Wondering what my cousin wants(warning, gay and sexual, pls don't hate)

This is my first official thread post so if i'm post in the wrong area please let me know the right area. Also, please don't hate me because the way i think. If i had the choice i'd chose not to like him sexually but i can't. I've tried already.

I'm a male, 19. My cousin is a male, 26. A couple months ago he found a collar and leash in my dresser because i told him he could barrow a pair of socks. I lied and said i was planing on getting a dog, which i knew he knew that i was bullshtting him. Later i just confessed when he cracked a joke about it, and than started talking about it.

I explained how i couldn't wait to have my own place so i can wear my collar and leash all day in my own place. He told me that i should just wear my collar and leash when i go over to his place since i can't at home. So i've been doing that.

And now i have a crush on him. And i'm wondering if he feels the same way. He encourages me to wear my collar when i'm staying the night at his house and i don't see why he would do that if he doesn't like it also.

Should i just flat out ask him if he's into me at all despite the risk of that ruining our friendship? or should i just keep things are where they are now?

And please don't hate on me, i've already tried other "sexual" related forums on the internet and everyones just hated on me and said that it was wrong. If you don't agree with me having a crush on my cousin than just stay out of conversation please.

 

so what's wrong with you two having a crush on each other? Relax there's nothing wrong with same sex attraction - you do have the choice to enojy another guy and there is nothing wrong with that if it's mutual.

Personally I would not be into the collar n lease business but everyone to their own and lots are I think.

Enjoy each other - you say you stay some nights at his place....... then indulge yourselves in whatever turns you both on.

Good luck

Simon :sunny:

 

Pal do writing/talking this from your own experience ?
Maybe more real will be with other guy that is not yr cousin

 

i think the issue was that the guy's his cousin, not that they're both male.


the reason incest is stigmatized is due to reproductive issues, and there can be no reproduction in this relationship. so i don't see any reason that it would be "wrong" to hook up with him. that said, most people would probably still find it pretty fucked up, so if you're going to go through with it you should definitely be prepared for that.

so what's the point of wearing a leash? does it just drag behind you on the ground or what?

 

Are you a furry?

 

lol, it's starting to look that way. Becoming one more and more everyday.

 

I kind of have a "master and slave" or "master and pet" type fetish i guess. Yeah i know people are going to think it's messed up. But i don't think we'd have an open relationship. Just a more than friendly one if that makes sense.

 

oh - well since they're both male I also can't see any problem with hooking up together. After all even with opposite sex cousins it's allowed with all but first cousin isn't it- and that's with possible reproduction.

Simon :sunny:

 

Even marriage between first cousins is allowed in 20 states. But it's true that the risk of birth defects goes up with first cousins. The increase is comparable to the increased risk of having a child if the mother is over 40. Some people are repulsed by the idea, while in some cultures it is very common.

To me, the correct response when someone says they are about to marry their first cousin is, "Congratulations!"

 

What do you know about your cousin's sexual preferences? Does he know about yours? Try talking to him about it and finding out what he likes. Good luck

 

Somebody else on this site used a quote from George Lopez "Don't hit on your family. That's just lazy."

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

what's wrong with going with a cousin? He may be into it.

Simon :sunny:

 

Well I mean if your cousin accepts your furryness and you guys will keep things under wraps, then do whatever feels right. Like I'minmyunderwear said, dipping into the family gene pool is only stigmatized for reproductive reasons.

 

You can impregnate your sister, but not your male cousin. Why should he stay away from family? Sure it might end badly but so can any friendship with any member of the family.

 

Ok im going to be flat out blunt (again) i dont no how it is over in the states, but im sure being with a first cousin is incest.

but anyhow, the male on male, slave/master/ owner/pet thing isnt a problem. the prob is his ur cousin, i dont no how u all roll where ur from, but for my (my personal opinion) my cousins are blood, we all came from the same people when we boil down to it, and damn my cousins are like my bros and sisters, and we all look alike... that would just gross me out.

but this isnt about me, and i dont want to offend, so all i will say is, find another man to crush on. it will only turn messy

 

Sorry, gotta disagree w/ Shizzle. My first encounter was with my first cousin. When this city boy was in the service, I was talking to a doctor from the farmlands. He said his first encounter was with a sheep as that's what was around on the farm. He added that city boys usually had a first with their same sex brother or cousin.
Guess he know what he was talking about.

 

yeah, agree; after all there's posts on here of brothers & sisters going together. So what's the big deal with a cousin, esp when both are male and there's no reproductive issues.

go for him, put on that collar and let him lead u - the OP was in 2011 so by now.............

Simon :sunny:

 

I say the hell with it, he's already been cool and open about you being a sub with your collar and leash... I'm sure he'd be cool and open to you expressing your sexual feelings,too. Let love be love.

 

Brothers and sisters are usually out of the question. It isn't accepted most anywhere in the world. Cousins is a greyer area. Not quite the taboo of brothers and sisters. That isn't to say that the families would openly accept the relationship. Family is a personal matter and attitudes must be weighed up and then the two have to decide if their relationship is worth the trouble it may bring.

Once you cross over into telling the cousin how you feel your relationship will probably change one way or the other. If he doesn't have the same feelings but is just giving you a place to be yourself because he cares about you then he may get uncomfortable and you may have to tone things down around him. If he feels the same way then you two have to work out whether or not your relationship is going to be more trouble than it's worth. Maybe not tell him how you feel right away but nudge him into talking about his sexuality feelings.

 

It is legal for Cousins to marry.