Alright, I'm looking for some opinions on my next move. The lease on the place I'm staying in is up in 5 days, and I don't know where I'm going yet. 5 days.. Maybe more opinions and insight is what I need. Let me go over my options that I have so far. - Stay in florida, since I'm already here. The positives are laid back environment, good weather, good herbs, and friendly people. The main negative is the lack of jobs. I have a college degree now, but as long as I stay here I'll probably be fixing cars. Which I enjoy a lot, but also dislike a lot and its a big reason why I went to college in the first place. I have two roommate options here for right now. 1. Room with a 35 year old woman who responded to an ad I placed. She seems really nice and open minded, but she only makes $11/hour and can't afford the deposit up front. And she's only had her job for 6 weeks or something. She also has a son and drama stemming from that and her ex-husband. But she vibes me as a good person in a bad situation. So maybe rooming with her would give her the stability she needs to get her shit together. But then again, I need to get my shit together too and can't really be rescuing people. She also has two cats. I have an 80 lb weimaraner and have no idea what would happen there. 2. Room with a 40+ year old wife beater from morocco. I've known him for 4 years, he and his ex wife own a local shop. I mean, hes legit as far as finances go, and I don't think he would even get loud with me since I'm just as big as him. He's not religious at all, but the whole cultural treating women like shit exists. He's an alcoholic and just overall buzz fiend too as far as I know. I worked next to him for awhile and he basically pounds beers at work all day. But I would have my own room and bathroom on opposite end of the house from him, a fenced in yard for my dog, a pool table, 65" big screen, and hes a really good cook apparently. And the biggest plus is there would be no lease, so I could just dip whenever. I would probably save up enough money to properly move out of state, and then just leave. - Just straight up sell my furniture, pack shit into my car, and drive out west to california which has been my dream since I was 14. Another option would be colorado. But basically I have a little over a grand, and it would probably get pretty tough for awhile. I can make good money anywhere that has cars.. but the problem is I can't haul my tools and bigass box out there right away. So I would probably scope out different areas, sleep in my car, hotels, or peoples houses, work some basic jobs, establish myself, and come back east for the rest of my shit. - Go back home to northern virginia, where I have friends I could move in with, and there is a huge economy with tons of jobs. Lots of culture, shows, museums, people with diverse thinking. The problem with the last two options is it becomes almost impossible to take my dog. If you aren't a dog person you wouldn't understand my attachment to him, but hes very important to me. That dog is one of the few pure souls I have met in this life, and it would really be hard for me to say goodbye to him. I have a friend here who has a big house and yard with electric fence, and she loves dogs. She has been wanting him for awhile, she has several other dogs and trains them. And she really loves sebastian. I know he would be in probably a better situation than I can offer him right now. So I could probably leave him with her, or at the least leave him there until I found a place I could bring him wherever I was. One of my friends in virginia would let me keep him there, but he lives pretty far out from the city (dc), and the house is more of a party house than I like. Theres a lot of drinking and other stuff that goes on there, and I'm a pretty mellow person. I like to party sometimes and be social but always prefer my house to be more chill and harmonious. So I have a decent amount of options I guess, but none of them are really great. Ideally I would want to be in california. But I know nobody there, its expensive, and just seems like a risk. I could end up in a fucked up situation over there. Right now, I just don't feel like making a big change. But at the same time, no time is better to act than the present. So what would you do in this situation? Any other thoughts?
Virginia. I've always wanted to go and see a reenactment of the battle of Waynesboro or the battles at Saltville. :x
I think Virginia is probably the most practical option you would like most. If you can have someone watch your dog for long enough to get a plcae you can hopefully keep him. Although I tend to like moving around a lot, and have had good experiences just packing up and going where the wind takes me. California sounds groovy too. That's probably the option I'd go with, although your dog situation throws the obvious kinks into it. So like I said, Virginia sounds best to you for me, and If it was me I'd go to California. If that advice makes sense.
i say live with the moroccan guy until you save up enough money to go to california. keep your dog. even though he would be in a "better place" he would probably still be happier with you.
Thanks for all the quick replies, gives me more to think about. I have to go now but will check back again later. Thanks again
>_< I know, I know, but I like cheering on the actors. I'm not THAT nerdy. Honest! Wait, come back... >_<
I'm a big fan of the Virginia idea. It just seems like a cool place to be young... not wasting time around saving money for a Cali trip while you could be out there living life with your friends. Letting the dog go is up to you. I'd leave it with the girl.
