wanting to get rid of them?

about 1.5 months into it i decided i wanted my old hair back, so i got a brush and tried to brush one out. it did not work. within a few minutes i was fine again and not wanting to remove them. this was like a weird feeling/compulsion i got that lasted like 10 minutes. it happened again tonight, (now i'm at 3.5 mos.) i just missed my long straight hair so i actually ripped one of my 'under' dreads out (didnt mean too, i thought if i ripped it would just rip it apart so i could comb it but like 80% of the hair came off lol OOPS) and another dread i f***cking cut the end off and tried to brush it out. well now i'm ok again and i don't want to get rid of my dreads and again this compulsion lasted less than 30 minutes. does anyone else go thr0ugh this? have any advice for what i should do when these feelings strike, when it happens i feel 100% secure that i want to remove them and then i calm down or whatever. this one dread i cut is messed up. oh p.s. inside the cut ends i looks kinda cool, there's this core of super compacted straight hairs it looks kinda weird, kinda cool, i couldn't believe how many hairs are inside

 

i have no advice to offer, but i've never really thought of how many single strands of hair are in one dread. you should take a picture.

 

I want to cut mine all the time...i'm @ 16 months
it's a love/hate relationship

I can't wait to be bald. that will feel so good. I want them to be longer!!!
oh well.
patience.

 

i just need to take a cool-off period before grabbing scissors or touching the dreads at all next time i get that inkling thats how i am though, when i decide to do something, .001 seconds after it pops in my head i'm out doing it. i need to work on that one of my dreads is gone and one is badly damaged i feel like crap

 

sounds to me like your dreads are helping you learn the lessons of patience in times of impetuous behavior.

and yes, i've had those urges too. i've done some fucked up things to my dreads. half of one side of my head has about 10 "chunks" of hair that is mostly undreaded because i either chopped pieces or pulled on them until they broke off, or something or another.

just realize that your dreads are helping you work through your own emotional processes. dreads are really good at that. it's not always comfy, and a lot of the time it feels like shitty craziness. but you're sad about your old hair, because you are (spiritually) watching pieces of your old self die. that's always hard. :grouphug:

 

i think you are right, thanks for helping me realize what was going on

 

sue u gave me your number tonight when i needed you, i will becalling you tomorow and then u will always have my number too..when the cumpulsion hiys
(i typed hits 6 times and im si tirted it came out hiys eash time and just now cadta copy pate hiys because it kept comminhg out hots) (yea im exhaisted what was i saying?)
oh yea compulsio\n whrn it hits.. reach for the phine ..even if 1 hand goesfor the comb automaticlty use the other to doal the phoine.. call me
anything u can do to disdtrteact yourself for 5 minutes is good..
but if u an call..talk dig into the rooys (not those roots dammit..slap) of thre feelings..while youir caught in them..
hopefult we can shutthem ogff for good


i better get to sleep i gt nuthin left (unless u respondeed to y crazy pm..love u sue)

 

i used to get that,, i dunno what it was, but now all of mine have gone and i have 'normal' hair again anyway..

 

I haven't ever gotten that urge. I guess I had my regular hair long enough to be over it.

 

nympfsue, I'm really sorry that you feel poorly about your dreads. If you feel that you need to cut or comb, that is up to you to deciede. Your dreads are all about you so getting rid of them should be all about you as well. Don't let others deceide for you to comb/not comb because chances are you will continue to be unhappy with them if you let others sway your decision (speaking from personal experience here ). Plus, it's only hair....if you deceide to comb, you can always re-dread later when you feel the time is right.

When I deceided to comb out my first set of dreads, I sat down to watch a movie with a huge bottle of conditioner and worked it through my dreads really, REALLY well. I'd comb one out very slowly and gently from the tip to the root, adding more conditioner and massaging it through as I went. The process took HOURS but in the end I had silky shineyhair again with minimal breakage or hair loss.

So, whatever you deceide to do, make sure that you are doing it for YOU. Best of luck with which ever way you deceide.

 

Never....I've actually had sort of the opposite happen in dreams (not lately). Dreams where someone was cutting them off and I felt absolutely horrible....like a part of me was dying. So no the thought of cutting them off has never even crossed my mind, however I have dreamt that someone else was.

If you don't want a certain hair style, or anything on your body for that matter, then don't "have it". Never feel obligated to "have" or "do" something because of others. Do whatever you feel is right in accordance to your life Nympf. Think deeply about whatever "it" (in this case getting rid of your dreads) is before you go through with "it", because once you have you cannot jump right back to "it"....in this case "it" takes time.

(wow...never had to say "it" so much in such short a time)

 

I go through this too...whenever I feel like brushing them out, I go online look at dread pics. It always inspires me to keep them in!

 

So many people seem to go about looking at dreads as though there's some end product to be achieved. I'm not saying you do, it's just that typically when one looks at dread pics for inspiration it's because they want their own to be similar at some point in time (I know, I've been there). Look at your own for inspiration, hell don't even really have to look at em....just feel em, shake em, wash em and feel that amazing heavy palm tree feeling on your head for "inspiration".

Absolutely nothing wrong with looking at dread pics, even if you are looking at them for inspiration....I'm not trying to say it is wrong in any way, just an observation on the way I see many people viewing dreads (mainly those who don't have em). Perfect example is when people ask those who've started the dread process "Are those gonna be dreads?" or "What are those suppose to be dreadlocks?" Dreads are dreads at any point in the "process", so no worries what they look like my friends, just know that you've begun a journey within an epic (life) and at any given point on that journey you're still taking part in it. You can choose to end the journey at any point, but hopefully the affects of that journey will continue to affect the epic tale of life.

 

sue u git the sweetest voice awwww
but back in track
i cant imagine cutting mone . i did that once and was traumatized



if u wanna shave your head bald u can it dont mayter your still you (and still loveable and sexy too)
whatever u do do for u but give it thought..dont just hack away ona whim..think about it a few days at least

oh and.,.what the hell u doin with a comb and scossoes anyway? u dont need em throw em away remopve the temotation and the insyruments and then if the urge hits u gotta go buy new impliments of destruction to get the job done

love u

 

oh no no
i dont feel poorly about them, it's just that i missed my straight hair and i wanted it again. other people have no sway in my personal decisions either so thats not a factor.

 

hi
ah mah goodness, why do people think i'm worried about what others think??? i never said nuthin like that! only i said i missed my long straight hair! i LOVE DREADS i LOVE straight hair, can't have both but obviously i chose dreads. doesn't mean i won't miss my former hair.

 

that's a good idea too, thank you. i need to print some pics out and hang them up around the casa.

 

hehe my brushes got drop kicked out the window long ago, but the scissors i can't get rid of cause i sew lol

 

Never said you did, just said one should never have to feel that way. Sorry...I tend to go a bit "off" but still somewhat "on topic" in threads.....You're dreads are beautiful, stick with em!

 

better yet....i'll move in with a