what will the rules be for your kid?

If you ever have kids of your own, what would be your rules for bud?

I would tell my kids the truth about it first of all, i would let them no the myths out there, and let them know the facts behind weed. letting them know the possible risks and benefits people get from using it, and let them understand there is a difference between it and the other hard drugs like heroin, cocaine, and things.

regarding using it, i would be cool about it
, i would rather them smoke it at my house, than out sneaking around with their friends doing it out where they can get in trouble.

privelages would be taken away when grades go down or behavior and such, just as a parent would any other thing their kids enjoy when their not doing good in school or behaving badly.

i don't know if i would introduce it to em, but i would be open and honest, if they asked yes i do or i have smoked it, if they had an interest in it, i would let them smoke some with me, at our house, in a safe enviornment.

maybe some won't be so liniant about it, but some would.

what are/would be your rules regarding marijuana and your kids?

 

Exactly what you said, but I will teach them to enjoy it in moderation. My general rule for myself is weekends only, barring the occasional time in the week during the summer or whatever. I would hope that they follow this same guideline.

 

i think youve got it right, but it depends on how much trust is built early on in the parent/child relationship. if they dont trust you enough to come to you with ANY question then they may not trust you with drug questions

 

share.

 

I'd probably introduce it to them at around 15 and let em in on everything, teach em how to grow, and have them grow their own plant in my garden, whatever the plant yields they can toke up. I value education.

 

I wont lie to them about it. But, I wont be okay with it until after they turn 16, at least.

 

I pretty much agree with all of you. However, I think I would be a little more on the strict side. I would not introduce my children to it but I would talk about it openly and honestly. I would be willing to let them smoke at 16 but I would personally would not smoke with them until they were at least 18. There would be rules as well. Grades and such. You guys have the right idea but you also have to keep in mind that all it takes is one slip up from your child to get you and them into trouble. If this was liquor or cigarettes then it is different but being something that is illegal and in some circles looked down upon you have to be very careful. I have a niece that is 17 years old and I have smoked with her. However, if anything were to make me paranoid it would be her. She has told some of her friends, and all it would take would be one of her friends to rat me out to one of their parents and I would be looking at jail time. It's easy enough to see it happen. They get into an argument and one of them says well my friend's uncle smoke with so n so. Then they talk to her mother. I don't think my sister would rat me out to the cops but it would make for an interesting conversation. My parents don't think it's a big deal but they are not smokers. My dad said he tried it but not really.

 

Id let him do his own research, and make his own judgement on it if he ever decided he wanted to try it. And make sure hes older than 16.

 

i doubt i'll ever have kids, but if i do there will be absolutely no (permitted) smoking until they are at LEAST 16. smoking would only be acceptable on nights when there is nothing important to do the next day such as school. no friends would ever be allowed to come over and smoke under any circumstance, but if MY kid wants to smoke and all other criteria are met (age, responsibility) then it's okay. i'd prefer out back to their room though, and it wouldn't be going on in the living room and such. at seventeen i would be a bit more lenient about things, but wouldn't be totally cool with whatever until they were 18. and even then, no underaged friends could ever smoke in my house.

if they are 18 they can smoke however much they want whenever they want as far as i care, but if they are still living at home the stipulation is that they must be in school (and passing!) or have a decent job. they can't sit around all day getting high and expect me to buy everything for them.

i would be angrier about cigarettes or alcohol than herb if they got caught with something which they shouldn't have at the time.

 

I wouldn't go out of my way to catch them or punish them or anything. If they come home obviously baked, I'm not going to do anything (maybe cook them some food haha). If I like find their weed or their piece or something that clearly proves they DEFINITELY smoke weed then I'll probably sit them down and talk to them about it, just let them know that I don't care about weed as long as they keep their grades up and be responsible about it and all.

oh and i'd probably let them smoke in the house, like in designated areas like their room or if theres a basement or something. Cause i'd much rather them smoke somewhere safe than while driving or someplace sketchy where they could get caught. cause if my kid got arrested for weed i'd be really pissed.

