I don't know if this should go here exactly... but I need some advice. I have a friend who I haven't spoken to, or had a real conversation with in a long while. She is going out with this guy that I haven't met but I've seen him around before. I don't live in the same city as her anymore either so to have a face to face conversation with her would be hard. So to get to the point this guy shes going out with, they break up every so often so it seems and then get back together. But last night according to her MSN name it was their anniversary. They broke up and got back together that day as well. I looked at her Facebook profile and saw what he wrote in her wall... He wrote something along the lines of " you fucking Whore I hope you die" I don't know what happened between them or what that was concerning but I'm sincerely worried about her. I know I shouldn't jump to conclusions about whats happening but I can't help it I am. I dont want to sit here and let one of my friends be hurt ... But I honestly wouldn't know what to say to her or how even bring it up. I haven't spoken to her in maybe a year, but I still care about her. What I'm asking is... Should I say something?And if yes how should I bring it up? Or am I being a worry wart? Because I swear to god if this guy is hurting her I'd kick his ass. Any Advice is appreciated.
IMO, you might consider emailing her or calling, saying how it is a shame you have been out of touch, and could the two of you catch up. Then if she mentions the boyfriend, it provides an opening in the conversation - you could mention what he wrote.
Let it ride. But in the future, never say to her, "I knew he was no good for you, because of what he wrote...". It's part of gtrowing up and learning. If you interfere, even with the best intentions, you run the risk of her getting pissed of at you, and then you won't be talking to each other for another year, or more.
Interesting the way the advice has been divided along gender lines. With no disrespect intended to the gentlemen who posted responses, I think that were your friend a guy, he might see it as butting in but a woman would see it differently as long as you give her the opening and don't push. More often than not, women appreciate the concern of their friends in such situations and wouldn't consider it interference, particularly if you let her bring it up.
