Yelling at Kids in Public.

For those of you with kids: are you afraid to yell at your kids in public? I know so many who are.

 

Why yell at your kids in public?

Is it because you absolutely want to look like an idiot?

 

Well, I think that yelling at kids any time shows that the adult has lost control of themselves. If they do it in public, they probably do it at home also. Yelling is not good communication.

 

Some kids bring their parents to do it I was one of them, when I look back I have the greatest respect for my mum. She didn't like to yell but sometimes we (me and my brother) were just behaving horribly in public and would not stop. I've seen it often enough since then and sometimes you see that although they are yelling/coming off strong to their kids, you can also see the embarresment of having to resort to that I sympathize with the mother a lot of the time instead of with the kid.

 

I absolutely hate when people yell at kids, in public or otherwise. Nothing productive comes of it. If anything it only makes the situation worse.

 

I see people yelling at kids almost on a daily basis (and sometimes using foul language on top of that) and it makes me want to grab a baseball bat.

Same thing when little kids are screaming for hours in supermarkets and the parents act is if this was normal.

Annoys the living shit out of me. And they don't seem so embarrassed to me.

 

Well, I live somewhere different after all. Not that what you describe is absent here! But most of the time a child is out of control and screaming non stop their parent(s) don't act as if it is normal in my experience. They wish they could handle it but they can't and the shame is clearly visible.

 

Actually, the best thing to do in the case of a public fit, is ignore it.

 

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Before I had kids, to hear one crying or being loud in a cafe or elsewhere pissed me off. After I had kids, I began to understand that kids don't care much about location and crying. Social awareness is not there yet. If mine began to cry in public, I just took them outside until they calmed down. Now when I hear an upset child, I just empathize with the parent AND the child. Sometimes I have gone up to the child and said something like--"hey little one--what's the matter?". The appearance of a stranger talking to the little one seems to immediately peak their interest and stop the crying. If done with a smile, the parents have seemed gratefull.

Edit= I'm talking about infants and not kids older than 2 or so.

 

I disagree. While that may work with some kids, others will just keep on screaming and what not. At home is one thing, but in public you have other people to consider. Sometimes yelling at a kid is the only way to get their attention shirt of whooping their ass

My dad never yelled. But he would have no problem with "putting his foot up my ass" no matter how public the setting was. Times change I guess.

 

Well, you also remove them from the situation. In my experience, leaving the cart at the customer service desk, then going out to the car for a minute does wonders.

And yeah, back in the day we didn't dare act up in public. My parents didn't care who was around. We'd be getting our asses beat.

 

Yeah. I always found that if one was carrying on, that there were interesting objects for them to see outside of any place we were. Just--" ooo--what's that? Look at that," stopped them immediately and got their interest toward looking at something I pointed out and caused them to forget what was bothering them. The little ones have short attention spans, so just direct their attention away from themselves. Always worked for me.

 

Lmaoooooo!

 

You're right on there. Change of scenery and paying no attention to the fit, is almost always the answer.

 

that does work and so does this phrase....Honey, look, Momma get you a treat......works like a charm

 

Lol, you're much more nice than I am! They know this mama doesn't give treats unless they're behaving perfectly.

I very rarely have a problem with mine or my day care kiddos though. If one of them does have a melt down, it's usually because they're tired or over simulated. I run a really loving, but structured environment. The littles thrive on that.

 

I was eating lunch yesterday and a young boy around 2 years old came in with his Grandma to get carry out. When they got their food and headed for the door he threw a fit because he wanted to eat there. I thought for sure by the fit he was throwing that this was going to be bad but she just knelt down beside him, explained what was going on and he stop fussing and walked out the door with her. He turned around and told everybody good bye as he was walking out the door. She could have yelled at him but she use the appropriate action.

 

when i see that kinda shit, it tells me everything i need to know about someone.

how you treat your kids, family, pets... other people in general, particularly when one thinks no one else is "watching"......
all i try to do is pay attention to the details.

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