 

come to think of it, yeah, i think i'd set up a nice comfortable area in the basement or something and keep all smoking by any family members restricted to down there. i don't like the idea of them smoking in their room so much, because i'd rather know when they are. if they can smoke in their room, for some reason i'd be worried about homework getting put off or something, or sneaking it when they shouldnt. it would be easier to keep an eye on how often they visit the basement.:sifone:

 

:smilielol5:

 

I would not set a certain age limit, i would rather observe there maturity, and then base my decision on that.


I like to think i am more mature than most kids at my age, and i think thats why my parents are fine with me toking.

 

I kind of look forward to the day I would catch my kid smoking. I would be like, hey give me that, then I would take a toke. I could then tell them that it was shit and to get better weed.

 

^lol, my dad doesn't smoke much these days, but once a couple years ago he asked "do you want to smoke a joint?" and i said okay and he went and rolled a really lousy one and we smoked it...it was weak and tasted like shit, but i didn't care...it was cool to smoke with my dad lol. the only other time we smoked together i was visiting and asked permission to smoke out back out of respect (not my house, i'd abused privaleges when younger without caring about their thoughts on the matter, etc. i thought it would be more polite to just ask, since they know i smoke anyway) and he asked "...smoke what?" and i said "some herb." ".......well....only if you share"

so i got out my bubbler and i packed it full of some half-decent herb (kinda beastery, but still pretty damn nice)

next day he still looked a little buzzed, came up to me and said "that stuff you had last night was REALLY good!" :sifone:


as for maturity, it is a big deal, but neurological development doesn't complete until early 20s, and regular smoking is VERY likely to interfere with proper development at least on some level. i think that waiting until 16 or 17 to start allowing -occasional- use is for the best, so long as use isn't too regular. if it's once a month or even every weekend that's one thing...if it's an everyday occurrance it isn't okay (if it's my kid - and thats the key word, kid )

 

Like the OP said, I would be open and honest about it if they came to me asking about weed or other drugs. If they wanted to smoke I also would rather it be in the house. I almost got caught several times outside and would not want to bail my kid out of jail. I knew a girl once who smoked with her parents. Not to say that the mere use of marijuana encouraged them to bond more...but yeah maybe it did because she was pretty tight with her parents. I'd like to be as close with my kids, rather than have them sneak around, especially when I had no problem in the first place. As long as it's in moderation. No coke heads in my house. lol

 

I'd introduce them to alcohol and Marijuana at quite an early age (11 or 12), but it would be kept to special occasions, and I would educate them on the benefits to Marijuana, and also the downsides to smoking at the wrong times, mixing with tobacco, and drinking.

I would gradually let them smoke more as they grew older, but drinking would stick to special occasions only.

Weed would be one of their presents on their 16th, 17th and 18th birthdays. After that if they were still living at home I'd tell them they need to get a job. Being a stoner is fine, but if you're going to be a lazy stoner you do it in your own home

I would preferably grow their weed for them so they didn't have to deal with getting scammed, shorted, or any of that crap.

But yeah, I believe weed is a very positive thing for people to have in their lives, and I would like to think my kids would grow up to smoke it regularly. I would hope that they would limit drinking, and stick to the safe route though

-Matt

 

Im sorry, but from personal experience, you don't want to introduce drugs to your kids that young. i started doindg alot of bad shit at that age and at they age they will abuse the rules you set for them. Im lucky i got back on track, cause i would be fucked if kept on the same track i was on before

 

no smoking until they get to high school.
have to maintain at least a B- in all classes.
no smoking in the house, its called a porch. and if its winter, its called a jacket....

 

I know i'm only 15.

i wouldn't have a set age, just whenever i felt they were responsible enough.
i started smoking at 14, but i feel as though i was, and am responsible enough to keep it from affecting my grades, social life, anything, in a negative way. I don't want to sound arrogant but i don't think most 14 year are mature enough.

after i feel as if they have their shit together, i'd just ask for them not to do anything stupid, and be careful. i wouldn't encourage them to smoke, but i'd let them know the whole truth aswell.