What Do Women Think Of A Man Crying???

I am just curious about this. When a women sees a man cry, do they see it as them being weak or do they see it as the man is able to be open with his emotions?? Do women think it is good that a man can let out his emotions, instead of not crying and keeping everything in?? What are your thoughts on this??

 

Hard to say. I think it depends on what he's crying about. To me...people who never cry, come off as callous/unfeeling. And a guy who's not ashamed to shed tears, in front of those he's close to, seems stronger to me, than a guy who's afraid to do so.

On the other hand, a man who cries often (tragic events withstanding), usually strikes me as being way overly emotional, or weak. Say if he cries just because he happened to have a sucky day at work, or because he can't find his favorite golf club that he's been looking for months on end. But if his child died...he could cry for hours, every day for 2 months, and I would see absolutely nothing weak about it. So yeah, it really just depends.

 

Yes, BrownTripleQQ, it depends on the situation...

I think it takes a lot of gutz for a man to cry... so when he actually sheds a tear... would it be weird to say it kinda turns me on? It shows me that he is emotional and sensitive and vulnerable...

It doesn't bother me in the least, actually.

Now, I don't want him boo-hooing every 5 minutes... that's my job

 

I think... only if it was an extreme situation would a man crying not turn me off completely. Like a family member dying. If a guy wept over a movie that didn't even make me tear up in the slightest.... ugh, not my cup of tea. I like strong men (and a man stronger than seems to be in short supply these days)

 

I wouldn't judge someone on whether they cried or not... I'd probably think 'I wonder what happened' just like I'd think if I saw a woman cry in public. I don't like to judge people on such stuff.

 

because women are generally more predisposed to crying when upset than men, when i see a man crying it seems very serious and sincere. i saw my grandpa crying for the first time in my life at his mother's funeral, and it was sort of shocking. a lot of men keep up this unshakeable surface appearance, and it's surprising to see them finally succumb to their emotions.

 

nitemarehippy didn't you used to live in TX? how did you get to live in Canada! you lucky!


i dont think anything about it when a man crys. we all need to.

 

I don't like it when anyone crys. I hate to see people in pain, and I never know how to react. I don't know if I should hug them or hold their hand or talk to them or leave them alone or what. I guess it's because I myself don't normally cry in front of people. Not to say that I don't cry, because I cry pretty easily, but I almost never people to see me cry. I wish I wasn't so embarrassed about it, but I am.

As for guys crying? Well, everyone cries. Some cry more than others, but no one's gone their entire life without shedding a tear or two. It's human. I feel uncomfortable around people when they cry, as I have said, but I don't feel anything particularly different when a man cries as a opposed to when a woman cries. Because, yeah, as a whole, guys tend to not cry as much, but my brothers cry easier than I do. I mean, there are a lot of things you can't judge based on the group. A lot of things are individual.

 

i thikn men should be able to cry if thats how they feel. as far as women bein turned off by it, then the guy is definately better off without her. apearances of strength, and actual strength are two different things entirely. if my woman ever told me to stop cryin, i'd tell her to stop working, or stop voting.

 

i think it takes a lot of strength to be able to cry. we've been so conditioned not to let our 'negative' emotions show. i think this applies to women as much as it does to men. it's just not really socially acceptable to cry, especially in public.

 

My boyfriend cries occasionally and I think it's the greatest thing in the world. Whenever I cry and he can't make it better, he'll shed a tear or two. It makes me feel like he's emotionally in tune with me rather than the "average" guy who would either ignore me or run away.

On the whole, guys have to be more confident to cry rather than the guys who bottle it all up inside.

 

Open, in most cases.

I don't know any men who cry at the drop of a hat. There are hormones involved, which make womyn and small children more easily cry. It is actually harder for men to cry than for womyn. Physically. Much of it is conditioning, but some of it is hormonal. Men have significantly less prolactin than womyn do, and it is just easier to cry when you have a large supply of prolactin. (Which is the reason pregnant and nursing womyn cry at Johnson Baby Shampoo commercials and Mr. Roger's....)

My dh is pretty manly and VERY strong, but he cries when he needs to, sometimes even at movies (the man cannot get through It's A Wonderful Life without tearing up.) I don't think him weak at all. He doesn't cry when he can't find his keys (I do LOL) but sometimes I'll find him crying about his brother, who died when they were kids in a freak accident. He's in touch. I think it is healthy.

 

If my man needs to cry, then I only hope I am there with arms to hold him when he does, as he holds me, when I need to cry.

It does not matter why he needs to cry, only that he is able to cry.

Tears cleanse us all......it is a sign of balance to be able to let that emotion go and a clarity of inner strength.

Strange question.

 

Crying is crying, good for everyone. I don't judge on that. Its when anyone, male or fem crosses the line into whiney fucks that I can't stand whatever their sex is.

 

I prefer a man that can cry over one that can't cause it shows that he's not weak and give into to the old saying "men don't cry" (any man that beleaves that is weak and scared). Unless of course he cried every two seconds over little things. Then that gets annoying with anyone, period. But I don't like it when anyone crys, male or female. I rather people to be happy of course.

 

I certainly don't enjoy it when my man cries. But it's good that he does. I wish he would get more emotional about other things rather than just how awful I am sometimes, but at least he gets it out.

Usually he bottled everything up inside so when he explodes and cries it's not a pretty picture.

 

I'd be moved.

 

I don't know...if it is in a situation where a someone dies or is very ill or something I don't mind and I can understand it. But I don't like seeing him crying over a movie or something. I like strong men.

And I think men not crying has to with society partly, but women wanting men to cry has to do with society as well. It seems like everybody on TV cries, watch Oprah for example. I don't know what that is.

 

I've only seen my husband cry a few times. It's touched my heart to see him do it, because he is not one to do things like that too often. Now if he was a boo-hoo-er like myself, I'd be turned off by it. *lol* I express all of my emotions quite freely.

Peace.

 

I think there's nothing at all wrong with a man crying. If a man doesn't cry, then there's pent up emotions inside that don't emerge which isn't good.