Wrong to cheat??? Says who?

Who said its wrong to cheat? Bible? Mom? Society??

The most well off people in this world are the ones who cheated, stole or raped the public one way or another.


So since that is out of the way. I am dating a chic for over a year and I have cheated on her multiple times with a coworker fuck buddy of mine. Its not a regular thing, but once a month or so it does happen. Sometimes it doesnt happen for months.
But I never, not once felt bad about it. Its purely sexual thing for me and when I feel I want to get it done to shift some chemicals in my brain a little I do it. Sex is great with either one of them. But lately I do feel more at home with my girlfriend. I keep telling myself that it might be moraly wrong, even since the fuck buddy has a boyfriend she cares about.

I dont know what excites me more, the sex or actually getting away with it.

Whats ever more exciting is that I have NO remorse about it at all.

Now before you get at me with stupid remarks how I will burn in hell and karma is a bitch. Save your breath, I am 30 and have been around the block to know Love is cruel and life is a bitch, so spare me please.
Unless you have some meaningful input on this matter, or care to share an experience that mimics mine with some light at the end, I rather not hear it.


Go at it!!

 

usually people dont cheat even if they an attraction to someone else because they love there significant other and dont want to hurt them. Does your girlfriend cheat on you too?

 

well recently i cheated twice on my boyfriend, with a guy i really dig. But i do feel guilty and have remorse coz i know how will everybody act if they find out. I`m definitely going to look like a heartless bitch, but whatever. that`s why nobody is going to find out

 

Well she loves me, but I dont love her. I care about her but my heart has no feelings at all. I am still frozen from my 9 year prior love relationship and couldn't care less about love and feeling and all that goofy teenage shit. I do treat her very well, buy her gifts and take her out to very nice places.
So as far as the relationship goes, it is very functional. But I just dont have any remorse flirting or hooking up with other girls.

I am wondering what this will evolve into as times goes by.

 

well maybe you should tell her you dont love her. she can maybe find someone who can love her back, ya know?

 

But why? I dont see anything wrong with this arrangement. She knows I dont believe in love. And we dont mention love. I dont know if she is glad to have me or just doesnt want to loose me. I feel bad for her not hearing me say I love her. But in all fairness, no woman in time will ever hear that from me. I just dont look at women as a flower of god....its a just another human, ready for consumtion.

 

It's wrong to cheat because it (usually) really hurts the person that you cheat on. Doing things that hurts others is wrong, a basically a real shit thing to do.

If you don't love your girlfriend then let her go and find someone who does. Do you tell her that you love her.

 

im sorta in the same boat as your girlfriend, i love my best friend very much but he only loves people in one way. we still hang out and do stuff together but i still have him in my life because he is a great person and has helped me get through some bad shit. It would be much easier for me to stop seeing him if he doesnt want to see me and would tell me to stop coming around. but he doesnt. he enjoys my friendship.

i hope your girlfriend finds someone that loves her and cares about her in the way she loves you.

 

I dont tell her I love her. I dont lie about it. I like her an all, but no I dont love her. I do everything a guy would do if he did love her. And I dont cheat on regular basis. Its once in a blue moon.

I just dont see whats wrong doing things for my own benefit. I also cannt see how people stay faithfull to one person after a long period of time. Sex gets so boring after a few years. And trust me, I am very open and have endulged in exploring all sorts of outlets and new things.

 

once in a blue moon is not once a month. i understand why she is with you, maybe because she is comfortable, loves you, feels good when your around, but it so unhealthy. I dont know her but it cant be good for her. There are people like you out there, so why dont you meet a girl who believes in the same type of believe-ing thing you do? Why have someone into your beliefe who doesnt believe the same thing? dont you think she would love to be with someone who loves he?r

 

"dont cheat" is not a precept, not a rule
the god doesnt exist, so dont be afraid of the hell) society can accuse you but not too much and i dont think that would bother you anyway

i personally dont cheat just because i feel bad about it
i tend to care about ppl and love them
i would hate myself for hurting someone
another important thing is that i just dont need this, all i need my love gives me
in general my major life rule is to stay PURE and for me - i repeat- FOR ME- cheating is out of this notion

moreover i have nothing against if ppl cheat at each other's permission....but when one of the two does it secretly i feel pity on the cheating person....i just cant help it

if ya feel like cheating, nobody can change it or influence ya. do if ya like. millions of ppl cheat and feel fine
i just keep believing causing trouble or pain to others will not bring any good

pain comes back to ya

 

I personally agree with Veroness, this sounds to be very unhealthy for her. But if it works for you then thats fine, it's your relationship. HOWEVER, I do think that she has every right to know, you putting her at risk for STD's. Considering your fuck buddy has no problem cheating on her boyfriend with you chances are she has no problem fucking other people other then you and her boyfriend. If you don't feel bad about it thats cool, but then let her know what your doing so she can either leave if she wants too or have some fun of her own.

 

traxadron, disillusionment is one of the worst things ever
i'm sorry ya've given up

hope you'll learn to give love and not just take
taking means you'll have to give back soon...and not always volantarily(

 

I agree. But we are very compatible sex wise. And are very open in bed, thats why it works so well.
I dont want to hurt her in a long run. But relationships are a pain one way or another. I even got mad at her for falling in love with me. We are not 13 for gods sake.

Either way, I was hoping someone would give me a forecast of things to happen in my life as far as I go and how I will evolve.

But thanks for any input folks.

 

yea life is cruel...
Why not find someone who agrees to a non monogamous relationship? I guess that would not be as much fun...

 

Dear neponiatka....Privetiki!!

I agree. But I dont want to love, neither I want to be loved. Just be in a relationship and do what normal couples do.
She would never have fun of her own, as she is very (Russian) and traditional. Me on the other hand, im a freak, I know it. I lost my mind a few years back and couldnt care less if I ever get it back.

I guess in the end I will have to break up with her and explain that core/love of relationship is not important to me.
Im a rotten person I know it. And I was not like it before.

Fuck it!

Thanks people!

 

I hope everything works out for you

 

I agree with YoMama. If you need more than one sexual partner, find someone who will share that lifestyle with you. The fastest way to settle the issue of if it is right or wrong to cheat is to tell the person you've cheated on that you've been fucking somebody else...if the end result is that person is now hurt or even scarred, isn't it obvious at that point that it was wrong.

Basically, be honest first, not saying "I love you" is not the same as saying "I intend to fuck other people and I think you should know" so it does not justify cheating.

It doesn't mean your going to hell either, but it does speak about your character. Let's cut the shit here though, cheating is not cool.

 

Nope, you're only rotten if you deceive your significant other and scar him/her by cheating and causing them to have future relationship difficulties as direct result of your actions.

 

good luck with your lifestyle and i hope your girlfriend finds someone who loves her back