what's a single old hippy woman to do?

My better half got me thinkin' the other day when he said maybe I should trade him in for a different model.

Supposing you WERE single and looking for a new guy? At our age? Well, I personally don't know any guys our age who don't have hep C, or HIV or post traumatic stress syndrome or cancer or, well, you add a few more. So, it looks like its a pretty safe be I ain't goin' shoppin' anymore.

Is this the fate of all single 40/50ish females in the hip culture?

 

Wow that's sad that all the guys you know are all plagued. Maybe you should relocate to somewhere that's not so full of fucked up people

 

Well, I ain't lookin'. But WHERE is that, may I ask? Oh, yea, and don't forget alcoholism and drug addiction....

 

Ha Ha ! Thats simple! Go for a younger model!


Bustramp

 

damned ..i guess i don't fit into the mold of old hippy ..ain't got any of the aformentioned diseases or alcoholism or drug addictions except for tobacco and coffee ..but then again i ain't single either

 

earthmother...your cup appears to be half empty...

 

I have a nice place with no druggies or drunks around me-I quit all that and got new playmates-I lost too many friends to substance and I wanted to keep on living- so-I am clean 5 years now and love it-If you want a vacation out west let me know-I'll pick ya up at the station-A week out in the woods and coast would do your head good-I'm heading up to Spokane tomorro for a few days to visit friends-I travel right up the Columbia Gorge-beautiful country-The weather is great now but winter is comin so nows the time to travel-The day before yesterday ny neighbor left his tub runnin-I called the city to turn off the water-I thought he was stoned on acid or something-he made no sense-They took him to the hospital-His sister came by and said he had died-cancer-I was the last person to talk to him-my floor is wet from the water but at least I'm alive!-So time for a road trip to celebrate living!-Your old man should think twice before pushing you away! good luck

 

Don't know girl - I cherish solitude - course then I like it when it's broken into too
Heheh

 

Hey man nice invite...think earthmother received the points. There's alot of us great guys around. I just end up meeting women in miserable relationships who don't want to get out them. Even if they did they have attitudes like poor ole earthmother. You know someone said the other day that well ...woman are like parking spaces. The good ones are usually taken and the rest are handicapped....ahhhh I'm not believin that myself but it did make me think a little about all the people who are in relationships that are miserable.

 

too many forget to Bless what Is - to give thanks and look for the opportunities to make life that which burns with a passion inside, a wondrous journey.
T'is sad.
And I do recognize the facetiousness with which the subject was broached - and yet the feelings that it should be and somehow can Be More than this..... and we search for Ways to go beyond into a deeper meaning and more vibrant life.
Possessing makes it disapate - trying to keep it unchanging, kills it...
Only the fool willing to dance over the cliff - and Doing so, recognizing that all is an adventure, can find the tastes of fullness that entering in the Being fully can bring. Without the thanks and Honoring of All - it just cannot Be
We are all Connected .... yet each must find their own individual way to drink fully of what is being offered.
Existence IS
what a wondrous opening ...
A Blessing that IS

Loving you all

Namaste

 

Some things we should have learned from our parents and others years ago- Like never sticking with someone for the money or the kids or just because he "needs you there"-There are so many women waiting on guys to get out of prison just so they can get beat up again!-Dumb-I used to live in Salem Oregon-thats where the prison is; and I used to meet soo many women sitting around for years waiting on some guy to get it right-what a waste of time-It's also a waste of time thinking that you can change a grown man into being that nice guy you met so many years ago-He is gone!-Been replaced by that thing over there passed out on the couch!-lol-go visit America- see the Grand Canyon or Yellowstone (while it;s still there) or go to the coast and talk to God-listen to the sound of waves breaking-He will listen- good luck

 

OK, so there are some non polluted old hippy guys out there. Good, so there is hope after 50! Personally tho, if, heaven forbid, I ever found myself in that position I do believe independence is the way to go. My old man is not replaceable (one of a kind) and I am already about as independant as most guys are willing to deal with. AND outspoken, AND opinionated. And I have 15 dogs.

So, now that I have the guys attention, What's that all about anyhow? Lots of men seem to WANT a strong and capable woman who has ambition and can take care of herself, but once they have her they can't handle it. I know I'm walking in scary territory here... Too many generalizations. That sounded too sexist.
Really, tho, I have seen this happen many times...........

 

Could it be that men are insecure - generalities don't work - especially for those Walking the talk.

 

What would a "single 40/50ish females in the hip culture" do to look for a new guy? Scanning around these forums and looking at the percent of male responses to this thread, and from my own experience, I think the reverse is the problem. There are few, if any, "single 40/50ish females in the hip culture". And if there are any, they keep well hidden.

I fully agree with the sage from N.Y., "I cherish solitude - course then I like it when it's broken into too". But after being alone for 20 years since my divorce, I've pretty much given up on having a chance to share my solitude. But it sure would make life here at the farm even better if I could.

