I am realy into this girl who is a mate of mine whom I met in a class at college nearly three eyars ago now, I never told her I liked her and was working up the courage to ask her out. I eventually did ask her out a few months ago and she said no, we're still mates and talk on MSN and see each other from time to time out at clubs etc and sometimes she has said to me "next time your out and about give me a call" the problem is I am still interested in her and certain mate of mine who is also friends with her is telling me to get in there and that she is interested. I don't believe him and think he is just saying this to watch me make a arse out of myself by asking her out a second time. Other mates of mine also agree that she is interested and that asking a girl out more than once isn't pathetic. (a friend of mine asked a particular girl out like 7 times before she said yes and they were together for nearly three years) So now I have no idea what to do, whetherI should ask her out agin or not, other small problem is when ever I see her I turn to jelly (major case of nervousness around her), a prime example of this is when a mate who says she is interested happened to bump into her in a club, a few minutes later he brings her and all of her friends over and is all like "Look who I found" she sat next to me and said hello and asked how I was etc etc, and I so wished for the sofa I was sat on to swallow me. and finally she notices my mates across from us giving me ther thumbs up and so on, to which she asks "is this about you and me scoring" (or somthing to that line" to which I replied "whatever they say ignore them" ( i was drunk at the time and majorly regret that as I also said it in a way that kinda implied the conversation was over So please any opinions are welcome as I realy need some advice in this situation as it is driving me crazy also what might make this situation a little harder to deal with is that collge is over and I now will not see her every other day as I used to but now only once every few weeks
Faint heart never won fair lady, my friend. Buck up and go for it. It doesn't matter if she says no. If you want something you have to take be willing to take the risk of not getting it. After you've been denied a few times you get used to it -- it rolls right off and you move on to the next one. Besides, you might never get turned down... But you can't know until you ask.
exactly. life is about risks, and the person that doesnt take them is the person who ends up with whats left. youd be suprised how much people underestimate themselves. the 'cool guys' that you see get girls are probably just as nervous inside- but they suck it up and go for it. if it helps, just allow yourself to become a character... think of yourself as an attractive macho guy who can get any girl and just walk up to her and confidently ask her to dance. she wont say no. and if she does, then forget about her. good luck.
Yeah I think the above poster has a good idea as far as asking her to dance goes. I say ask her again.
Cowboy Up Mate' Easy to say sittin behind a computer say. She's into you Call with a PLAN and Listen to the women's advice They Know
one thing you will learn later in your life, if not you already know, is that people change... especially girls... keep trying dude... as long as it doesn't harm the friendship between you too... go all out...
ask her out on a date. that's the easiest way. make a night of it. i mean, she is friends with you, so, you know you already have a connection with her. so theres nothing to be nervous about. after a few more dates, if your really feeling a connection, ask her out again. if you start wussing out, think of it this way. if you never ask her, nothing will happen. but if you do ask her, theres at least a chance something will happen.
