What makes a good best friend?

I've been thinking about what makes a good friend. Maybe even a best friend. Can you find a new best friend within a short period of time? Or do you have to know the person for a while. Is there a certain amount of strength or trust that is essential to a friendship?

 

Let it happen, don't force it. My two best buddies happenned after high school. We all knew each other for years but never hung around together. One of them and I never even got along. Not sure exactly how it happenned but over the course of the summer we became inseparable. The guy I didn't like at first got killed in a motorcycle accident but the other guy and I see each other every 10 years or so, He's in Alaska, I'm in Michigan, but when we do it's like we just saw each other yesterday.

 

Loyalty. I believe that if you meet someone who is truly loyal they already come with many good traits. Some of them are kindness, helpfulness, respectful. It may be just me, but some people ive met who truly are loyal human beings to whatever the cause may be, have always been good people with many years of friendship.

The best friends ive had and lost was always from one of us moving, not because we didn't get along, or got imto some huge fight we couldn't talk over, no no, we were always loyal.

You can find a good best friend whatever you want to call it in a short time, of course. The real test is time itself, will you still be as good friends when you are now 20+ years older? Some people change with age, others don't.

If im in a room with 10 people, 9 of them i don't trust, chances are im going to leave sooner rather than later. You have to have trust for any friendship to work, other wise they become a foe.

Some people ive met at parties our personalties got along real well and we hit it of fast. Other times it takes awhile to beocme friends as both of us may hold words in and remain on the quiet side. As long as we have an interest to get to know the individual, good things will come.

 

Only people i know who are older than about 30 who have friends at all, are still running around with people they hung out with when they were in high school or college.

 

I wouldn't know, I've never had one. Unless you count cats.

 

Dammit... I was going to say that!

 

My dog is my best friend. I guess I could count my old lady as a best friend, she knows me better than I know myself. Sometimes you need a friend outside of your relationship though.

 

Or dogs

 

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best friends happen, you cant make them

 

Compatability, consistency, dependancy (you look for, or simply start with each other's company when you wanna "go have fun"), etc. I had a very good best friend that fit all these needs. Unfortunately he was too smart for his own good and decided to become a meditating hermit.

Are you fucking shitting me lol.

 

Trust , ride or die that makes a good friend

 

I've had 3 really good girl friends over the years. One I met in elementary school, one I met in middle school, and the other I met in my twenties but we actually went to the same middle and high school and have a million mutual friends. She felt like an instant sister, the other two girls have been in my life long enough to actually be sisters.

Its hard for me to develop friendships. I can do instant friendships with guys for some reason, but with girls it takes a long time for me to feel comfortable in the friendship.

 

a good friend knows when you need them and is there to support you without asking

 

honesty, responsibility, generosity, creativity, in approximately that order.

 

Damn right!

A good friend is someone who'd bail you out of jail.

 

a good friend has an obligation to nothing

they just are.

 

Friends can be good in different ways. It's silly to exclude them from their informal title of good friend if they wouldn't meet all the requirements. It's acceptance of eachother but sometimes it's about not accepting everything from each other as well... :willy_nilly:

 

Your own willingness to withhold nothing.

 

I pretty much always disliked the 'best friend' idea. Perhaps if you have one good friend this goes up but otherwise it seems rather lame to me.

 

Loyalty kind of the same morals as you as well. My two besties we met in high school. They were 3 years older and met in intermediate. Didn't hang out much at school but when i was 13 i went to a high school party and one of them called me a little shit and started mixing my drinks so i wouldn't get too drunk. The other said 'since ur a little shit a quarter of a smoke for u' lol they kept me company and said to kick back and laugh at the idiots vomiting out their cheap wine.
But we really bonded when cops came n we got separated at this huge park 3 fields. i made it home grabbed a knife and ran back out to find them in the park. We bumped into each other and the two were looking for me holding a 2by4 wood thing lol To this day we have done so many amazing things together, and we trust each other so much, we have argued a couple times over food or cooking haha. We realized when i was 18 we all were bastards (parents not married) us three were not raised by our parents cos they worked. And our star signs. one was water, other air and im on a cusp fire/earth. We even planned to get retirement homes together. There was always laughter and lots of drinking, food, smoking weed, laughing at guys when we leave them ash on a joint and they toke on it and say they feel gooooood hahahahhha great friends are hard to find. I'm fortunate to have found my honest to goodness soul mates (not lesbian).