what makes someone a good parent?

well?

 

Paying attention.

 

Love and responsability.

 

Money.

 

having children?

 

I think the emphasis lies on good.

 

Good parents constantly re-evaluate their performance and their role. They put an incredible amount of thought into what being a parent should mean, how they can help their children, what they could be doing more or less of, because parenthood is the most important aspect of their lives, and because they are open to learning along the way...

This means they are open-minded and willing to accept whoever the person they've created turns out to be. They are prepared to gently guide them rather than trying to mould them. If a good parent discovers that their child has a love of dinosaurs, they will buy them dinosaur books or pretend to be a dinosaur during games, because they want to encourage learning. A good parent will listen to what their children are telling them about who they are and what they like.

Good parents are fun. A good parent is adaptable because they are friends with their children as babies, toddlers, little children and big children.

Good parents set themselves up as a point of trust. They tell their children they can always come to them if they have any worries about life, and they will respectfully listen and help where possible.

Good parents try not to dump any of their own hangups or issues on their children.

Good parents teach what they know with honesty, patience and enthusiasm, answering any questions as best they can.

Being in a stable relationship, owning a house and having a steady income are also highly beneficial, but you can be a good parent without these things. My mother was.

There are also basics like adequate nutrition, ensuring safety, giving clean clothes etc, which it is pretty much assumed that anyone with the means who isn't abusive will do anyway.

 

^excellant. In my case ,it would have been nice for them to have just stuck around. So it goes.

 

unconditional love

 

I think it's unconditional love and a willingness to put your child's needs way above your own, whatever those may be.
I don't think that financial stability or being in a stable relationship are necessary.
every family has a different situation, so it's hard to draw a line between good parent and bad parent. there is a lot of gray area.
but I think unconditional love is a good place for a good parent to start.

 

I think it's unconditional love and a willingness to put your child's needs way above your own, whatever those may be.
I don't think that financial stability or being in a stable relationship are necessary.
every family has a different situation, so it's hard to draw a line between good parent and bad parent. there is a lot of gray area.
but I think unconditional love is a good place for a good parent to start.

 

oops double post

 

No one knows for sure - It is a balance I think between allowing the freedom of enterprise, spiritual adventure and individualality whilst promoting tolerance, respect and positvity in defined parameters.
All that I encourage my girls to do, is to ensure that whatever they do they should
"Be Good - Be Safe"
The proof will be the leagacy

 

telling your kids that you love them unconditionally , which my father never told me , not even once

 

i love you unconditionally:daisy:

 

I think being a good parent means to be the person you want your children to be.

This does not mean to force your desires upon them, but simply to live and be the way you would want them to live and be.

 

that's a good way to look at it.

 

Being there.

 

I think Fingermouse summed it nicely.

I will add that good parents realize that they are not perfect and neither are their children.
Good parents recognize they don't know all the answers, and often times, their children can actually teach them.
Good parents are mentors, whether they are the biological parents, adoptive parents, or a teacher, etc. Just because your are a biological parent or maybe even an adoptive parent, doesn't make you a good parent.

 

what about when the situation doesn't allow it?