None of the people in Florida seem good to live with. I'd head back to Virginia where you can live with friends and save money. In my opinion 1,000 isn't enough money to move to California with
i'd give the moroccan a chance, and if it doesn't work out, the other good options will still be available
to the moon, alice, to the moon! jk. go where your dreams tell you to go, and stear clear of where your spirit guides tell you to be cautious of. you can never trust human coerciveness, even though anxieties can sometimes loose us potential advantages too. my preference is always to err on the side of caution. a side the familiar isn't always on. that's why i'd think about my dreams too. you've got a car, and can afford gas for it to get you further west then you've ever been and have a wish to discouver and explore? i wouldn't even wait arround trying to sell crap, even without the car. you want to know what i HAVE done in that situation? more then once. put my pack on my back and my thumb out, that's what. with only what i could comfortably carry that was worth the weight of trying to. and as little of even that as possible. the rest i just left with the landlord, maybe they could use it or sell it or have fun with it or whatever. a shame they'd probably just throw it out, but hay, you've got a car, so you can take a lot of shit with you, at least as far as you can put gas in it to go. even then you'll likely have to part with some or most of it at some point, (the car too), unless you're one of those real super people persons who can always get another job before they go completely flat ass broke. something i've never been nor expected to be, but some people appearently really are that luckey. essentially i trust the unknown further then i'd ever trust anything human, individually or collectively. and the unknown has never done me wrong. it hasn't made me rich or famous. i've lived all my life without a hell of a lot, those are the tradeoffs. but i'd take that any day over having to live with a bunch of belligerant drunkin assholes or retarded family members. then again, i've never known 'family' all that much, other then just my parents themselves, i've only met some of mom's relatives a few times and as far as i know, none of my dad's, ever. i'm not saying mom's relatives aren't wonderful, the few i've met the few times i've met them. but other then one of her sisters who sends us a small gift every year, i just really don't all that well know any of them. i mean we've always lived half a continent or more away from any of them, so i've never really had a chance to really get to know any of them. just met a few of them a few times in my life and that's all. so i'm not claiming to be any kind of judge of that situation. but by the logic that family members are also, presumably, humans, and humans, being what they are, i'd definately consider the unknown the most attractive of THOSE options. unless of course, dreams and spirit guides were to suggest otherwise. =^^= .../\...
California is real expensive. You say you only have a grand or so. I would do Virginia, at least you have a support network there. Spend a few years there and then go to California. That's what I would do. Staying where you are does not sound like a good option if you cant use your degree.
Yeah true, everyone is right. Cali is really expensive and 1k isn't enough. I mean, I could probably go straight to humbolt county and rent a room cheap. But I'm more interested in something like san diego, la/orange county, or santa cruz. Fuck. And if I didnt have my dog I might do it, but really I should just forget about cali right now. My landlord said I could do a six month lease and he would let her make payments on the deposit..so I might just do that. If she fucks up I'll be making enough to kick her out and pay the whole rent until someone else can move in. But she also keeps talking my fucking ear off about her ex bf, ex husband, and son. I swear to god if this chick thinks I'm going to be her therapist or bf, she's sadly mistaken. The morrocan is becoming more and more questionable to me. Hes shady as fuck, I never really liked the guy because of that. And I would end up beating his ass if I saw him doing what he does to women. Maybe that would be fun though My friend in va offered me that room for 525 utilities included, and the room here is 575. Even working as a tech in virginia I'd make more money. Plus there are lots of jobs where I could actually use my degree. But what the fuck, I really dont feel like moving right now. Jeff said he would even come down on friday and help me move. I have really good friends there. But I mean maybe 6 months here would give me enough time to save 10-15 grand if the shops are busy and I bust my ass.. then go from there. I dunno, 4 days seems like a really short time to get all my shit together to go anywhere. But at the same time I am so fucking fed up of all the rednecks around here. Plus I told my stepdad to go fuck himself last night after he tried to act hard, and got kicked out of my sisters house. Even though I was ganged up on and attacked by all of them as usual. Its so lame that I moved here to live my own life, then they came too and seem to do whatever they can to fuck me up or criticize me. I really don't want to leave on a bad note, but it looks like thats going to be impossible. My real family is my dad, and hes in virginia. There is nothing for me here except a few good friends and a couple of my cousins. This is driving me crazy. Its like none of my options are what I want to be doing. At this point I may as well flip a fucking coin. Thanks for all the replies. I guess it comes down to me making a decision. And since the landlord just offered to work with us, I might just take that offer if she can work it out and sound confident about it. If not, looks like its back to virginia.
