So i me and this girl have been been exclusive for about 3 months and she already said that she doesnt like giving head. she thinks its gross. and she thinks me eating her out is gross too. she isnt really sexually experienced. anyhow, we are both virgins but the other day we had the house to ourselves and we decided to have sex (after talking about it for a couple weeks). (i had fingered her multiple times, prob like every time i hung out with her) but I digress, I have around a 6.5 inch cock with a 2.5 ish inch girth. she never used tampons because she could never get them to stay in. hahah anywayyy we were trying to have sex with me ontop and we couldnt get it in. we used a lot of lube and everything. so that try was a failure. TRIAL 2 we were in my car and we tried having sex, we managed to get it in a little bit but she would complain too much that it hurt her. so after about 15 of trying we stopped. TRIAL 3 tonight we decided we were finally going to fit it ALL inside of her. however it was a complete failure. Again she complained that it hurt her. I tried the techniques of going in slowly. only going in a little then pulling out, then going back in and pulling out ect. Nothing seems to work and she cannot take even half of my dick. It doesnt even feel good to me. Like how am i suppose to cum if it doesnt feel good. Its really starting to get me upset and sexually frustrated. I need some help. thanks
She's too tense. Need more foreplay to loosen her up. Gently massaging her vaginal muscles can help as well.
I personally don't think she's even psychologically ready for it to be completely honest. If she's finding oral sex gross, then it's probably safe to say the image she has on sex/genitals isn't entirely positive. There may be (hidden) guilt/fear based emotions that she needs to deal with before she can fully enjoy sexual activity of ANY KIND. This is something you'll need to discuss with her. She may also need to consider dedicating a portion of her free time to stretching her hymen/vaginal opening via masturbation. This should be done gradually, just the same way you'd stretch your body to become more flexible. Ballerinas and gymnasts spend months, years, to develop their flexibility. Your girlfriend may not need years, but she might benefit from a month of vaginal stretching period to start off with. So, one more time... She needs to develop a healthy, positive attitude toward sex/genitals/different aspects of sexuality. And she should stretch her vagina gradually over time. And throughout all of this, you be her understanding and loving boyfriend and help her feel comfortable both mentally and physically. No intercourse for you guys in the meantime, but.... Well, if you guys love each other, it's not that bad, right? All the best.
Did you finger her first? If not, try that. Loosen her up gradually. Although I think Alternative Thinker is right, she doesn't sound ready for sex.
yea we've only really tried it in a car. and just got right to the point but the first time we tried, it was in a bed and we could NOT even get it in
She's too tense and somethings not right. I'd assume that I've got a tight pussy (years of no use + kegals) and the person I'm interested in has a pretty big cock, but it will work out, it always does as long as the girl is into it and ready. It might not have anything to do with you, it most likely is just her.. but from the way you sound by you saying "Like how am i suppose to cum if it doesnt feel good.", I'd just like to add that sex should feel good for both people and if you really like her then you'd take this into consideration, and if you're only in the relationship because you think you're gonna get fucked, then perhaps the relationship isn't for you. You also come across as like what, 14, maybe 15? Not all girls are willing to have sex after only 3 months, even if they act like it. I know that I'm not.
no im 17, and i maybe pressured her into it. i would always just bring up the subject of sex because it was the only subject that we could actually have a conversation about because she isnt the most interesting person. but she is really nice and she thought of the idea that we should try sex. if your saying that she is tight because she is tense i would probably deduce that given the circumstances of where and when we've tried would be a sufficient answer of why she is so tight
I agree, especially after reading the OP's last reply. It sounds to me like the OP just wants to have sex with her for the sake of getting laid. That is not an ideal relationship. Actually, I would personally see it as more abusive and manipulative than anything else. OP, relationship isn't exclusively about sex. There are different types of relationships where love is expressed. Romantic relationships just have sex ADDED INTO the equation. Sex doesn't play the MAIN role.... Or am I having a hopeless romantic moment yet again? xD
Forget it. You should not ever have to talk your GF or BF into having sex. If they aren't in the mood then as you can see, it just ain't gonna work. Then I read this part- Do you even remotely comprehend what that is saying? Do you understand the impact of such a statement? "... because she isnt the most interesting person." Man, that's low. All you want is some pussy. I hope like hell she slaps you good for that. You want to have sex with a woman that you really aren't interested in. That is selfish and greedy and in some states under the conditions you disclosed it could be considered sexual assault. I hope she dumps you. She deserves a better man.
She probably just feels tense and nervous, and I'm sure that you do a little sub-conciously as well. If you're both virgins, the whole thing is new and unfamiliar to you both. I would suggest waiting for a time when you are both completely sure that that is what you want, and wait for a special, romantic occasion. Sex should not be uncomfortable for either of you, and if your girlfriend is feeling tense then you should not continue trying. Anyway, it should be at a time when you both feel comfortable doing it.
Hey, boring people deserve love too! But yeah dude, it doesn't sound like a great relationship. I mean think about it, and I mean really think, are you happy with her? Are you both getting what you need/want out of this relationship?
I agree with Logan 5. She's not ready, you have no right to be pressuring her. That's the reason she's tense. I honestly think, looking back on it that I wasn't ready my first time either, even though I was 18. I made myself think I loved the guy but I just wanted to get rid of my virginity at that point. And I was the same way. He couldn't get it in the first time and when we finally did, every time we finished I felt violated. He wasn't good guy and I doubt that you are either. Leave the girl alone before you force her into something that will end up traumatizing her.
this made me piss myself laughing. sorry pricipessa but it was funny. and to the OP> pressuring someone to do something sexual (or otherwise) they are not wholeheartedly wanting is a selfish **** of thing to do.
I double checked what I was saying. Actually, it is rape. If you have to convince her to have sex with you, then she doesn't want it. And if she doesn't want it and you two fuck, she only has to tell the cops the truth- "I didn't want to, but he didn't seem to understand". And you don't because you keep pushin it on her. So far you'd be nailed for sexual assault. If there was any involuntary penetration, it becomes rape. How special is getting laid now, kid?
Well, I don't think calling him "kid" is necessarily called for. Young people are fully capable of experiencing positive, love-filled first time sex, too. The OP is simply ignorant. That can be changed, though. We all start out ignorant. Problems occur when we STAY ignorant. In the case of the OP's situation, I'm going to go out on a limb here and say the adults around him have essentially been responsible for the way he now perceives sex. He is one of the less fortunate young people who has received very little education in this area....morals in regards to sex and such, if you will.
alternative thinker do you find calling someone "kid" offensive or degrading?? i think logan5 is right. it is a dangerous situation and one that OP must be aware of. and therefore be able to "wake up to himself" and the possible ramifications of his actions.
Why are you in a mutually exclusive relationship with a person that you don't find interesting in the first place? If you want a good relationship, find someone you like. If you just want sex, find a girl that's not a virgin and doesn't want more than that either.
