throw caution to the wind and go for it. You'll never find out if a woman is willing to go out with you unless you overcome your fears and ask her!!!
