My x b/f cheated on me back in Jan. I dumped his ass as soon as I found out. Ever since then he's been telling me how much he loves me and all that shit. I went out to CO and slept with him. I told him that I didn't want anything more than the sex. I know it's wrong, but I was in need of sex at the time. He is continuing to tell me how much he loves me and how much it hurts him because we're not together. I keep telling him the reason we're not together is because he decided it was a great idea to cheat on me for 6 months straight with an x-friend of mine. It makes him cry every time I say that. He tells me all the time how he wishes he could change what he did. Well, he asked me to marry him. He saved up money to buy a ring and everything. I said no and I told him that I loved the old him prior to him cheating on me. I told him that I couldn't trust him and how could a marry someone that I can't trust? He is a good friend of mine. I love being his friend. My question is, should I continue to be his friend because it seems as if he can't get over me. Is he saying this shit to just get me back and cheat on me again? Is it possible to look pass the whole cheating situation and accept him with a new slate? I'm just really lost on how I feel about him. As of now I only feel him as a friend, but I do love the old him. The old him went away about a year ago. Also, how do I make him stop telling me how much he loves me and how he wants to marry me? I'm so lost... peace + love
I don't know if I can help you out, but this is what I would do about my ex: End it permenantly. No contact, nothing. But that's just me... Peace and love
I'd take him at his word, he wants you to marry him. I doubt he plans to cheat on you, but I also question his ability to resist temptation. Take pity on the guy and cut all contact with him. No friends with benifits. No just friends. Stay away from him and let him get on with his life. (You too, get on with yours.) Its not fair to either of you to keep the possibility of a close relationship in front of him. Stop socializing with him.
Move on and get over it. There are millions of other people out there who are not users or players. Stop wasting your time with anyone who does not treat you with any respect. What your trying to do is put petals back on a Rose.
Stop having sex with him. Stop all contact if you don't want him to keep on as he is. He'll eventually get the picture, maybe then you can become friends again. If you don't think you'll trust him, starting a relationship will be pointless as you'll always have that between the two of you.
Well it doesn't really matter if he is being sincere or not because you will never believe what he says even if he is honest. If you were married with children or something it might be worth trying to work through but IMO in this case it wouldn't be worth it. It is a lot of strain dealing with not trusting someone completely. As for how you end the marriage talk etc. Quit sleeping with him, OBVIOUSLY. Any time he brings it up, just go off. He will get the picture. If not just tell him it stops or you won't be around him at all. If it is fairly easy to just break off contact, I would probably do that.
Sounds like he is doing all this to get back with you. That isnt a bad thing. Maybe he wont cheat again. The question is, do you want him back? If not then cut him off.
you have to ask yourself do you want to stop all contact with him. i,m 34 know a little about relationships not loads,but i would just see him occasionally see how keen he really is and take 1 step at a time (very slowly). If he really means it then whatever you do and i think that you might want to take some anger out on him he will still be there, but please ask yourself would you be better or worse off without him. that decision is yours alone and noboby else,es
How can he be such a good friend if you can't trust him? Is it possible that you maintain a friendship with him to hear how much he still loves you? Nothing better to mend a broken heart than to watch the person who broke it grovel at your feet. Just a suggesstion, and nothing more.... My ex husband used to beg me to come home. He bought a house that he thought I would love, and decorated it to my taste.....all it did was make me distance myself further. I didn't want to hear a bunch of BS about how sorry he was or how much he still loved me. I ended a 15+ year friendship/marriage, and have minimal contact with him which is sad because we have a wonderful son. However it was harming our child more by trying to be friends. Unless you want to be more than friends you may want to back off because it is unfair to both of you when he is confessing love and you are saying "I dont trust you, let's be friends"
if he really loved you he would have never cheated on you. i have never cheated on any of my girlfriends throughout my life and i never will. i tried to cheat on the one i have now just to see if i could do it and believe me i had plenty of opportunities but i just couldnt bring myself to do it. i love her and i kno this because i cant even look at another girl and think about havign sex with her anymore. i have one and only one for the rest of my life. jdo what you think is best. nobody can give you advice because nobody knows how you feel or how he feels for that matter. if you need advice you have to talk to him about it. best of luck to you in all your future talks with him(if there are any)
