theres this boy i knwo. we dont talk a lot, we dont hang out a lot, but whenver we're together we always end up making out for long periods of time and it's quite enjoyable. at a party i ran amuck with his brother ( we didnt do anything sexual) and since that even he hasnt spoken a word to me and will barely look me in the eye. its been bothering me since the event occured in midaugust. so i've decided to end my fretting tomorrow with a direct: i really like you do you like me too? and then with a yes or a no the whole thing will be over. but my mom is useless for any non-cryptic advice and she said i should "tread lightly, for males do not always have the best communication skills and might be intimidated.". so i dont know what to do. especially since tomorrow i am supposed to start a measure of time in which i am to be silent and thus shouldnt be talking at all. he is that important to me that i may speak anyway, or might it be better to proceed nonverbally? would that somehow level the playing field? i hope i get some responses by morning, i am deeply muddled.
I'm confused, you dig this guy, so you thought it would be a good idea to kiss his brother at a party? And you are wondering why he won't talk to you? Sort out all of your feelings and seriously think about it from his perspective. How would you feel if someone did that to you. More than likely he was just shy and that is why he didn't talk to you much or hang out with you, but obviously you can't keep your lips to yourself and he figured that out the hard way. He probably thinks that he means nothing to you because you kiss all sorts of random guys. Sorry, I'm not trying to be mean, but that is how it very damn well looks. good luck.
i never kissed his brother. seriously ran amuck= messed with my friend, were childish and threw tenniss balls at people and each other and then we crashed in the hammock together. i didnt kiss him, alothough the older bro tried to i said no. i kiss him on the cheek and the lips all the time but no tongue. we'v been friends for awhile. and actually i can kind of see clearer. your post was kind of angry so i figure maybe he feels that way. ahh i have one more day...
Well I'm sure whatever the situation is, a non-verbal approach is never healthy... (I've been there a lot, it just doesn't work!) It sounds to me like he probably felt that you were flirting with his brother even though you might not have viewed it that way. A lot of people I knew were like that. Ask him, cause he might not vent it to you.
lol angry? I don't know either of you. Not angry in the least bit, I was completely confused by what you were saying. Why would I be angry? I was trying to see if I understood it. Obviously I didn't get it. Ok now that I better understand the situation, I say you should just talk to him and be upfront with your feelings. It sounds to me like neither of you has come out and said how you feel about each other so there is so much room for interpretation there that both of you are reading into things and making assumptions which is never good for any kind of relationship. It is best to be upfront. I think he digs you (can't imagine why else he would keep making out with you) he is probably shy though, so don't pressure him. Just leave it light, and give him some time to take it all in and think about it. And most important, try not to have any expectations one way or the other. I really do hope it works out for you. I'm sorry you felt that my first post was angry, really it wasn't I tried to explain that at the bottom of it. Peas
no dude it's cool, i didnt mean like *RaPtOr CAW!* angry i meant like you were very clear on your thoughts on the ridiculosity of my behavior. so that's good. yes, the situation is at stalemate right now i guess nothings gonna happen for awhile. but whatever, it's cool
