What percent of guys are great in bed?

This question is for both the men and women (no discrimination here). However, I am particularly interested to hear women's views on this one since I feel they have inaccurate assumptions when it comes to this matter (based on their own statements).

So the question is, what percentage of guys out there are AMAZING in bed? In other words, what are the chances of a girl encountering a guy with porn star type talent in the sack? 1 in 1000? 1 in 10,000? 1 in a million??

For guys, you can reverse the question or just leave it as is and answer the same if your experience is with men. So... discuss!

 

Out of all the guys I have slept with( about 20) Only one was awesome to the degree of porn-star sex. so for me 1 in 20. Which is 5%.

 

since about 90% of the women are going to answer "only my current lover," the percentage basically comes down to how many past lovers each has had.

 

The few guys I have been with have each brought something new to the table, bed, floor etc

 

I like that.....ect

 

From my experiences as a guy it takes two to have great sex! It doesn't really matter how great one of the people are if the other one is terrible the sex is not going to be so great.

 

I don't know I mean the majority of porn stars both male and female have horrid sex skills. They just shake what's right, moan the loudest and rely on the camera. For instance, how many times have you read about someone being awful in bed yet they just say that they were imitating what the stars were doing? I've actually heard it in person a lot of time.

 

The question is not meant to be a comparison to porn stars. I never meant to imply that porn stars set the bar, and you certainly don't have to be a porn star to be great in bed.

That being said, to suggest that most porn stars have horrid sex skills would be ridiculous. Yes, they are performing for the camera, but it's their job to put on a great performance. So you can't suck at sex and be a porn star. Think of it like the Globe Trotters or the AND1 teams in basketball. Those guys are putting on a show but they still have amazing skills. Yeah, many of them may not be able to play in the NBA, but they're certainly better than the weekend warriors who think they got game.

 

Yesterday I was shopping for a new phone in Bondi and I had a 6 yr old give me the snotty princess routine, she was with her Dad only, mum not around of course. Spotted me instantly, walked straight up to me in a crowded shop, straight into talking about who designed her shoes and outfit, little looks around to make sure everyone else was paying attention, striked a few poses, giggled when I acted impressed. Dad looked mighty confused. A 6 yr old, fuckin hell.

That might not seem relevant to this thread, but just how early that attention thing starts is. Just how early some of them get their PhD in knowing how to handle, well everyone

This is the kind of thing where I think most of you go wrong. Porn is aimed at guys, where everything is done to you, mostly with guys with big ramrods you can imagine yourself as, so you feel more manly.

The jerk, bad boy stereotype may get you some of the neurotuc ones, but it wont get you top shelf, not talking about 6yr olds of course, but what that 6yr old will turn into 15 years later

You have to feed that ego, smooth, suave, shaken not stirred and also humiliate yourself with constant affirmations about how fine she is, how lucky you are to be with her, a whole lot of attention for what ultimately in the end is likely to be crap sex and overdrawn credit cards. But they are the ones that get most attention from guys, despite how often you all claim to be concerned with sex

Or at least 90% know they have to put the guys ego first, If they tell you the truth, that hes pretty crap but easy to whip, then you are not really going to rush to steal her away from him

Or its the other way around, horny at everything to begin with, you know you are going to get off just as quick as most of the guys, then no trying to train them, no stress about "being taken advantage of". More likely to put sex before attention.

And as luck would have it for the straight male population, 90% of them are cold fish to begin with, more interested in getting attention for being a pretty little princess, or talking (all the fuckin time), or playing victim so they get attention, or only get horny when they are pregnant ( the real reason most of us exist)


As for the gay side of things, you put it in as a default PC option, even though I know you dont really give a shit, but I'll tell you anyway - pretty much the same, only about 10% of them really know what they are doing, and I'm talking about the gay ones not the bi ones, bi ones pretty much by default dont know what they are doing cos you are going to get the "I dont do everything" chestnut.

So I only have 10% of 2% to work with, which equals 0.2%. So I'll come off sounding snotty and arrogant, guys pissy with me if I make fun of the "truth" to the way most girls are. Even though you all have 10% of 50% to work with, which equals 5%.

Me 0.2%, you 5% And I'll still end up the bad guy. Worse comes to worse, $200 bucks or whatever it is, you guys can just go get yourself a slutty asian hooker. theres no such thing as a brothel where the local firefighters line up for you. The "gay" ones are for Priests and Teachers to feel guilty with rentboys that most of the time arent even gay.

