vulnerability.

i find it the most difficult challenge of my human life. yet also the most rewarding, and surprisingly the only thing that makes sense anymore.

thoughts? criticism?

 

I think its a concept only Americans use
... or Praxis..

I can't understand it or accept it.For guys anyway.

Whats vunerability?I might be vunerable to being hit by an asteroid?
Nope.. beyond me.

 

Sounds like a good idea for a new Wii game.

Sorry, I can;t get personal on a forum.

 

its ok..

we can overcome this together :grouphug:

 

lol. i guess i wasn't really expecting any deep answers to this question at this time of the night *morning* anyway.

but in all seriousness, the more i allow myself to become vulnerable, the more i wonder how i ever lived without feeling this. until i let myself admit that i never really did.

 

Honestly I don't understand what u mean by it.
Its like phrases like "loving yourself" and "validation".

Maybe I don't watch Oprah Winrfey..

 

all i mean is being emotionally open. being who you are. not caring who knows you're crazy in love with someone. not caring who knows that you're sad over someone turning you down for lunch, even just as friends. being vulnerable. not wearing a mask. out for all to see and (possibly) judge.

this is vulnerability. emotional nudity. raw self. scary shit.

 

vulnerability means you are emotional. And emotional is good because it means you are sensitive. And sensitive is good because it means you are passionate. And passionate is good, because without it life looses it`s whole sense

 

Hmm I agree alot of problems are caused by people being uncommunicative.
But if we communicate every emotion we have it'd be like having Tourettes Syndrome.

Emotions are wide swinging.They're instant and not always indicative of someone's deeper( "truer") state.

Sometimes there's a danger in accepting the wide swinging emotions that come and go in a moment.Some people are "emotion junkies".

Just as there might be in trying to deny deep seated emotions.

It depends IMO

 

agreed. too much attempting to deny or otherwise control emotions = disaster.

so i would consider myself a proponent of open emotional communication. however i see the tourrette's downfall. but i'd rather be surrounded by "dysfunctional" tourrette's than emotional cripples.

 

i understand what you mean, i am also breaking down my wall i woke up one day and decided i need to let more in, life isnt worth living behind a barbed wire fence

 

at least yours is only barbed wire. i've got cement and steel and some sort of alloy that won't fall down. lol...

glad i'm not alone.

 

I would have glimpses of outside and talk to people on the other side of my fence, but if I wanted to get down and dirty with my emotions or things like that I'd cut myself on the wire and get scared and shut myself down

I am getting over this, thank goodness, I am feeling more and more happy the more I learn to be myself no matter what, even if being myself mean letting people see I am not invincible...

 

go fuck yourself ...Ooops.(covers mouth)

Sorry my Tourettes is back..

Sometimes( ok lots of times) I wanna say things to people.
But I sort of hold back.It sometimes depends how communicative they are.Or "waiting for the right time".

 

I've been opening up emotionally lately and I can't seem to stop it. It scares the shit out of me...my ice queen armor is melting and I don't like it....and yet I do. Of course if things go bad I'm in for a world of hurt....but I'm also willing to risk it.

 

if something doesn't matter, i find it more productive to just brush it off than to get all upset and let everyone know that i can't handle minor problems. if something does matter, it's still usually better to not let people know how you feel about it, because they will just use that knowledge to take advantage of you.

 

I keep myself very closed off.... it's difficult to share after years of hold things in because I was scared to talk about things.

I'm a little better at it, but I'm aweful about going about it.

 

This is a very noteworthy thread.

 

agreed. i'm impressed with where it has gone.

 

Babies and puppies/kitties are the biggest pimps. Why? Because of their vulnerability.