" What's that all about anyhow?" Men (including me) are always partially boys, and as boys we often want things(or women) that aren't right for us and in some cases are downright bad for us. And even though I'm niether qualified nor authorized to speak for women, I'd bet they have a similar problem. As far as "once they have her they can't handle it", yep, I've seen that (and a few other) typical relationship mistakes, and a couple things always come to mind. How or Why did the strong, capable women wind up with a guy who was going to try to "handle" her ...and... Why or How-in-the-hell does a guy think he can (or should) "handle" that kind of women?

But, that's just this old hippie's opinion.

Peace,
poor_old_dad

 

Well, I suppose what is going on is the olderish hippy women have already been thru all the dumb shit they can stomach and they are NOT out there looking for a man. I know lots who have given up, except for a fling every now and again... I definately don't mean to be insulting! I have always sought out man friends as opposed to women. They are easier to hang with. Just not so easy to live with on a day to day basis...

 

I with ya again brother...the last three women that I was attracted to ended up having husband & boyfriends. They sure flirted hard and I even made a date with two of them before they mentioned the boyfriends. All three are just miserable and were just ready to go play.. It does baffle me why they stay.. Nice guys will not finish last in THE BIG PICTURE...We are just learning patience, eh ?

 

Most of those with some years on them and having been exposed to relationships both personally and vicariously - do not 'seek relationships - we enjoy friendships - and allow what may be to develope as it will.
Seeking for a relationship kind of puts expectations, assumptions, and unneeded pressure on the whole situation.

 

I sure would'nt want to try and find someone out there, being the bitch I am it would be near immpossible to find one that wouldn't smack me around. Then I'd have to shoot em.
Em is on target about already gone throgh all the BS we want to go through, if that is women's lot in life it is NOT in Balance with the Universe. Perhaps that's what needs changing, is the so called womens role in life. We still are the low one on the totem pole and are patroniized like children in beliving that that's the way things should be.

It wasn't like that always. There was a time when women were the leaders and men the workers. Most men don't respect women. They placiate us so we will do their bidding. A ton of men would be fine if they never heard their women speak again, do their bidding, yes, speak or talk about feeling, ForGetIt.. It's always been duble standards when it comes right down to it.

Wolfie is on also. Just let it happen, don't go out lookin' for it, if it is meant to be it will be. When your a lookin' you usally cant see very well and 9 outta 10 times ya 'see' the wrong one just from the want of it to happen.

My hubbys shoes would be immpossible to fill. I would probably just stay single rather then trying to break in another one. My mother never remarried after my father died in 75'. I think she felt the same way.

Life is a wild and crazy ride. Hold on and injoy it while you can. Don't be a wall flower, Git up n Dance.

 

I find it really sad that people constantly talk division, role fighting, instead of Walking in Wholeness - which never did try to assign roles or be controlled by anything other than Self - which is beyond emotions - beyond feelings beyond logic beyond-.... - there sure is a difference in breaking in someone and just encouraging them to Be all they can Be.
Shit I'm probably wasting my energy here - words never do too well trying to explain to those who do not already have a clue - and those who do - are already in the Know.
We are here to learn and grow - not to be controlled by our feelings - (not to ignore them either), or controlled by another.
We are our own creators and no excuse can change the Fact that what we live is our choice- we respond - are responsible for what we do with what we are given.
We are owed nothing and deserve nothing - so what will you make of this opportunity - - time to stop wasting time and energy on excuses and Be that Being that shines so bright - Be
Be the change you want to See.
Only by Doing does anything get done....
So what are we going to blame today for not Being what we Know we can Be - measuring up to what we Know within our Being is the I Am that really already exists out of time and space - out of this linear temporary abode. Seems like the most chosen one to blame is the one we live with - aye ?
Yeah we fall - most often we do not succeed as we might wish, but we get up having learned and try again to Become More - to Grow Beyond what was.

And I guess we're all really doing in our own way - what we do with our opportunities determines the lessons that we draw to ourselves by that choosing. So how we Grow is our own choice.
And that my friends that is up to you and me as individuals - another can never make us who we are.

Blessings Be with all

Namaste (my spirit bows to your spirit)

 

Good stuff there OLDWOLF---The other day my neighbor in this duplex had the water running in the tub for hours-It came under the wall and flooded part of my place as well as the people on the other side-He was home but was not making any sense-I had to call the fire.dept. as it was a holiday and no plumbers would come shut it off or fix it-They sent a guy-he couldn;t get in so he turned off half the block-the paramedics came broke in and my neighbor was layin in about a foot of water in the living room-They took him in and he died the next day-He had massive cancer and it killed him-He was a nice guy-57 and it was a shock-he went quick-no warning-point being that in the last 6 years I have lost alot of friends and family and it has always been out of the blue-no long term illness or hospitalization thing-just boom-here today-gone tommorro-we need to be happy in the time we have-not worry about the small stuff or spend time trying to change people-help people but only with a hand up not out-thats not help-our time here is limited and I don't know whats waiting on the other side so I will do my best to be a good person while I am here on this side-Call it karma but I do believe there is a payback good or bad for the way we live here and now-the clock is ticking-