What do you do if you find out AFTER

You are married with children ( and are still married) that you might be lesbian? How do you deal with it? what do you do? I am so glad I found this thread because I am so confused. Any advice?

 

i've known a few guys that were married with kid(s) and then realized that they were attracted to men. i think everyone deals with things their own way. my uncle's partner (my other uncle) was one (with kid). his partner's new boyfriend is too. it could be a lot of thigns going on inside. in the end, no matter what, you have to make the final decision of what to do.

 

I don't exactly see how you could just descover you were a lesbian after being married with children. Do you still like men? I mean you love your children do you love their father? It's not a cut and dry answer. I think you should just chill out and see what happens. But if you wait and decide yep I'm a lesbian I need to get out of this heterosexual relationship then devorce your husband and go find a nice woman to be with. Let the children on slowly and don't tell the father if you want custody .... cause being a lesbian might give him perminant custody. Well that's all just my advice, but this is comming from a gay man so what do I know about lesbian issues?

~Dante

 

I think one would have to consider the relationship with their current partner before taking any action with another. You should question yourself as to your feelings for your current spouse. Are you in love with him? Are you sexually attracted to him? Could it be that you may have thoughs and feeling towards women, but are still in love with your hubby? There are bisexuals who don't discover it until after they've hooked up with someone. But that doesn't mean they're not still in love with their significant other. It just means they've discovered a new aspect of their sexuality. So... how do you feel about your husband and do you feel it's worth it to risk your current marriage to explore your newfound sexuality? If you take a moment to consider these questions, then you'll know what you need to do. Either way, it's going to be hard on someone.

I'll support you no matter what decision you make. If you give us more info on your situation, maybe we can help you figure out how you'd want to handle this.

*mad hugs*
Mono