What is the best way to respond to insults?

Obviously it must be instant. I'm thinking grab their head with one hand and strike them underneath the nose with the base of your hand. Or maybe drop to the floor grab their ankle and kick their knee repeatedly until it gives in. The noise the the cartilage breaking would alleviate the feeling of anxiety generated by the insult pretty quickly. Alternately you could carry around mace, or just a bottle of hot sauce to rub in their eyes real quick so no one else knows what's happened, if they press charges they have no real proof.

Or perhaps the idea that you should not use violence haha. Some christians suggest turning the other cheek and telling the insulter you forgive them, I'm not sure what effect that would have, maybe I will try it and if no desirable effect is produced I will resort to violence. I know how much some of you people hate christians so let's get a more "progressive" solution on the table, Gandhi suggested doing nothing but I already learnt in high school that ignoring bullies does not make them go away, it makes them turn your friends against you. In my heightened teenage emotional state I was traumatised into never backing down from bullies, so for me at least that is not an option.

Do you guys have any other ideas? I put this in the men's issues forum because I may require manly solutions.

 

I usually say whatever they say and agree with people who insult me. People are always taken aback when you play into their rantings and public shoutings. Some people just like to be heard.

 

That would work in some situations but there are some insults you cannot respond to like that. If someone is being condescending or some other form of sarcasm or you have to shout across a room in order to communicate with them then you cannot do that.

 

Pointing and laughing REALLY hard at them works.. if they're male you can tell em their fly's unzipped.
Violence is the last resort, I'd never bother with it for just verbal insults. However if someone tried to physically assault me that's different, the shithead would go home in an ambulance.

 

^I agree, plus laughing can help as well.

 

Settle down there fella, i don't think you need to kick in any ones knees just because of words, grow some thicker skin. You sound like you have been traumatized, perhaps you should focus on trying to recover from that damage instead of thinking about possible confrontations.

 

No matter what, just tell them that is why their mother wont quit drunk dialing you.

 

"An insult is like a drink, it only affects you if you accept it."

Responding to words with violence shows one to be a hot head and diminishes one's reputation.
Ignoring the insult increases your reputation as a man of discernment, with a well developed sense of proportion.
Replying with a clever response increases your reputation as a quick wit.

 

In my line of work, I get insulted every day.

I simply ignore them, and hand them their traffic ticket(s), etc.

And that's really the best policy. If you run around responding to fools, you'll never get any rest. Works the same on the internet. Someone gratuitously insults me, I just ignore them from that point on, because they really have nothing to say.

Now, if someone actually bullies you, knock some teeth out. That usually puts a stop to that sort of nonsense.

 

You can ignore them.

The best method of dealing with condescension is to show them exactly how much you value their opinion.

IE, not at all.

Example: The user here who calls himself "self-control". He decided during a conversation to employ sarcasm and condescension. From that point forward, he simply doesn't exist...After all, it's not like he has anything to SAY (if he did, he would have said it, rather than act like an ass).

Probably doesn't bother him much, but who cares? I am only concerned with what bothers ME, and he no longer does.

Same goes with jackasses in daily life. Just blow them off. They aren't worth the grief.

 

There's nothing manly about responding to verbal insults with violence.

 

Don't let them get to you, if you do you are dragged down to they're level, just consider the source, or maybe kick them in the nut's, no thats wrong only kidding, just move on.

Peace

 

Insult them back. But I usually don't give a fuck what others say to me unless it was really insulting and i know they are starting something. i would just snuff'em and leave him be.

 

there is one hell of alot of high quality help out in the world today! over the past about 30 years, the social sciences have, spent one hell of alot of time, examining bulling and mobbing in human interactions. i'll give you two very good introductery resourses. there is a book by a psychologist named gary namie, it is entitled "the bully at work." namie is one of the two top authories in the u.s.a. on bullying; you can get namies' book at any bookstore, or you can order it. you can also get at the libaray, if they don't have it, ask them about inter-libaray loan. the second resourse, is a group at yahoo! groups called "bully on line." you can join it for free. it is one hell of a great resource! you will find people who are/have gone through what your going through. they can be a great help to you. i apologize for my poor writing, my mental state is screwed up today due to allerigies. i know this stuff will be a god send to you. it sure in the hell was to me!

 

1 don't give people reason to insult you

2 when someone insults you for no reason you try to understand their perspective, they probably have trouble at home or some deep psychological problem. you should voice these concerns immediately and openly to people who insult you - and tell them that if they needed to talk about their problems to you that you would be willing to turn a listening ear.

that should do the trick.

 

If someone insults me in a forum I ignore it, or I point out that he is insulting me because he cannot answer my argument.

 

A real man responds to insults with nothing else but a punch to the teeth and a size 10 shoe up the poop chute.

 

^^ Violent SOB, aren't you?

 

sometimes it's the only right way to go.

 

i'd say take them as compliments. most people are so backward headed what they intend as insults usually are!

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