What is with women's 'Rape fantasies'

I wanted to ask this because I could never understand it - I have a friend who tells me his girlfriend asks him to pretend to rape her sometimes, and it really freaks him out.

But I've heard of more then one isolated incident, there are a *lot* of girls that enjoy rape fantasies, mind you - that means not a stranger, but a boyfriend fucking them and pretending to be forcing the act on them.

What do you girls think? Is this a normal thing, or abnormal?

 

I always kind of liked it, too, even though we never went all out with a full fantasy thing... he would just get kind of rough and mean.... yumm.... I couldn't tell you why it's so much fun, though. Real rape is such an awful thing. Surely there's some kind of thing online that has broken it all down for you...

 

Sigh, I can't seem to sleep tonight, so let me speculate so that I can fall asleep.

One thing is for sure, while choosing mates, in our human species- Men choose youthful women and women choose strong men.

While choosing however, its not exactly a choice- its more like a mother nature tells you do it type of a thing. Women are turned on by strong men because - it will give her babies strong genes.

The men are attracted to youthful women because they have more eggs and youth symbolizes good health.

So, when Men show power, strength and a little roughness- its actually pleasing in a sexual act because the woman is programmed to like it .

Rape however is wrong, but roughness on the male part and submissiveness on the female part is something that is very attractive to both many females and many males. **** because our bodies are animals!****

This also explains why women say they want nice guys , but still stay with men who are complete dorks .

Its because a woman's definition of what nice is "safe". Safe for her, but dangerous for others. wierd- but true.

 

Honestly i'm pretty opened minded sexually. But to me that is really sick. Taking something as serious as that. Where many womens lives have runed and thrown in kaos. Then turn it into sexual game, honestly i don't get it. I have nothing against rough sex if both consent. But putting into a rape fantasy is just not right.

 

I can tell you that NO womyn wants to be raped. Some womyn may have these types of fantasies (I don't know because I don't have them and it isn't something I talk to with my womyn freinds) but I know, psychologically, it occurs in womyn who feel guilty about sex and the fantasy of "no control" releives some of the guilt of enjoying sex.

NEVER confuse these fantasies with womyn wanting to be raped. It is probably the most horrible ordeal a womyn can confront. Most womyn who do have these fantasies would be rudely awakened if they were raped. Having a fantasy about something in a safe enviroment, with someone you trust, who you KNOW will stop if you ask him is totally different than really having this happen.

People have fantasies about a lot of things they would never want to happen in real life.

 

i have fantasies about all sorts of things that i would never dream of actually wanting to do in real life, it would be awful. that's why they're fantasies. two women in my immediate family have been raped, i'm the one who escaped unscathed. i live in terror of rape. however, i sometimes feel like my husband gives me a little too much respect in bed. do i feel bad about that? no way. if i like my husband to get a little, can we say, rude, in bed, i'm not going to feel at all bad about it. i have no guilt for my sexuality, i've always revelled in it, because it's something so precious to me, something that hasn't been stolen from me by violence.

 

I hate the idea of being raped but I relish the idea of being taken advantage of!

 

Maybe the woman just wants to be dominated a bit....without the serious threat and damage that occurs in a real rape.

 

well, that's it exactly. sometimes our sexual desires make no sense at all, feeling guilt for them is nonsense. we are sexual animals, and sometimes our hangups interfere too much with our baser pleasures. one of the reasons i adore dave so much is that he IS such an alpha male, a naturally dominant leader. however, in his dealings with me, he's very delicate and sensitive. sometimes i really don't want him to be. i want him to let go, and i want to know that i'm the one that brought him to that point. it makes me feel like a very powerful female.

 

well, im not so fond of it.. ok what am i saying? of course the idea is sort of arousing. but i don't want to "literally" get raped, but if my guy acted like a really naughty animal and didnt hit me but just tease me like tie me up or something and shag really hard.. like bang me then yeah, i'd be chill with that, yeah.

 

well Nisha, thats why its a rape "fantasy" I doubt any human really wants to be raped....I know i don't.

 

i've had a few close shaves to being raped... so that fantasy took a looot of time to develop. yes, i know i don't also.

 

You're, like, 15, Nisha.

 

rough evil hardcore fake rape sex is amaaaaaaaaaaaaaazing. I dig the rape fantasies, i wont lie. As long as they don't get carried away, cuz like everyone said before, the real thing is nottttt cool at all...

 

i think it's sick.... ummm yup

 

It would kinda freak me out, rape is one of the worst things you could ever do to a person, I just dont think i could even pretend to rape a chic...

 

it is essentially rough sex right...if both people want it that way I hardly see whats sick about it.


Listen to what KC has to say, she doesn't always want her man to be sweet and gentle in bed.

i had a girlfriend who liked that kind of stuff, pulling hair, pinning her down etc. She wanted it that way.

I think any guy could get into it if their girl wanted them to.

I'm not saying we pretended it was a true rape, no fake weapons or anything

 

Getting a little rowdy or rough in bed is NOT the same as rape. Rape is an unwanted attack, where the victim has NO say in what goes on. Asking a dude to do it rough....well, she's in control, it isn't anything like rape. Rough sex is rough sex. It isn't rape. Or even pretending to be.

 

Well no shit, i didn't say rough sex is the SAME as rape.


Why is there something wrong with a woman wanting to be pretend raped, she is still in control because its a mind thing and a desire of hers! If thats what a woman likes, it isn't hurting anyone so whats wrong with it....its not like anyone is advocating rape here!

 

some poeple have sex when they're ridiculously young too.