Hi everyone. When my dad got a job transfer I moved as a senior and met this girl by sitting next to her in physics for about 3 weeks. I then moved back to my old school and moved back up here at the end of senior year. I ran into her about 2-3 times and finally decided to ask her for her number. We went out about 3-4 times during the summer but it didn't feel all that right at the time. Well anyway, I live in a town where I commute to the local college, and she contacted me around January. We started talking on and off for about two months before she came home for spring break. While she was here that week we went out 5 times, and it seems like we really hit it off; I really like her. She went back to her school, which is an hour away, and we both decided that we would just continue what we had when the semester ended. I was fine with that because I didn't want to jump into a semi long-distance relationship after 5 dates. We're still talking and I'm going to make an effort to see her hopefully 2 times before the semester ends (5-6 more weeks) and then she'll be back up here for the summer. Now, when she comes back up here for the summer, how many times should I take her out before I ask her to make it official ( for her to be my girlfriend) and how should I do it?? I was thinking about 2-3 dates but I don't know how to do it. Do I just say "will you be my girlfriend?" or what... I don't have much experience with this, but I have never felt this way about anyone really.. I have my doubts if she likes me because I can't seem to wrap my fingers around why someone like her would actually like someone such as myself. ...but then again if she didn't why would she actually go out with me 5 times haha But how should I do it and when? Also what if she says no? Do I try again?
Give up the idea of latching onto someone. This may sound hokey but just be in the present with them. Let it happen, don't try to get it all wrapped up in a neat little package.
Kinda agree with Moondaddy here with an addendum. There is no magical date number where you ask the other to go steady. It's really about how you feel with the person at that time and whether or not you think you guys can have a healthy, functional relationship. If you feel this way at some point, have a talk with her. Tell her how you feel about her and that you'd love it if you were exclusive with each other.