The short version: Which guys are good in bed?, the ones that care more about their ego before sex. Which girls are going to be good in bed? the ones that care more about sex before their ego

 

Ok, let me reiterate again for the record. When I made the porn star reference, it was in a "figurative" sense. Reason being that many people associate great sex with a “porn star type experience”. Again… By no means am I trying to say that porn stars are the gold standard for great sex. For anyone who still does not get this, please replace the “porn star type” phrase in my question with “phenomenal”.

Interesting insight. So you feel that only 10% of the male and female population are great in bed, and that being a great lover is about what's in your head rather than what you're able to do physically?

I'll certainly give you that the mental aspect plays a role in whether the sex turns out good (between the participants in general), but I don't believe mentality alone can make someone great. IMO, the major difference between being just good vs being amazing in bed is about practice/experience, knowing what to do, as well as being in tune with your own body. This is why a virgin will never be as skilled in bed as a seasoned veteran... no matter what their mentality is.

 

Less than 5% have impacted my memory in a favorable way.

 

BecauseI have only had 1 sexual intercourse partner so far, I would like to experience it with another female for a bit of extra spice in my life to see how far she is willing to go with my other various fantasies. Either with someone much younger or about my age or less?

 

In my personal experience I would say maybe 25% are great, but only 10% are really "holy fuck what did you just do to me?!" great. By comparison about 5% were just bad.

 

It's very subjective though, I really can't say.

xxaru, also when you say "in bed" are you referring to ALL sex acts and their yield result or just sexual intercourse yield result? I think you mean everything but more clarification is still needed to be safe.

 

Vanilla, anybody that has younger relatives living with them, like siblings, can tell you that the "seeking attention thing" happens almost immediately from the womb.

Both boys and girls try to charm others for affection and attention.
It's also probably an evolutionary trait for survival.

I'd say it begins around age 2 actually, hence the "terrible two's" phrase in the context of parenting. This is my subjective opinion though.

What exactly was your situation? That kid not given the stranger danger lecture yet?

 

Yes! now that's the adjective I should've used instead of "porn star"

If by intercourse you mean "penetration", I wasn't really differentiating that from the other acts. If I hooked up with a girl and all she did was blow me, but her skills were phenomenal I'd still say she was great (even though there was no penetration). So it's more about the overall performance of the particular encounter. Like Karilove said... it's that "holy fuck what did you just do to me" factor. If a girl can make me say that from a blow job, then it qualifies

 

The female will tell the guy if he's good in bed in one way or another.
The more he does in bed for her, the better.

 

If you are asking the question as in how do I be a player. You'd have to be more concerned about actually being a player. More so than being interested in sex. Being classed in that category of "What the fuck did he just do to me" Would involve making her cum 20+ times over 10 hrs, a lot of which would involve stuff you may not classify as sex. Or even if it involves penetration requires you to hold back from cumming and bang away for hours. But mostly not penetration, smooth, eye heat, hands, fingers through the hair etc. Then there is the talking, sitting there pretending to be interested in every little insignificant thought that enters their head, or bother with the experience of knowing how to turn them from talking about their sisters kids back to flirty innuendo

Then on top of that, as a guy you dont really go through life stressing about what they do: every other chic, and the threat of violence from other guys, even if its not real its scary. So you have to be secret agent as well, know in advance to suggest places where no one she knows is going to see. Not being the type she thinks is going to brag to his mates about her.

So you have to have a massive ego, but one you arent going to share with your mates, an ego you have to keep in check with around them, be the whole package, basically do everything for them, spend a fair bit of money, all to get them in the bedroom and then again do everything for them, all for whats going to be lame sex for you, so you get 5 mins of being treated like a god at the end, and no one else gets too see it - as opposed to going to a slutty hooker or bored horny housewife for a sloppy blow job for less or no money and being able to go home and get to sleep early

 

I don't know what the hell you're talking about here . This isn't about being a player, or a romantic, or how much money you have, etc. It's about how good you can fuck, period! All that other stuff, if it's not happening during the sex then it doesn't pertain to this thread.

And I'm not asking how to become a great lover. I already know the answer to that. You made comments suggesting that a person's mentality determines how good they are sexually, and I refuted that with my previous response. Then, instead of responding to the mental vs physical topic that we were discussing, you posted this (I don't know what) from way out of left field.

 

Do you guys think this percentage of guys who are become more skilled in bed is on the rise compared to previous decades past given our culture change about sex? The USA is not as uptight about it as it used to be, has that carried over into sexual knowledge and information that helps the bedroom or harms it?

^this is a good poll question too.

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Also Vanilla's comment was a bit left field imho, you're not alone in that perception xxaru.

But perhaps he was talking about how being a successful player-flirt affects the girl's mind-body connection, and thus often times translates into great sex? (I don't agree with his assertion that lots of $ is necessary for great sex though)

 

Lol, Okey Dokey